sarahp77

thank you and I hope so

yes I am y u ask?

thanks to all for friendly advice and discussion I am just having one of those down days sorry and thank you to all

how old was yours when they made up there mind whether they wanted to go as my daughter is only 3 nearly 4. cant relocate either for quite a few years due to housing (long story)

thank you for advice I just do not think I will be able to cope. my ex is very controlling and far from mature (cant even try being mature about it) and I know he will "rub it in" for the rest of our childs life that he won and I lost!!! just thinking about it emotionally I am petrified of the next 14 years and how miserable and depressed I will be and I don't know how to deal with that for 14 years for our childs sake. I don't want our child to know that I am upset and depressed. I have no support here in the uk at all (only 1 friend who has no children and no family) im really scared that I wouldnt be able to cope.

hi all, im going through court process to allow me to take our daughter to Australia but I don't know how I will cope in uk if permission not granted has anyone been through this process?? and how did you cope?? any advice would be nice thanks

much appreciated and good point thank you

yes he is a benefit bum however he is no longer receiving benefits as he was found out he was committing fraud on the benefits system (not sure how exactly) so all has stopped until report has been checked. my job out there will be working evening shifts in a hotel. (my parents will be at my house to look after daughter while she is asleep)

thank you for the advice xx

of course I want to go back to Australia but if it wasn't in my childs best interests then I would stay in the uk

Very good questions and thank you The custody arrangements are through the courts every week for 5 hours this is in the interim of court hearings the father pays for nothing at the moment he doesn't have a job and not on jobseekers I pay all transport to and from the fathers house for visitation and all needs for our child (food, nappies, activities, transport etc incl during visitation I provide ex with all) if the situation was reversed I obviously would be devastated however if the other parent can prove it is better for the child (other than not having one parent) then I would agree as nothing is about me or the father anymore it is about our child.

I have my immediate family over there being mother, father and 2 brothers. in the uk I have no family in England all in Ireland. so I am completely isolated from anyone. unfortunately 2 friends neither of which have children (so am completely alone here) I would rather my child have family who want to see her than be raised wanting to know her family (both sides) however I also want her to feel wanted by her family and I hate to say the uk family (fathers side) do not really care about her. I have got a budget set out that I can arrange my ex to come to Australia once a year and this is a very reasonable offer ( so I believe) he has to pay for nothing I pay for flights accommodation and even food and activites while here!!! if he refuses to travel to aus annually then I have also budgeted that I can come back to uk every year or 2 keeping in mind I have to pay for 2 flights, accommodation, food, activities and travel considerably more money than him coming to Australia. I believe I am being extremely fair considering he has not got to do anything at all. also Skype, facebook, emails and telephone will be accessible whenever either ex or child wishes to contact each other. please correct me if that is wrong??

I have looked on some previous threads and trying to get up to date responses all from many years ago and I am unsure if anything has changed. I am on the waiting list to be transferred and they have said up to 8 years wait !!!

apologies to the hard working brits comment was not aimed at any of you by any means

agreed there are many people in Britain who are hard working and I respect every one of them. but unfortunately the people who live in my area and my exs area all all benefit bums (I am stuck in this accommodation for up to 8 years due to the council) so therefor feel Australia is another good reason for my child. so does anyone have any ADVICE on legal help regarding the courts and proceedings necessary??? sorry to all if sounding rude but like many have said I am here for advice not judgements