Australia Bound

Hi folks, I am due to arrive with my wife and kids in tow in Brisbane on the 12th Nov, and plan to stay with friends for a few weeks while sorting out a rental, however i am a bit worried that it will be getting close to Christmas and we might struggle to find something.

Any advice in this situation? Am i right to be worried

thanks

AB

Hi it is a quite a while since i was on this site and yours was the first thing I read. My husband and myself are Grandparents to two girls age 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 . The" little family" moved to Oz just over a year ago. NOW I want you to know I love my "little family" and save every penny can to come over to oz to see them. I spoke to my daughter in law before they moved and explained , now she became our new family member when she married my son ,she has her own very precious "family" and now that has been added to by having our grand children the" little family" is her own , and we as grandparents are so privileged to be part of the" little family" and are so grateful to them for letting us share in all their lives. I believe it would be unforgivable and very arrogant for my husband and I to Expect or demand anything from the "little family" because they are their own new unit and we have to put in as gently as we can our love and support for them all to have a wonderful life. That is not to say I break my heart as it is so far away and I am not in the best of health to travel..but you know what I CHOOSE to get on with it , be happy , positive and look at each day as a plus and Skype as a bonus. So I know I am blethering on but I feel so much for you you Choose what you think to be best for your wee family and good for you. stick together as a unit , you in-laws Chose what they wanted to do in their life so let them get on with it . I have told my daughter-in-law to adopt a Granny in oz and the children will have even more joy in their lives. well better stop now so be supportive of each other don't allow negativity to rock your together decisions and good luck in oz xoxoxo

Such kind words, very encouraging. Thank you.

Hi,

 

This a hard situation. No-one can tell you how to deal with it.

My mother made my life hell...She told me and my husband, " We may as well be dead, as I will never see you or my grandchildren ever again"

She didn't speak to me for 2 months as she found it to hard to understand. When she came around it was all about her. Never once considering what was best for us as a family. Always finding a negative in everything(my mum is a very positive person) .

For example she said one day, " You love the Lake District , so why are you leaving that for a desert and no longer be able to view beautiful scenery"

It was the way she dealt with the situation she was no longer controlling.

She also said she would never visit.

 

However, both my parents visited once and are planning to return in 2016, Although she has never admitted we have made the right move. ( My dad loves it)

I have since discovered , they planned to emigrate to Australia before they got married and never made it... regretted it since.

 

Please let her go through the different emotions, show your wife these comments explaining, a lot of us have gone through similar experiences.

 

good luck

 

janine

She sounds identical to my MIL, who has also said she'll never visit and also thought (very briefly i think) about emigrating many years ago. She was/is a very controlling figure in the whole family. As simple as it is to try and ignore the negativity, my wife has been indoctrinated with this all her life, which is why her "advice" is actually having an effect.

She was down again today..

What if you don't get jobs?

What if the kids don't settle?

What if you need to come back?

You'll not get the kids into the same school

You'll not get back on the property ladder

You'll have spent all your money for nothing

ad infinitum

I just wish they would see us for what we are, responsible adults who worked very hard to get to this point, and planned very carefully. I sometimes think she thinks we are arriving with suitcases and a few hundred quid!! Such is the lack of involvement she's had in our life, she has no idea.

thanks for replies folks, time for a sit down chat i think.

My mother in law, who has never took an active interest in ours or her grandchildrens lives is making our life hell with regards to our move.

As the move is approaching it seems she finds new and messed up ways to screw with our heads. She used to be supportive of the move and has now decided we are going to fail and it will all be a huge mistake.

It started a few months ago, when i was working abroad she came to visit practically every day to instil fear and doubt in my wife, which has largely worked, my wife is now struggling with anxiety and its affecting me as well now.

Now she has recruited her sister and a cousin and aunt we hardly see. They are now getting in touch with my wife telling her its a bad idea, we're making a mistake etc, etc.

All of this is hard enough without this constant passive aggressive emotional blackmail and we still have 6 weeks to go.

I would understand this behaviour if she was a model grandparent and was hurting because she was losing us, but she has barely took an interest in our kids in all these years, never even had them for an overnight.

Sorry i just need to get that off my chest, i am at the end of my rope with everybody telling us we are doomed to fail. We don't have much in the way of positive support at all apart from a few friends already in Australia.

AB

It is probably simply the case that a cheaper fare bucket is sold out (or does not have 4 seats available) on one of the flights...presumably SIN-BNE by the looks of it. In that case all flights in the itinerary will be bumped up to the more expensive fare bucket. If you are not having any luck online I'd go see a travel agent who can probably easily find the best days...a week seems a long time for a Singapore stopover so you can probably be a bit flexible on days!

thanks for all the replies folks, lots of helpful info.

Hi folks, we are flying one way to Brisbane on 4th November or thereabouts. I was thinking about laying over in Singapore for a weeks holiday, but it appears to almost double the flight cost

For a family of four

GLA-SIN - £2190

1 week layover

SIN-BRI - £2000

total £4190

GLA-SIN-BRI - £2600

Does this sound normal or am i missing something daft?

cheers

We actually had a bad experience on our validation trip, we had renewed passports and took along our old ones (with the electronic visa on them) but try as we might to explain this to the girl at the desk, she was having none of it, and told us to we were not flying. Another check in agent overheard the situation, stepped in and got our visas transferred to the new passports with zero fuss.

It was after that i sent our passports away to get the visa label evidenced in them, you cant beat seeing that physical proof.

I sometimes worry that somehow our visas have expired or been cancelled and that i will sell my house and when me, my wife and 2 kids are standing at the airport check in desk with the one way ticket and our house contents bobbing along on a container ship the girl will turn round and say we've no right to go.

:confused:

We are looking at moving a 20ft container and residue in a movecube. We've got a good rate on the container £3250 20ft and £5000 for the 40ft but we were then looking at Movecube for the residue that wouldn't go in the 20ft container and have too much fresh air in the 40ft albeit it's a cracking price.

 

So I used the online quotation system on the movecube website and got a price of £940 for a large cube going from Glasgow to Sydney but it also just stated that there was additional charges on top of that but not specified. I've just called them up and the "additional charges" for the other end come in at $858 so in total we're now looking at £1417 for a large cube which is 218 cu ft or in effect 3.7ft of a container which is more than 2 times the cost per ft of a 20ft container and 3 times as much if your comparing it against the 40ft container.

 

I was led to believe that MoveCube was the cheaper option for moving residue volume albeit their timescales aren't great but at these rates i'd be cheaper with using my existing agent on their own "groupage rates".

 

Are these movecube rates in line with what everyone else paid ?

 

Feedback would be appreciated.

Interested to see some replies on this. We were gonna do the same, we are over a 20ft container but would be rattling around in a 40ft and were thinking about a movecube.

£3250 is a cracking quote for 20ft, do you mind if i ask who that is with? We were quoted £4100 for a 20ft, and an additional £1500 for shipping the remainder in a shared container.

thanks everyone for the great advice, i can speak to my boss now and go in to him with a solution to my departure.

Not correct, I'm afraid.

 

If you are working in an employed capacity while living in Australia the company should be operating an Australian payroll.

 

Best regards.

Hi Alan,

Thanks for replying, what are the options in the case where there is no local (Aus) payroll?

Isn't what northernbird is saying is true? That's the way I thought it worked.

cheers

steve

Looking for a bit of advice.

I am moving out to Brisbane from the UK before the end of the year and there is a possibility that my current employer will keep me on, working from home in Aus, however my company does not have a presence in Australia that i know of, so i'd assume my earnings would continue to be paid to my UK bank account.

I'm wondering if anybody here has done this or knows someone who has? I know there is a tax treaty between the UK and Australia that might allow me to avoid being taxed twice, but i don't know if there are any other potential pitfalls surrounding the transfer of funds on a regular basis, or anything else i would need to think about.

Any advice is welcome.

cheers

Hi folks,

Does anybody know what would happen in this situation.

I have a 175 PR visa that expires May next year. I am planning to come with my wife and kids to Aus in Sept/Oct timeframe and stay for good.

What would happen if my work asked me do do some travel and my visa was expired? Would i be right in saying i could return on a resident return 157 visa or is there another procedure for short trips out of the country?

thanks

AB

Hello, i decided to join this forum just to say that my wife and i (38 and 41) and our 2 boys (8 and 5) are moving from Glasgow to Brisbane on a PR visa near the end of the year. I am a Network Engineer and my wife is a Mental Health Nurse.

Plan is to get a holiday rental near the Gold Coast for 3-4 weeks, before moving up towards Mount Cotton, Thornlands, Cleveland for a longer term let.

None of us have a job lined up and are bricking it