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Hi Lebourvellec, Thank you for your advice ,I am getting my head around all the comments and making notes , I don't feel so much in the dark now ,and it certainly wont be as easy as he thinks it will be. Stress and Anxiety are both part of his Aspergers ,and looking at what he will need to do to be with this lady is going to be Very stressful .More than anything I want him to be happy like any mum would, and I do believe they think a lot of each other when they chat on line ,but this is one hell of a step from chats every night to life changing plans for both of them, I just hope they both take note of what has been said on this forum. If they both insist on going ahead after that there is nothing I can do except support him.

Chillers hi ,And thank you for your sound advice , I have asked him to look at all the replies I have had digest them ,some of them he wont be happy , but people have taken time out to read my question and reply very kindly, so he should take note as I am doing.

Thank you for your advice ,I hope to be a little wiser after Thursday .

This is my question it would be far easier for her to come over to the uk and then take it from there .

I am meeting her on Skype this week so hope to find out whats going on its all very worrying im not sure which web site i think another friend on facebook introduced the two of them .

Hi Pat thank you for getting back, my son has sent small gifts to her which she has received so he has an address but I will make a note of things to ask him face to face on Thursday he lives 35 miles away from me and neither of us drive. Thanks again x

Thank you so much for your advise Lady Rainicorn you are so right, and I hope with all my heart that it works out for both of them , he has a return ticket and a date to come back to the uk but by then it looks as if they will be married and then hopes to go back if allowed later in the year to be with her.

I don't live with my son, and yes he has kept things from me as most sons do if they don't want to worry their parents . I knew nothing about this issue until December .Trust me this is Not A Wind up as you say, I have far better things to do than wind people up .

Hi, I am going to speak to her for the first time on Skype this Thursday .

Hi, Thank you for your reply, I am trying to talk to him ,I did say just go on holiday get to know if you like each other after spending 3 weeks together full time, and take it from there, but no they want to marry the week after he arrives , love gone crazy ? .

Hi Blossom, Thanks for your reply, more than anything I would love this to work out for him, like any mum I just want him to be happy nothing else, and if it doesn't work out I will sell his organs for giving me so much grief lol .

I am not able to travel that far as I am disabled ,I am also wondering if there is an ulterior motive from the woman how do I check this out, I just think he is heading for a fall. Thank you for your help .

Please could anyone advise I am so worried, my son who lives in uk is 38 has fallen for a woman who is Australian they have been getting to know each other via Skype and chat for around 6 months, and have fallen in love, she is working and rents a house, she has invited him over to stay with her for a holiday in April ,he has bought the plane ticket with his savings and is staying for 3 weeks. I have just been informed that they plan to Marry in the time he is over there on holiday. They both seem to think it will be easy for him to emigrate later on in the year ,she has said she will support him, my son is unemployed has no skills and very little money he also has Aspergers Syndrome. She is booking a wedding venue buying a Dress, What is going on Please advise me im not sure what to do, I dont want him getting in trouble or getting his heart broken ,I have looked on this website and it looks so difficult to be allowed to live in Australia.