B1K3R Posted May 25, 2011 Share Posted May 25, 2011 Wife booked ticket back to home for next week and she will be taking our daughter. I really tried my best to make things happen, its been a long journey of sacrifices and financial difficulty but nothing stopped me until now. There was a little probability that wife would not stick to OZ and give it the best try. Everything was going well, I'm settled and enjoying my new job, moved to a new rental 15 mins from the city, little one really enjoying her school, friends and oz and the weekends were always awesome. If you are wondering why, it boils down to mental, phychological and emotional instability. I won't be going back, at least not for now. This is one of the sadiest days of my life, I accept it though, it's part if life. I truly wish all the best luck to everyone and may all your dreams come true. Cheers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Ph0en1x Posted May 25, 2011 Share Posted May 25, 2011 Wife booked ticket back to home for next week and she will be taking our daughter. I really tried my best to make things happen, its been a long journey of sacrifices and financial difficulty but nothing stopped me until now. There was a little probability that wife would not stick to OZ and give it the best try. Everything was going well, I'm settled and enjoying my new job, moved to a new rental 15 mins from the city, little one really enjoying her school, friends and oz and the weekends were always awesome. If you are wondering why, it boils down to mental, phychological and emotional instability. I won't be going back, at least not for now. This is one of the sadiest days of my life, I accept it though, it's part if life. I truly wish all the best luck to everyone and may all your dreams come true. Cheers I'm very sorry to hear it hasn't worked out. You are very right its mental, phychological and emotional instability. I have encountered this at first hand. Having said that there must be other underlying issues, why aren't you returning with your family? As much as i want to return i would never contemplate it without my wife, to me it has to be a joint decision Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ali Posted May 25, 2011 Share Posted May 25, 2011 Sorry to hear your news, it must be an incredibly difficult time for you. It's very hard for people to put themselves into your shoes, but I do wish you all the best xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest16631 Posted May 25, 2011 Share Posted May 25, 2011 :hug::hug::hug:.......................thinking of you...................... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest siamsusie Posted May 25, 2011 Share Posted May 25, 2011 Dear Biker, Sending you all my thoughts....its early days.. a bit of space is probably required and take it from there. :hug:Susie x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pablo Posted May 25, 2011 Share Posted May 25, 2011 Your journey was allways gonna be difficult biker,i think you said as much pre oz,your mrs sort of "went along" with your dreams it sounded like tbh,she tried and its not for her,same thing could happen with me and jan.....who knows?,one might love oz the other might hate oz,IF thats the case we've agreed we'l BOTH come home(thats the plan anyway!). But anyway.....sorry it hasnt worked out for yer,maybe next time?but your family is more important than countries as you'l agree,BIG compensation in my eyes that,all the best anyway Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rudi Posted May 25, 2011 Share Posted May 25, 2011 Very sorry to hear that B1k3r and I wish you all the best for the future Love Rudi x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sleepywombat Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Oh B1K3R... That's very sad news... :hug::hug::hug: Cx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PontePom Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Sorry to hear this Keep your chin up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest SunshineSmile Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Im very sorry to hear things have not worked out for you and your wife.... Let the dust settle a little, then you may be able to see your way forward more clearly. I truely hope you can work things through and be together with your wife and daughter :hug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freebo Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Very sorry to hear that mate, we've been over a similar time to you and know the challenges and ups and downs. Hope that things work out for the best for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quoll Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 So sorry that your family is being split up like this, it must be very difficult - I hope that you can see some sort of compromise in the future, people are so much more important than places in the long run. Kudos to you for letting your wife leave with your daughter, sadly so many remaining parents are not as magnanimous Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PommyPaul Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 ahh mate my thoughts are with you! keep strong! the always a light at the end of every tunnel, hope you come through yours like a bullet train!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Pom Queen Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Sorry to hear this news, there are plenty on here who would be there to support you through if you ask. However, please don't give up just yet, like someone else said let the dust settle and see how you feel. Hugs K Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daffod1lly Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Awww ..... really sad to hear this. Sending you my best wishes for the future .... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
warren&liz Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Oh B1k3r I am so sorry. Liz x:hug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LKC Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 I am really sorry to hear your news. Hopefully things will work out for you all in the end. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest30038 Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Mate, I really feel for you :hug: Your journey was difficult from the start and you certainly don't deserve more heartache after all the struggle to get here. If you ever fancy a drive out Northside and an ear to bend, or a beer to sink, I'm here for you. Just shoot me a pm when you're up this way, and I'll enlighten you as to my younger years down Strait St :wink: Good luck mate with whatever course your life may follow. kev Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terry & Melanie Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 :hug::hug::hug: Big hugs....If you need anything...shout.xxxxx Melanie x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shaz36 Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Hey B1K3r, really sorry to hear that. I hope that in time, it will all work out ok. Thinking of you, x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
landv Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 I'm so sorry. I hope you can work things out for the future. :hug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheOptimist Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Really sorry to hear this. Wishing you all the best in whatever your future holds, and wherever that may be. :hug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Ropey HOFF Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 This sounds like my situation, i was a £10 pom in 1977 and cried off at the last minute, but i always dreaned about emigrating, but the wife is only 50/50 and i feel i am pushing her into going, but i don't want her to be unhappy. Really sorry to hear this mate, your story was one that gave me more enthusiasm. All the best buddy, i hope things pick up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
B1K3R Posted May 26, 2011 Author Share Posted May 26, 2011 Having said that there must be other underlying issues, why aren't you returning with your family? As much as i want to return i would never contemplate it without my wife, to me it has to be a joint decision Hi Ph0en1x, I'm not the type to abandon my family. Never, and I would not want my daughter to be without a father, well at least, these are my believes. So the reasons why I will stay here until next year are to: 1. Back home, there are no good jobs for me. I have spent all my money to come here and thus will stay here until I save enough, pay my debts and are back on our feet. 2. With my new job in Brisbane, I am learning a lot with new skills. So this is an opportunity for me to up my skills and know the latest technologies. Then, when I go back home ( :cry: ) I wont find a problem finding a good job and support my family. 3. Last, which is not very important really, but its more for my selfish need....I want to at least achieve my goal of being in OZ for 1 year. For the first 2 really, the 3rd reason just follows as a result of the others, but is welcomed. Cheers B!K3R Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
B1K3R Posted May 26, 2011 Author Share Posted May 26, 2011 Thank you everyone for all your support! It makes me feel better :cute: Cheers B!K3R Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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