Carly

He's a comedian in Melbourne so you can ask him if you like! Except he's shut down all his social media profiles and completely ran away since he's been discovered as a cheating, abusive ******* so might be a bit hard to contact him now, hence why I'm not going to bother involving him anymore in our lives. Thank you for the good information AnniS. I clearly don't want anything from him financially, I was just worried if I was doing the right thing not allowing my child to one day apply for an Aussie passport that's all. I showed all the death threats he sent me to the police and have photographic evidence of where he hit me, so they have it all on file, I'm just glad to be out of there now and safe. Thanks again guys.

Wow thanks SO much everyone for replying, I feel better already! I definitely won't name him then. I feel bad about not informing his family, but I met them all face to face and they essentially covered for him and his behaviour/abuse/cheating etc and lied to my face, so I think my baby will be better off without the entire family in their life. I fear for his little nephew as he shouldn't be around children ever. Thanks again for all your good wishes, it means a lot

Hello, this is my first post here and I've probably put it in COMPLETELY the wrong section, so apologies if that is the case. I just wondered if anyone can advise me as I'm very confused with the information I've researched so far. I arrived in Melbourne to live with and marry my Australian fiancée in October. I was there on the 3 month tourist visa and he was going to return to the UK with me after the wedding, or when we'd decided where we were going to make our future. Anyway it never went that far as he turned out to be a violent, narcissistic sociopathic beast and I've had a lucky escape not marrying him, however heartbroken I currently feel at having the last 2 years of my life wasted. Anyway, accidents happen and I'm currently expecting his baby in July. Not planned and it's not ideal, I'm still very torn, but such is life and I'm just glad to be away from such an abusive monster. My visa expired and I'm now back in London so will be having my baby here, however I've been advised not to name him on the birth certificate so he will have no rights over my child if I did enter Australia again as I'd need his written permission to then take his son/daughter out of the country again, is this correct? Also, I guess I can't make a claim for child support in that case as he won't be named legally as the father? This doesn't worry me, I have money and a home of my own to care for the baby, so aren't after any financial benefits from him, he only works 3 nights a week anyway as he's alcohol and drug dependant and is in massive debt, so I doubt he'd be able to provide anyway, but I don't care, I just want to be safe and raise the child alone with the help of my family in the UK. Hurts though that he's got away with all responsibility emotionally and financially Just thought I'd ask about the birth certificate and if by chance there's any loopholes, I feel selfish denying my child dual nationality if they are entitled and one day ever wanted to travel there, but at the same time it isn't worth it just to make a claim for child support, which he wouldn't honour anyway as he ran off with the teenager he was cheating on me with as soon as I became pregnant, just sent me a lot of abusive texts saying he wants nothing to do with it and to abort. I also feel his family should know, but maybe it's best to keep the whole lot out of it now. Sorry if I'm rambling, I'm just very upset, hormonal and confused right now. I really loved Australia despite these issues on my first trip though and hope one day to return, but never bump into that monster again! Thanks for reading, Carly.