ryuichi

Just wanted to let you know I completely understand your feelings. It was also my worst life-changing experience - and I confess that I coped very badly and am ashamed of my weakness and self-pity! Reading all the warm and heartfelt comments is so reassuring. I know that everyone's situation is different but to communicate our feelings with caring people is such a comfort.

My heart goes out to you. I received similar news to yours just over four years ago. Take comfort from friends and accept any offers of support. Be proud that you have brought up a child with confidence, independance and a love of adventure. Let your tears flow because bottled up feelings can turn to anger.

I can only offer my deepest and heartfelt sympathy from one broken hearted mum to another. I can identify with every feeling you write about and more - having suffered bereavement in the past I would say that loosing a child through emigration has been worse because it's so hard to understand their choice to leave you. I realise I've offered no advice or words of wisdom- just want you to know that you are not the only one.