SunshineAndSmiles

Love the dr Phil analysis Good guess on my age - I'm early 30s and do think the social circle changes are age related which do make me think the same thing could happen wherever I am now I think about it. I do feel like I'm bumbling a bit which is out of character for me as I'm more of a planner. I do like Sydney, but hadn't until recently really thought that I might not live back in the UK again which does make me sad a bit when I think about it. I've been wanting to feel more settled here so would really like to buy a unit but Sydney is crazy expensive so I'm years away from being able to achieve that. Unless there is a property crash. Not that it's the only way to settle but it would make it harder to up and go. im not sure about a 5 year plan but you have made me think I should put some sort of time frame on it - maybe a year of really making the effort here. thabks for posting - you have given me some things to think about

I've been in Sydney now 7 years and just wanted others thoughts as I'm finding it harder recently. I'm not sure if this is homesickness or just life but it feels harder here now I have AU citizenship than when I was struggling to get sponsored. I never really planned to migrate here and I'm beginning to wonder if it's time to move back to the Uk. Although when I think about actually doing it, it scares me and feels so final. My first few years here were amazing but the last couple I have struggled. I've had job issues (resulting in money issues) and lots of friends moving states / settling down. I did have a great social life but recently I don't feel i have many close friends at all, just acquaintances and thinking ahead I've no idea who I will spend Christmas with. I've dated but not met anyone special and I really find it hard around public holidays / Christmas here. But then the idea of meeting someone here and never living back in the UK scares me! When I think about moving back though I know the life I left in the UK would not be the same and it would take a while to get back into a good job and I wonder if friends will have moved on too. I know I've drifted from my family too - it didn't help that I didn't make it back for a family wedding which caused some upset. But I wonder if I moved back it would be easier to rebuild those relationships than it is from afar. I'm confused as I loved it my first few years so it feels strange to not love it now. Also I never disliked the UK or was unhappy, I just came out on a working holiday visa, loved it and stayed without really thinking too much about it so never planning to migrate or stay this long. Is this homesickness? Or am I just thinking the grass is greener?