paddy

I would like to jump in with a different perspective. I made the move to Australia when pregnant, and being stuck at home after moving across the world and having a baby was really hard. I think moving with your youngest ready to start school will make a huge difference to your wife and it will be a totally different experience this time. We are back in Au with our youngest (and he will remain our youngest!) about to start kindergarten and I am much less worried about being away from friends and family. We've come for a 3-5 year period and I can handle it because I know I can get working soon and have more flexibility to get out, meet people and have fun. So if you can cope with the idea of being away from family for a few years then go for it. It doesn't have to be forever but come and get your citizenship if you can! I realized after going home there was no way I could live with the outcome of our PR expiring and all hope lost to live here again, especially with one child an Australian citizen. For me, being on our third time, this is the easiest it's been to adjust, am a bit people-sick but it almost feels like home, I know the good and bad, and am under no illusions. I think for your wife it will be VERY different this time.

I think you have hit the nail right on the head I think it would be very different now our kids are older , also that feeling of loosing the chance to return to au is hard to live with especially after all we went through to get our pr visa in the first place thanks all for your veiws to

We intially moved to adelaide in 2009 with my wife (who was pregnant) and 2 girls 2 and 4 at the time

i found work straight away got a nice rental and settled into aussie life. We had our little aussie boy after 4 months and my OH found it very difficult looking after 2 young girls and a baby with no family to call on for help , i couldn't have much time off work as a new starter so was very hard.

We had both sets of parent come out to see us which was great but devistating when they left, our australian friends were great (but didn't really realise until we had returned how great they were )

But one thing lead to another (2 grandparents and an uncle dying not helping the situation) and we returned to uk in 2011. I got same job back i had before leaving and slotted back into life with work friends, my OH has her mum and 2 sisters around her but friends she had before immigrating have moved on with there lives and she doesn't seem to fit in any more.

We have a 176PR visa but was valid until july 2014 for travelling so we have applied for return visa which is now valid until march 2015, we talk aaalllooottt about australia if there is anything on tv about oz we are watching which seems to be very regularly. We are not in the best financial situation but we never are.

So there we have it me my wife 2 girls now 7 and 9 and 1 aussie boy 4 do we stay or do we go, when every we talk about australia we get that warm feeling inside but if talk about not going back we both get that gutted feeling inside. :arghh: