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IKNOWCB......  I think I am finally finding my "new normal" and getting back into life after my Mum passing.  The past year has been a  strangemixture of horrid, thinking I am doing OK, then not giving a toss about anything, and having to fight with brother and his narcisistic wife over Mum's Estate as I was Executor and they felt they were owed more than half which contravened the Will.  The first anniversary has been and gone last week, and I am trying to get get back to some form of normal.... so hard when Mum was in my daily life and I miss her immensely.  But I am getting there and starting to get back on PIO for a social media fix, and  I am enjoying my gardening and friends too.   Whoever coined the phrase "you are stuck with family, but can choose your friends who become family", was so right!

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1 minute ago, Rossmoyne said:

IKNOWCB......  I think I am finally finding my "new normal" and getting back into life after my Mum passing.  The past year has been a  strangemixture of horrid, thinking I am doing OK, then not giving a toss about anything, and having to fight with brother and his narcisistic wife over Mum's Estate as I was Executor and they felt they were owed more than half which contravened the Will.  The first anniversary has been and gone last week, and I am trying to get get back to some form of normal.... so hard when Mum was in my daily life and I miss her immensely.  But I am getting there and starting to get back on PIO for a social media fix, and  I am enjoying my gardening and friends too.   Whoever coined the phrase "you are stuck with family, but can choose your friends who become family", was so right!

It's been a tough year for you Rossmoyne not helped by your brother and his wife by the sound of it.  Nice to see you back here though.

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How do you add those tags to a thread ?

Like this thread has care as a little black label next to thread title.


I want it all, and I want it now.

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9 hours ago, Parley said:

How do you add those tags to a thread ?

Like this thread has care as a little black label next to thread title.

I don't know, it just appeared.... clever eh?

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On 12/08/2019 at 14:58, Toots said:

It's been a tough year for you Rossmoyne not helped by your brother and his wife by the sound of it.  Nice to see you back here though.

Thanks Toots.   It has been incredibly stressful time... Enjoying my time back on PIO....

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Rocked up to my local hospital for an Ultrasound this afternoon, and even though I followed the water consumption regime to the letter, I had to sit around drinking a lot more.  600ml obviously wasn’t enough

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On 10/08/2019 at 11:33, Bobj said:

I eat the mackerel and/or give the rest of the fillets away to the people in the village. One fillet is usually a big feed for 2 people.

Never eat sharks, as we have better fish to fry...to coin a phrase.

To take a shark for home consumption, it has to be over 1.5 metres.

Cheers, Bobj.

Please don’t be going near the shark. I’m going to need my heart meds increasing at this rate haha 😂 

 

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If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.

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On 10/08/2019 at 11:35, Marisawright said:

One of my friends had a similar experience. Threw a stick for his dog, the dog leaped up to catch it in mid-air and instead of catching it sideways, she caught it end-on.  It went straight down her throat and lacerated her oesophagus (I think).  Very nasty and they nearly lost her. 

Unfortunately it is very common, especially when they splinter.

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On 10/08/2019 at 11:31, ramot said:

A warning about throwing sticks for a dog. I know it was a freak accident but a couple of weeks ago my daughter threw a stick for her dog, and somehow it pierced the dogs eye. We really hoped that the eye specialist vet had saved her eye, with an operation but sadly even though it seemed to go well, her dog developed severe glaucoma on Thursday and is almost definitely blind in that eye. 

Oh @ramot I’m so sorry, your daughter must be feeling terrible. There is nothing at all she could have done to prevent this happening give them a huge hug from me. 

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On 10/08/2019 at 12:50, ali said:

My boy is back on the team sheet today for the first time since he got injured in training (ATFL rupture) 14 weeks ago.  He'll be on the bench and probably get 10-15 mins but it's a major step in his recovery - I have one very happy boy this morning which of course makes Mum happy too.

@ali did he get to go out on Saturday 

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7 minutes ago, The Pom Queen said:

Oh @ramot I’m so sorry, your daughter must be feeling terrible. There is nothing at all she could have done to prevent this happening give them a huge hug from me. 

She feels so guilty, even though it was a freak accident. They don’t have children, so even though all pets are special, she is their baby. We are still hoping that the eye drops work and that she won’t loose her eye.

Lovely to see  you Back posting, I have been silently sending you lots of love. xxxxM

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13 minutes ago, ramot said:

She feels so guilty, even though it was a freak accident. They don’t have children, so even though all pets are special, she is their baby. We are still hoping that the eye drops work and that she won’t loose her eye.

Lovely to see  you Back posting, I have been silently sending you lots of love. xxxxM

It may also be worth a second opinion before opting for the eye removal. Although I presume she is at the specialist hospital and not just the vet. If it’s just the vet then please ask her to see a specialist. Saying that I’ve known veterinary specialists with varying opinions/treatment plans


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1 hour ago, The Pom Queen said:

It may also be worth a second opinion before opting for the eye removal. Although I presume she is at the specialist hospital and not just the vet. If it’s just the vet then please ask her to see a specialist. Saying that I’ve known veterinary specialists with varying opinions/treatment plans

She is under the specialist eye vet in Sydney. The eye operation went well, but unfortunately there has been large build up of fluid (causing glaucoma)  behind her eye, so at the moment they are trying to control it, but if it reaches a certain number they might have to remove her eye. Could be worse when you read some b——st—-d has been poisoning dogs in Brisbane with 8 dead! How can anyone be so evil.

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2 hours ago, The Pom Queen said:

@ali did he get to go out on Saturday 

He got about 25 mins and scored. .  The club have been great with him, he's been involved on match days in the technical area and the club physio has been brilliant working with him twice a week which I really think stopped him getting low.  Got to work at getting match fit again - but he's happy

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Iknowcb, five months ago I accepted an offer on the sale of two flats I own in the UK from a single buyer as part of his business. They're both empty and there's no chain involved but the whole process is taking so long. I'm livid and very tempted to pull out and start all over. There's been different reasons for the delay all on their side including a change of lawyers, difficulty getting mortgage on ex-council property and their PA is incompetent, ill or away at various times. Is this just the way it is, am I being unreasonable? does it always take this long?

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10 minutes ago, Melbpom said:

Iknowcb, five months ago I accepted an offer on the sale of two flats I own in the UK from a single buyer as part of his business. They're both empty and there's no chain involved but the whole process is taking so long. I'm livid and very tempted to pull out and start all over. There's been different reasons for the delay all on their side including a change of lawyers, difficulty getting mortgage on ex-council property and their PA is incompetent, ill or away at various times. Is this just the way it is, am I being unreasonable? does it always take this long?

Five months sounds a long time, are the properties of a standard construction,  are they due for major works on them, do they have short leases, are the ground rents set at a reasonable level and are they subject to periodic increases, does the freeholder have to approve the sale, these are all factors which might be causing delays, but solicitors are notoriously slow in the UK with some real incompetants who use para legals to do the grunt work and load them up with way too many conveyances and some really have no idea what to do when they run up against a problem, I would suggest having a word with your solicitor and your estate agent and ask them to find out what is going on, agents often know the conveyancers who are crap, as do solicitors, a threat of pulling out should motivate your agent to start and put some pressure on.

Also  the buyers might be playing games, hoping to wear you down for a late lower offer as the chaos of brexit affects the market, there is talk of the market starting to flatline as brexit weighs on the economy and sales in the UK do tend to be seasonal although buy to let is less affected.

I think gee your agent up with a threat of pulling out and a little barb that you might put them in the hands of one of the auction houses might get them moving, nothing like the loss of commission to motivate people.

If you think your conveyancer is bad I could pm you a firm I used who were good with communication, can't  guarantee them but.

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8 minutes ago, BacktoDemocracy said:

Five months sounds a long time, are the properties of a standard construction,  are they due for major works on them, do they have short leases, are the ground rents set at a reasonable level and are they subject to periodic increases, does the freeholder have to approve the sale, these are all factors which might be causing delays, but solicitors are notoriously slow in the UK with some real incompetants who use para legals to do the grunt work and load them up with way too many conveyances and some really have no idea what to do when they run up against a problem, I would suggest having a word with your solicitor and your estate agent and ask them to find out what is going on, agents often know the conveyancers who are crap, as do solicitors, a threat of pulling out should motivate your agent to start and put some pressure on.

Also  the buyers might be playing games, hoping to wear you down for a late lower offer as the chaos of brexit affects the market, there is talk of the market starting to flatline as brexit weighs on the economy and sales in the UK do tend to be seasonal although buy to let is less affected.

I think gee your agent up with a threat of pulling out and a little barb that you might put them in the hands of one of the auction houses might get them moving, nothing like the loss of commission to motivate people.

If you think your conveyancer is bad I could pm you a firm I used who were good with communication, can't  guarantee them but.

Thank you for your reply. The flats are sound, no problems with major work, short leases etc and have passed mortgage valuations. I've replied to all the correspondence promptly because I'm keen to cut the expenditure on council rates and services fees, and also move money back to Oz before the pound loses any more value.

I think that both my agent and my solicitor are good. At least I think they are. I've dealt with both previously. I think the real reason might be to do with the fact that the flats are being bought in the name of the business for use by employees. I don't know what the business does but I think it's not suiting them to hurry with the purchase.

I told the estate agent to relist the flats a couple of weeks ago and then there was a flurry of activity and a few documents were sent through to the solicitors and then it goes quiet again.

Will try another email to my solicitor and ask if it's possible to set a deadline for completion.

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13 minutes ago, Melbpom said:

Thank you for your reply. The flats are sound, no problems with major work, short leases etc and have passed mortgage valuations. I've replied to all the correspondence promptly because I'm keen to cut the expenditure on council rates and services fees, and also move money back to Oz before the pound loses any more value.

I think that both my agent and my solicitor are good. At least I think they are. I've dealt with both previously. I think the real reason might be to do with the fact that the flats are being bought in the name of the business for use by employees. I don't know what the business does but I think it's not suiting them to hurry with the purchase.

I told the estate agent to relist the flats a couple of weeks ago and then there was a flurry of activity and a few documents were sent through to the solicitors and then it goes quiet again.

Will try another email to my solicitor and ask if it's possible to set a deadline for completion.

The problem in the UK is that nobody has any power in these circumstances, can't see that purchase by a business should slow things unless they are trying to move expenditure to a particular time for their company accounts/tax reporting, have you thought of doing a company search on the business, I don't think its much money to do one and you might get some understanding of their financial position, albeit historical.

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21 minutes ago, BacktoDemocracy said:

The problem in the UK is that nobody has any power in these circumstances, can't see that purchase by a business should slow things unless they are trying to move expenditure to a particular time for their company accounts/tax reporting, have you thought of doing a company search on the business, I don't think its much money to do one and you might get some understanding of their financial position, albeit historical.

I just did a quick search on the company officer of the business and found he's 28 and the director of 11 companies. All the businesses seem to be involved in the buying, selling and leasing of property. Haven't got to the company accounts yet but I will.

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Haven't heard from @newjez for a while. I know we disagree on most things but I do worry when members go AWOL.

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Husband and a Kiwi mate are watching the All Blacks thrash the Wallabies.  Interesting comments being made by them.  😋  I'm staying safely in another room.

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Arrived home today on the 17 hour direct flight from Heathrow 🙃 Thank heavens I didn’t have to get back on and fly to Melbourne like some of the passengers 

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45 minutes ago, Drumbeat said:

Arrived home today on the 17 hour direct flight from Heathrow 🙃 Thank heavens I didn’t have to get back on and fly to Melbourne like some of the passengers 

How was it?  I often think that it might be a good idea then the red eye to Canberra. I don't mind long flights as long as I can take my knitting

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2 hours ago, Toots said:

Husband and a Kiwi mate are watching the All Blacks thrash the Wallabies.  Interesting comments being made by them.  😋  I'm staying safely in another room.

Shouldn’t be a surprise, when Union is the national sport of New Zealand.  Here it’s exactly the opposite 

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1 hour ago, Quoll said:

How was it?  I often think that it might be a good idea then the red eye to Canberra. I don't mind long flights as long as I can take my knitting

Perth to Heathrow was OK as flight leaves at 18.45 so a better time to sleep, the return flight leaves Heathrow at 12.00 so seemed to last forever......

I flew Premium Economy which was pretty good, there is no way I'd do it in Economy.

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