2 minds

[Guest chatman]

Hi I would just like to explain our situation me my wife and 2 sons age 4 and 2 applied for our visas about 3 and a half years ago and I believe we will get our visas in 2 months. When I started the visa I really wanted to go but now I am in 2 minds, my options are to extend my house and get my wife a new kitchen and a wooden climbing frame for my sons which is tempting as we have not done a lot for ourselves because of Australia. Or we could go to Australia Wich I also like because I think it may give us more inspiration and the disire to do things. I am 34 and I feel young I don't know what is best for me and my family. Has anybody been in this situation and what was your outcome. Please could somebody with wisdom give us your opinion . Thank you.

[B1K3R]

Hi I would just like to explain our situation me my wife and 2 sons age 4 and 2 applied for our visas about 3 and a half years ago and I believe we will get our visas in 2 months. When I started the visa I really wanted to go but now I am in 2 minds, my options are to extend my house and get my wife a new kitchen and a wooden climbing frame for my sons which is tempting as we have not done a lot for ourselves because of Australia. Or we could go to Australia Wich I also like because I think it may give us more inspiration and the disire to do things. I am 34 and I feel young I don't know what is best for me and my family. Has anybody been in this situation and what was your outcome. Please could somebody with wisdom give us your opinion . Thank you.

 

It's difficult for everyone to answer your question mate :unsure: We all have different dreams, goals, priorities, have different characters, skills, like different things, so it will be hard to answer that question for you.

 

Only you and your wife can really answer that..I am afraid. I would have a nice dinner with your wife, some wine and talk about your dreams and goals, what you really want from life. Discuss the advantages and disadvantages of staying there or moving to OZ, how it could affect your lives and the probabilities of having a better/worse life.

 

At the end of the day, you'll never know until you go and try for yourself. It's a risk mate that we all take. Maybe you can try a holiday too.

 

You can also listen to your gut feelings, usually they are right and can guide you into the right decision.

 

Sorry, maybe I was not of much help, but I'm afraid that's the reality of it. Don't forget, ships are made to sail and not to stay in the harbor, but maybe you hate ships :wink:

 

Good luck with whatever you decide :smile:

 

Cheers

B!K3R

[Guest flakey]

I know exactly where you're coming from. I'm in a similar situation to you and i'm reading all the stuff about people coming back home and thinking "am i chasing rainbows?" The money I'Ve spent so far could have got me a nice conservetory! and now I've just been to the pub and met a couple who have just returned form Oz and reckoned it was crap! Now I'm realy confused.

[Quoll]

I reckon if it aint broke, dont fix it! In this day and age if you live in a nice place with a good support network, where you have friends and a good job and your kids have friends and a good school and you can take holidays abroad then dont bother. This is just another first world country, it wont confer anything magical on you or your kids but will be a different place to live your life in and will stretch your self sufficiency and self centredness (in the nicest possible way) to the limit. If OTOH you have an opportunity to hand that you dont want to miss, then dont miss it but work out what you are prepared to gamble and possibly lose.

[Bod]

If you really have got the money to loose give it a go.

 

It cost me I recon £30 -£40 grand. stopped counting at 30.

 

Whilst Aussie was my dream Money was never the issue, now I wish I was never so blind. I'd be mortgage free now and a decent ish pension building up.

And the housing prices and exchange rate were in my favor

 

But if I never done it Id have regrets.

 

Im still happy and full of life, just a little poorer with a sh!t pension.

 

Good luck all

[Pumpkin]

Absolutely nobody can even advise you on this, because they can only say what was right for them. I don't think there is anything wrong with reading the coming home stories but make sure you temper it with reading some success stories too.

 

In the end we decided by doing a pros and cons list. We had more pros than cons.

 

Then the timing was a big question for us too, but we went on our validation trip and both found jobs in a week so we had to conclude that there would never be a better time.

 

Anyway again, I stand by the pros and cons method, writing things down can really clarify the thoughts running around in your head.

[pablo]

Hi I would just like to explain our situation me my wife and 2 sons age 4 and 2 applied for our visas about 3 and a half years ago and I believe we will get our visas in 2 months. When I started the visa I really wanted to go but now I am in 2 minds, my options are to extend my house and get my wife a new kitchen and a wooden climbing frame for my sons which is tempting as we have not done a lot for ourselves because of Australia. Or we could go to Australia Wich I also like because I think it may give us more inspiration and the disire to do things. I am 34 and I feel young I don't know what is best for me and my family. Has anybody been in this situation and what was your outcome. Please could somebody with wisdom give us your opinion . Thank you.

 

Extend your hse,a new kitchen and a climbing frame or a whole new experience/way of life in australia,is there a question to be answered?????

Go and try it,IF its not for you your young enuf to come back+start again.

[Alan Collett]

Don't die wondering ... that was our perspective when we moved to Australia 10 years ago ...

 

Happy New Year!

[Ozmaniac]

At the very least, keep your options open. Get your visas; take your validation trip so that you have PR for at least 5 years and see how you feel in a few years.

[chapmans]

We were in a similar position to yourselves this time last year when my hubby was offered a sponsorship with Coles with the option of PR after 3 years. We debated and umm'd and ahh'd, turned the offer down and then did a quick turnaround and accepted, as we were of the opinion that if we don't do it, we will always wonder what if and it had always been a burning desire of mine to live in OZ.

Our kids are somewhat older than yours, so yours being so young is really in your favour and like you say you are still young yourselves, so you could give it a go for a couple of years. This is what we are doing, we are here for at least the next 2 years until our daughter has finished school and then who knows!

We have been here 6 months now and we have both been very homesick at times (kids are having a ball!) but the way I get through those feelings are to look on this as a real life experience and that it doesn't have to be forever.

My motto in life......... it's better to regret the things you do in life than the things you didn't do! I don't want to be on my death bed having any regrets.

 

One thing I would say is, don't sell everything you have back home. Rent your house out so that you have it to come back to which is what we have done. We have friends who sold up and moved to NZ only to return 3 years later regretting selling their house!

 

Good luck with your decission.

[Guest chatman]

I would like to say thank you all for responding to my post. Happy new year to you all.