Tbinozz

How awful for you / that is sun a difficult situation. I hope you find some resolution. Thanks for sharing your story.

It's so true. It's even held me back from friendships and really getting the most out of them. Strange because the vast majority of my mates are in Oz not the UK

We have had to work through that. I've applied for jobs but been unsuccessful sadly

Only 6.

I've buried my head in the sand for years!! I'm very good at it!

I keep looking for the right answer but can't seem to find it Moved to Sydney 16 years ago after meeting hubby in UK. Decided to come to Oz when he ran out of time on his visa and 16 years on we are still here. I've never felt completely at home here but then again I've always thought I might go back so haven't radially allowed myself to feel completely at home. We have a home, I have a good job and a lovely child. A year ago in a trip home I had a big soul searching session and decided I needed to go back to the UK to be closer to my small family (mum, dad, brother). Thought I would live in the country in a big house, have a super simple community and a great well paid job. Complete fairy tale!!!! Convinced hubby to give it a go and he agreed to try it for a couple of years. After having his visa refused for failing to meet the ridiculous financial requirements we are looking to apply again. But I'm not sure it's right for our family. i still have the longing to be home (I want to find out if I can ever get rid of the heartache for family), but I am taking off the rose tinted glasses now. We will both need to get jobs (and it took me a year to find the one here), take a big salary cut each when we eventually find a job, live in a smaller place further out, have a big commute, see less of our child and incur a big moving expense. hubby says it's unlikely he will want to stay longer than a couple of years if that, but has also said "you never know". Moving is my call and I am torn in two. The rational side says it's completely nuts and not worth it for 2 years (with a remote chance it could be more) But I have that homesick pull. Worried that my parents will die and I will regret not going back forever. But I guess something could happen to them anytime. anyone got any wise words? My head and heart are battling it out and no one is winning right now, but a decision has to be made. feeling miserable about it all!!!