I was with my partner for 4 years back in England, where we have both lived all our lives. I was relatively happy at home as i have a close family and was happy in my job.
My partner however, had travelled aus before and came home due to a broken leg - which meant he could no longer work and wasnt coming home because he wanted to. This is when we met.
To cut a long story short after 4 years, We decided to break up due to us both being young and not sure what we wanted and he moved to back Pertha few months later.
Shortly after he moved, it really began to sink in with me that it was final and he had gone.
We kept in touch regularly and before long, he asked me to come over. I booked a flight over to aus -which was a huge thing for me and came here 6 months later after quitting my job and selling everything. (I Booked a flight with a few stops off at differnt places so that if it didnt work out i wasnt stuck in Perth.)
Originally I came on a working holiday visa and for just a year.
I am now still in Perth nearly a year later, we are back together and in love, both permanent residents but I AM STRUGGLING so much to build a life over here FOR MYSELF. He however, is loving it, he came back here to meet friends that he met travelling and they now live here and intend to stay forever - so he has a very close group of friends that he has known for years! He has a great job that pays a fantastic wage. Hes also got into surfing. - which you can rarely do in the UK!! haha
I have been from job to job, cant settle, miss home, forever comparing Perth to England. I really do think its great here - weather is amazing, lifestyle is so laid back. BUT ITS NOT HOME.
I am due to go travelling in 2 weeks to complete the other stops on my flight so they dont go to waste... I have left it to the last minute because because I cant bare the thought of leaving him after coming over to be with him (didnt know it would work out).
So basically, after my travels (lasting only 3 weeks), I go back to england. I was planning on coming back to perth after the visit but now I am starting to wonder whether this is a good idea....My partner got into a lot of debt when we broke up as he couldnt face it and was out with friends drinking at all oportunities. There is talk of us both coming home in Decemeber to settle (he will have paid his debt off as hes on a great wage here and possibly even have some savings to go back to england with).
The problem is, he cant leave here due to this and if i stay im just constantly unhappy!!
Its not healthy for either of us.
DO I STAY IN ENGLAND WHEN I GO BACK?? (maybe keep a long distance relationship until december when he comes home??)
OR MAYBE AFTER A VISIT AND SOME TIME APART I MIGHT APPRECIATE LIVING IN AUS FOR THE TIME I HAVE LEFT HERE (till decemeber).
ANY advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.