hilton Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Anyone found it demoralising getting to know new friends in Oz then they leave? Been here 8 months now, met some great friends and have lost count the amount who relocate home or somewhere else for work issues. Fair enough Its probably because we make friends with ex-pats that this happens more often. Just lost 2 good mates and probably lose another few in near future for various reasons, its very hard to get a support network that everyone talks about when you have this constant cycle. Anyone else experienced this??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petals Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Think its called life, people come into our lives and some stay, others leave. I have friends who I have known most of my life however they have come and gone in my life over the years. They have moved away, I moved away, they moved etc etc and here we all are again. Just always keep in touch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hilton Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 Think its called life, people come into our lives and some stay, others leave. I have friends who I have known most of my life however they have come and gone in my life over the years. They have moved away, I moved away, they moved etc etc and here we all are again. Just always keep in touch. Very True Petals. Its just very tough when your trying to replace a support network that you built up over 20years and when you think your making progress your back to square 1. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul1Perth Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Some of it is dependent on how old you are. We are married with kids, settled in an area we like and most of our friends are the same with the same interests. My son is 21. His friends are all doing different things. His best mate is off to the UK next week to be a lifeguard for the English summer, some of his other mates have already traveled a bit and come back and he is thinking about traveling. When you get older you settle down more and are happier with your lot (usually). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadsmile23 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Hi Hilton, know exactly what you are saying here. Not for quite the same reasons as you, but have found "friendships" here quite demoralising too. We have made what we thought to be terrific friends, only to have them betray or abandon us when we have served our purpose, or outlived our usefulness. It has made us very wary of making new friends anymore, and we are nearing our 40's so would have thought we were all a bit past this "playground" mentality of bitching and backstabbing:unsure: Saying that, through the tough times there have been some "shining stars" who we will, hopefully, cherish in our lives for many years to come. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cazz Posted May 8, 2011 Share Posted May 8, 2011 We've really struggled making any friends . We rarely have spare funds so don't go out much. The neighbours just about said hi when we moved in & now turn there back if they see you to avoid speaking & most of the folks who have put posts on here to meet new friends that I've posted back on, you don't here from again, or they say they'll sort a time & never do. I've tried doing the arranging myself but then folks don't turn up. Starting to get a bit paranoid LOL. X Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadsmile23 Posted May 8, 2011 Share Posted May 8, 2011 Hey Cazz, just noticed that you are down the road from me in Meadow Springs! Perhaps we could get together and break the cycle of "billy no-mates"??!!!!:biglaugh: Send me a PM if you are interested Jill x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pablo Posted May 8, 2011 Share Posted May 8, 2011 I can nderstand what your saying Hilton,but personally i dont need freinds that much tbh,if i did i'd go to perth where i know loads,its just a last adventure for me tbh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest 47403 Posted May 8, 2011 Share Posted May 8, 2011 I can nderstand what your saying Hilton,but personally i dont need freinds that much tbh,if i did i'd go to perth where i know loads,its just a last adventure for me tbh I'm the same pabs I don't feel the need to have a big circle of friends, before I met the missus and had kids I used to play golf every Saturday and fish every Sunday with mates since that stopped due to having a family we occasionally text each other that's about it my family seem to take up all my time now can't really see it being to different when we get to Perth. I'm guessing our friends will most likely come through things the kids do, be nice to have a golfing and fishing buddy once a month maybe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rudi Posted May 8, 2011 Share Posted May 8, 2011 Hi Hilton, know exactly what you are saying here.Not for quite the same reasons as you, but have found "friendships" here quite demoralising too. We have made what we thought to be terrific friends, only to have them betray or abandon us when we have served our purpose, or outlived our usefulness. It has made us very wary of making new friends anymore, and we are nearing our 40's so would have thought we were all a bit past this "playground" mentality of bitching and backstabbing:unsure: Saying that, through the tough times there have been some "shining stars" who we will, hopefully, cherish in our lives for many years to come. Been there and done that!!! I now have only a couple of very close friends who I would trust with my life and lots of acquaintances. I have also branched out into making Aussie friend as they are less likely to abandon me :cute: Love Rudi x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pablo Posted May 8, 2011 Share Posted May 8, 2011 I'm the same pabs I don't feel the need to have a big circle of friends, before I met the missus and had kids I used to play golf every Saturday and fish every Sunday with mates since that stopped due to having a family we occasionally text each other that's about it my family seem to take up all my time now can't really see it being to different when we get to Perth. I'm guessing our friends will most likely come through things the kids do, be nice to have a golfing and fishing buddy once a month maybe. Dont get me wrong mate ,ive got dozens of freinds,and i would say 3 or 4 i can count on for anything,known them since infant school,still in touch but dont go out hardly now since the smoking ban,but i dont "need" them,jans been me mate since school anyway,sounds a bit kissarse that doesnt it,but she has,used to bevvy with her for yrs before we got together,but im one of them that likes a float around on my own now and again anyway,sometimes me mates are going to town for a pint sat afternoon but i'l still go on me own,allways end up meeting and talking to other people anyway,whereas if im with me mates we tend to just stay within our group,so i will do the same in oz mate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pau1evs Posted May 8, 2011 Share Posted May 8, 2011 I have met loads of new friends x and people do move on and home x but i do find its good to get to know people on fb as pio is abit annomous !!!! i have friends now that after talking to at different times during the move x in perth, tas, sydney, cairns and melbourne and even in the uk awaiting visas and even some that tried oz and wasnt for them x i have even got to know people who have moved to a completely different area to me and i have put them in touch with people in their area xxxx good luck is a big world inbox me x and you never know ! lol x carole x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest happysmiler Posted May 8, 2011 Share Posted May 8, 2011 we now have a great circle of friends around us and even have one or two who we know we can rely on for anything....however that didnt happen overnight and we have had some truely god aweful times since moving here. But i honeslty believe that the reliance we have on our friends, definatley is reduced when you are content within your family life. Just my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
menlow4 Posted May 14, 2011 Share Posted May 14, 2011 Had the same experience as a few of you. Joined a group of friends, all great, parties, bbq's, trips together then things started getting a bit cliquey. Started to not enjoy the company any more. We have a few close friends here and there and thats what we prefer. We are a very close family and love spending time together though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rudi Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 I just find I can't do the group thing!!! I think there's aways someone who annoys me in a group and in the end I just get to the point where I don't want to spend time with someone who I really don't like, so I end up moving on. I have got to the point where I don't do the group thing anymore. I have some absolutely lovely friends, but they are not part of groups and I usually see them in ones or twos!!! Love Rudi x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kernow43 Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 I just find I can't do the group thing!!! I think there's aways someone who annoys me in a group and in the end I just get to the point where I don't want to spend time with someone who I really don't like, so I end up moving on. I have got to the point where I don't do the group thing anymore. I have some absolutely lovely friends, but they are not part of groups and I usually see them in ones or twos!!! Love Rudi x We have a lot of friends & we rate them like this; Some are golden- be there for you no matter what Some are silver - be there for you if it's convenient for them Some are copper - be there when they think about it Some are like lead- be there when they want something Our place is like a halfway house and we love it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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