Raeinthesunshine

Thanks for the reply. The break up wasn't about the move at all. The relationship itself broke down, there was infidelity and there was a lot of trauma to put it in short. I did feel the pressure of moving and I did think it was all the hype around the move from the years of talk from my family. I have to say the funny thing is I spoke to doctors who had moved out here and stayed and went home and the unanimous opinion was that it was a better life for us medics and that none regretted the move and only moved back to uk for family reasons. So imagine the outrage and shock when I didn't find that to be the case at all. When I got back in touch with some doctors that I spoke with again since the move about the sentiments and impressions I have of the clinical training only did they start admitting to finding similar faults. But none ever said anything negative about the training or standards when I was still back home and making my enquiries. Alas, it's not just a plane ride back. Doctors training is something you have to plan and apply for and it's completely out of sync with the timeline for Australian doctors training and requirements are different. Not a lot of the checkbox exercises are transferable between one country and the next so I will really need to commit to one place and finish off my training for fear of risking being neither here nor there and prolonging the time I'm on the hamster wheel for.

Hi there, I've only been in Melbourne for about two months. Came out from the Midlands. It's about complicated because I have only been in UK for the past ten years although that was for my formative adult years and finishing Med school and working as a new doctor. Prior to that was born and raised in Asia however I identify far more with the U.K. Than I do with Asia. troubke is family gradually moved out to Melbourne whilst I was away in uk including the extended family. I have always visited for Easter or xmas or whenever I get annual leave as a doctor (which was pleasant but I understand that's the holidays and not reflective of living life) and the constant talk about how things are better over here in Oz and "lifestyle" made me think I should move out here. Initially I had a partner in UK who didn't want to move which made things clear cut to stay in the uk but then we had a traumatic break up in February this year which kind of pushed me towards moving out here plus the whole brexit uncertainty and the nhs junior doctors contract issues, I came out to Melbourne where my family are. I have to say I have not started liking Melbourne or Australia at all since being here. The idea that I have emigrated for good makes me so worried I've made a big mistake. In fact I get so angry and upset with the little things that they lack like flat architecture, boring suburbs that look like they just put on yesterday, **** driving, food that doesn't agree with me (this is surprising given how I follow master chef Australia and Melbourne is always hailed as the food capital and apart from the fine dining restaurants the normal everyday food is just grating for me compared to what's back home in UK), renting is expensive and inconvenient- what the hell with the inspection Windows and the blasé attitudes of realtors, internet speed is slower and much more expensive, mobile contracts are also a lot more expensive, the lack of grocery variety ( I miss tesco and the other grocery chains we have back home and M&S and the ease of having deliveries at a convenient time and cheap prices), having Argos and Amazon and stuff like that with all the goods I want and need at a click and at my door the next day, the feeling of no culture and isolation geographically........ more importantly at work I feel the clinical standards are lesser than in uk and the equivalent grade doctors here are less well rounded or experienced etc. Overall it's been a nightmare because family haven't exactly been supportive with my transition and chastise me for being difficult and to accept that "this is Australia so stop talking about the uk or go back". Making things worse I'm still recovering from haunting memories off my ex and his famous words that Australia is overrated when he refused to move and how knowing me he thinks I would be better suited in uk and Europe and that our training standards are better (he's a medic too)! I am already wondering if I am nitpicking and being "difficult" as my family say I am with my "first world problems" and that its just teething issues OR that it's actually a gut instinct instead that's telling me I'm not suited here and I should move back to the uk and cut my losses; but then I'm aLeo wondering if it's too soon and how foolish it would look and certainly I can't go back to the Midlands where the bad memories with my ex and his family are and if this is just the rose tinted glasses talking! I would really appreciate some advice/shared experience and if there are any uk doctors on here who actually moved out and even stayed for training etc to give some advice too would be dearly appreciated! sorry if this is too long for a post- first timer! Looking forward to some responses.