Rodfan 19 Posted November 27, 2010 Hi, There may be a potential move back home for us next year (OH relenting finally) we are definitely going back (UK) to visit our family and our youngest Son (22yrs) is also coming, if we stay (he is definitely returning to OZ) he will have nowhere to live, bittersweet move in the end for us. Our eldest Son has also recently returned to OZ (lives in sydney we are in Melb.) once again wish I had a crystal ball to see how it will all work out, I really wish I could just settle here as would make life easy for everyone...but I yearn for home..yet know I will feel really guilty leaving Son to return with nowhere to live:confused: anyone else had this dilemma?? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Quoll 6,200 Posted November 27, 2010 Dont worry, kids will do their own thing no matter what, and what you are probably doing is just accelerating what he would be doing anyway by a few months. There is no telling where kids will end up - he could equally decide to live in UK, especially if he meets a job or a girl that takes his fancy. I wont say it is easy having kids on the other side of the world - it isnt, but it is do-able and we can but hope that we have raised them right so that they are independent and self sufficient in adulthood. Good luck! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rodfan 19 Posted November 29, 2010 Thank you Quoll for taking the time to answer my post, guess I am clutching at straws in trying to make the right decision!!! this time. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
keily 3,072 Posted November 29, 2010 it is worrying rodfan ...my daughter went back to scotland at the start of year [thankfully returned in sept] and although i knew she was ok it didnt stop me worrying about her ....could u not set ur son up in rental acc before u leave that way u would have an idea of where he is ...it may make it a bit easier if had actually flown the nest so to speak before u need to go back ...its very hard when ur family is torn apart by distance ...but im sure thats why u moved in the first place to give him more opportunities in life ...and by the sounds of things u have opened that up to him ....he could have went anyway even when u previously stayed in uk .....hope it all works out for you and ur son :hug: mrs keily LIFE IS A COIN , YOU CAN SPEND IT ON WHATEVER YOU WISH , BUT ... YOU CAN ONLY SPEND IT ONCE Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 2, 2010 At 25 I left the family home in Melbourne and moved to Ireland. On my own. Haven't looked back! I do miss my family, but it has been the best thing for me, establishing myself as an independant adult. Don't worry about him! If you have been living in Australia already he will no doubt have a friend or friend's family who would put him up to start off with and you will all likely be amazed at what he can achieve on his own. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ajs604 42 Posted December 2, 2010 At 27 I finally made the permanent move to Oz. I have been backwards & forwards since I was in my early 20s & spent a year here. Finally after finishing Uni I applied for PR & have made the permanent move. I think my mother was quite shocked & its weird not seeing old friends or family. They are visiting in 2012. I realised that I would have a much better future here. The worlds a smaller place in this day & age with internet, cheap phone calls ect. I am sure it will all work out. Good luck!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest smallbutscary62 Posted December 2, 2010 i know what you mean i had to leave my kids in uk when i came here..all heart wrenching stuff but when we let go of those apron strings they usually do ok. Mine do better with that level of independence and mum cany just come round and sort it1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 2, 2010 I was 18 when I moved to Australia, on my own, to travel and have fun. At that age, I remember, the 22 year old people seamed ancient! if not old. He'll be fine. :wubclub: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Edwillwill Posted December 3, 2010 WOW! Leave it out, really??? I moved out at 17, nothing to do with my parents just wanted to get on with being an adult....your worried about nothing... Let him live his life and support him, anything else and its about you not him.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rodfan 19 Posted December 3, 2010 Hi, Thanks for all your recent posts, I kinda know he will be ok, and do feel it is about time he stood on his own two feet, living here at home with me and his Dad has made him lazy, although he is a Uni student so not able to work full time to support himself...all his aussie friends still stay at home also. Seems more common in OZ to stay with parents longer, also its so b***dy far from the UK. Reading your replies is encouraging. Thanks again! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
