SKW

My understanding is that you have to leave Australia on your Aus passport if you have one so he would need to get that one. Someone else may be along with better advice. We got our Aus passports within a couple of weeks.

It feels like a death. I am so scared as I will be leaving with a few boxes and my pets. When I told him I was going all he said was ok. I know he is hurting too but he just will not open up to me. It's true, love is just not enough to keep you together. He hasn't asked me to stay, he hasn't put forward a compromise so it looks like I am going forward alone.

I am so sorry you're going through this. Have you told him how you feel? The way you have said it here clearly shows how much he means to you. Does he know this move is not because you have you stopped loving him but because it's something you need to do for yourself? Whatever the future brings, wishing you peace xx

I think you're right that your counselling session allowed you the space to bring up some stuff you've been holding in. It's positive that you're giving yourself somewhere you can talk about how you feel, and hopefully it will help you find some further clarity. I hope your trip home in July will be what you need. I remember feeling like you, pretty much from the start I knew Oz wasn't for me long term, it can feel so isolating, vent away here if you need too.

Who were they with ?,we are also heading back early July from Melbourne, just about to start getting quotes

Sorry for the delay in getting back to you, I've not been on the site for a few days. We got quotes from King & Wilson, Grace, OSS & Kent. We are still waiting for the quotes from the last two. There is a thread about Grace and how good they are, I am sure they are good, but we were really put off by the guy that came to do the quote. He didn't seem to know what he was talking about, when we asked him questions he didn't have the answers. So not sure we would go with them but then we haven't had all the figures back. Good luck.

It sounds like you have had some good advice already. Just wanted to add my support. So sorry to hear you've been so unhappy. It can be so difficult to love someone but know in your heart that you desire different things. I really hope you both find a way to communicate and some happiness in the future. Thinking of you.

HI, just having a look at the moving budget. Those who have moved recently-ish, do you reckon we will get a shared container load for less than $6000 or should I budget for up to $7000?

We have just had 4 different companies in to quote. We've had 2 of the quotes back for a full container and one was a little over $6000 so I think a shared container should be less. We are moving back from Melbourne, don't know if it varies from different states.

Wow, it's come at last! Under the 50 day mark is always good!

It has come at last, I admit I had a bit of a wobble about whether we were doing the right thing, but it didn't last long. I think I just panicked because my son was talking about having no friends n the UK. I know he'll be fine, he's a very confident little boy and staying here just because he has friends here is not a reason to stay!! Just getting organised now. Feel a huge sense of relief.

Flights booked, we leave here 5th June, a few days in KL visiting a friend and arrive home on June 8th. Just over 7 weeks, very excited!

Hopefully Feb/March 2014 as DH wants to get citizenship first. Can't wait until I can book that flight!

Thanks for all of your comments. I am now on medication for my depression which is still not helping. I cannot even think of the future here at the moment, my only waking (and sleeping) thoughts are of how i can turn back time and i know how badly I am dealing with it but it seems so out of my control. I just want us all to be happy again. x

Hello,

I'm more of a lurker on this forum but I could almost feel your despair when I read this post so I wanted to also add my support. I know it's not easy, we have been here almost 5 months and I still don't feel settled. I have a part time job, my son is in daycare and my husband is only now on the verge of getting a job. We have a lovely house here etc, but the feeling of it not being home is always with me. It is like a bereavement in a sense where some days hit me much worse than others. I can offer you no words of wisdom just a friendly ear if you want to pm me.

I really hope that you can find a way forward and feel some sense of happiness. Remember anti-depressants can sometimes take 4 weeks to kick in.

Take care. S