nsw to vic

[notaclue]

Just debating the likely move to victoria from south coast NSW. It really is visually spectacular down here - but - I think that we are struggling with how parochial it is sometimes. I think that we are quite easygoing, have met lots of 'friend' but it all seems a little superficial somehow. Dont get me wrong - I am very aware that we have to put ourselves out, but, I find that it is us doing it all. for example, the kids have made lots of friends in school, but do they see them out? No. this is not for lack of trying on our part, Ive done the invites over to ours, but whilst they are all happy for their kids to come over and play/sleepovers - there is bugger all coming back. My kids are too young to get this, and are constantly asking when can they see a particular friend. Smae with us too, weve had lots ov evenings, get togethers that we have done - but nothing again coming back. It seems that everyone is happy to be a friend - as long as they dont have to put too much effort in, and Im begining to feel like the childminding service.

The friends we particularly click with, have travelled about too - I think that they feel we are in the same boat, and want to have friends, socialise, be the support for each other etc, understand how difficult it is to start again etc. Unfortunately - these are moving away.

There is not much of a mixed community from other countries where we are - so I think that is why there is this non-understanding of the starting again bit - in fact, I dont know 1 other british person. I have to say though, this in itself doesnt bother me at all, and was aware that this is not up there as one of the major places to migrate too - simply because of a lack of work down here. Rambling away - I think what I am trying to say is - I think being in Victoria - the peninsula to be precise - would give us that thing we are missing here. As beautiful as it is - I cant go to the beach every day, Ive had it with the lack of effort from people here, it really is, friend by appointment only. I am missing that - just passing by, are you in? or even - some reciprocal friendships.

Just organising a xmas do at our house - the only social event on our calander - definately the last. Heaps of people wanting to come of course.

Visiting the peninsula for a week in jan, to see about house/school, tie in a bit of a hols for the kids. Any thoughts/enlightenment/comments:arghh: welcome

[starlight7]

I guess it is the luck of the draw really. The Mornington Peninsula has a lot of people from different areas/countries so you may well find it more to your taste. I have an idea about what you are saying because, many years ago, we lived in North West Tassie for a while and that was a bit similar and after a while you start to feel you can't be bothered.