Ping Pongers

[Robert Dyson]

On 10/11/2021 at 15:00, Marisawright said:

the treatment I've received from specialists in the public health system has been far superior to the private ones. 

In ACT they're often the same person, especially for surgeries.....they just turn a different direction at the end of the corridor on some days.  They even have private offices on the edge of public hospital campuses, and bridges between the public and private part of the hospital.  One you get free, the other you pay for but they give you an extra biscuit.

[Bulya]

1 hour ago, Robert Dyson said:

In ACT they're often the same person, especially for surgeries.....they just turn a different direction at the end of the corridor on some days.  They even have private offices on the edge of public hospital campuses, and bridges between the public and private part of the hospital.  One you get free, the other you pay for but they give you an extra biscuit.

Both my surgeons do private and public.  ACT specific I guess. 

[Ken]

On 08/11/2021 at 09:48, Bulya said:

Back in my NASA days I worked with a bunch of poms one of whom had ping pinged six times with his family in tow.  Wife spat the dummy and said he could go back to England on his own next time.  

On 08/11/2021 at 14:40, MacGyver said:

Off topic, but any sentence starting "Back in my NASA days..." really grabs your attention!

Anyone see the movie "The Dish"? I'm thinking the role of the Security Guard might be an accurate portrait of Bulya's NASA days.

[Bulya]

5 hours ago, Ken said:

Anyone see the movie "The Dish"? I'm thinking the role of the Security Guard might be an accurate portrait of Bulya's NASA days.

I guess an uneducated person would think that…

Tech A actually, ‘B’ shift. 
 

https://honeysucklecreek.net/other_stations/orroral/index.html

Edited November 13, 2021 by Bulya
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[Mdees1]

Very interesting discussions, i ended up reading all 17 pages!

I am in a similar "ping pong" mindset. 

Did 2.5 years in UK starting in 2018, had a child there with my english partner but moved back to Melbourne in 2021.

Had our second and after a year went to visit partners family in UK.

Now that I have come back, I keep thinking about if we made the right move. My partner is not 100% happy but is trying to get on with it, I have family here and am close but I can see myself maybe being in the UK.

I grew up in Aus but always felt a loneliness/isolation that I actually didnt feel when I was in London. 

The only thing is I know we wouldnt move back to London (partners family is in Yorkshire but we are not wedded to Yorkshire). So I just dont know what life outside London could be like.

[MARYROSE02]

21 minutes ago, Mdees1 said:

Very interesting discussions, i ended up reading all 17 pages!

I am in a similar "ping pong" mindset. 

Did 2.5 years in UK starting in 2018, had a child there with my english partner but moved back to Melbourne in 2021.

Had our second and after a year went to visit partners family in UK.

Now that I have come back, I keep thinking about if we made the right move. My partner is not 100% happy but is trying to get on with it, I have family here and am close but I can see myself maybe being in the UK.

I grew up in Aus but always felt a loneliness/isolation that I actually didnt feel when I was in London. 

The only thing is I know we wouldnt move back to London (partners family is in Yorkshire but we are not wedded to Yorkshire). So I just dont know what life outside London could be like.

I suppose if you don't mind where you live and your partner is homesick(?), you could live in the UK? I guess the kids are still young enough not to have to worry about changing schools?

But although you like London,  you would not be living there? Would it be Yorkshire or somewhere else? I wished I'd experienced living in London and it might have prepared me for the "shock" of moving from a village in The New Forest to Sydney.  

I like Sydney but long commutes and crowds stuffed me up. Now I live in an inner city suburb  - Surry Hills - which I treat as if I'm living in a village again as I rarely stray more than a kilometres away, and that's usually to go to the beach. 

I left England for the second time 13 years ago and I've not been back. I used to go back and forth when my parents were alive and I went back for 12 years.

Perhaps a sense of where you should live will just "emerge?"

[Mdees1]

9 minutes ago, MARYROSE02 said:

I suppose if you don't mind where you live and your partner is homesick(?), you could live in the UK? I guess the kids are still young enough not to have to worry about changing schools?

But although you like London,  you would not be living there? Would it be Yorkshire or somewhere else? I wished I'd experienced living in London and it might have prepared me for the "shock" of moving from a village in The New Forest to Sydney.  

I like Sydney but long commutes and crowds stuffed me up. Now I live in an inner city suburb  - Surry Hills - which I treat as if I'm living in a village again as I rarely stray more than a kilometres away, and that's usually to go to the beach. 

I left England for the second time 13 years ago and I've not been back. I used to go back and forth when my parents were alive and I went back for 12 years.

Perhaps a sense of where you should live will just "emerge?"

thats what i am really hoping for...

I think I would want to be in Yorkshire because otherwise I don't see the point as we wont be "close" to her parents. But I just have not explored jobs and the likes, more just thinking about it.

the UK village/small towns appealed to me more than I thought, granted we visited friends and family so if I moved back I think it would have to be near friends and family.

Surrey Hills is lovely part of the world and perhaps creating a village like feel wherever I settle in Melbourne is the best option.

Keeping my thoughts from straying until the ideas "emerge" will be the challenge.

I just get a feeling of guilt come over me when I think about moving away from family but my parents are about 10 years younger than hers so I can ping pong I guess.....good to sound these thoughts out!

[MARYROSE02]

6 minutes ago, Mdees1 said:

thats what i am really hoping for...

I think I would want to be in Yorkshire because otherwise I don't see the point as we wont be "close" to her parents. But I just have not explored jobs and the likes, more just thinking about it.

the UK village/small towns appealed to me more than I thought, granted we visited friends and family so if I moved back I think it would have to be near friends and family.

Surrey Hills is lovely part of the world and perhaps creating a village like feel wherever I settle in Melbourne is the best option.

Keeping my thoughts from straying until the ideas "emerge" will be the challenge.

I just get a feeling of guilt come over me when I think about moving away from family but my parents are about 10 years younger than hers so I can ping pong I guess.....good to sound these thoughts out!

"Surrey Hills" and "Surry Hills" are different places in different states, one on Sydney, one in Melbourne? I've not been to the one in Melbourne. Is it nice? I must Google it.

I felt that guilt too, splitting the family up, leading my brothers off to OZ , leaving my parents,  but they did get up see OZ and meet up with long lost relatives in NZ.

 

[Mdees1]

my bad i meant the one in sydney....

[Quoll]

8 hours ago, Mdees1 said:

Very interesting discussions, i ended up reading all 17 pages!

I am in a similar "ping pong" mindset. 

Did 2.5 years in UK starting in 2018, had a child there with my english partner but moved back to Melbourne in 2021.

Had our second and after a year went to visit partners family in UK.

Now that I have come back, I keep thinking about if we made the right move. My partner is not 100% happy but is trying to get on with it, I have family here and am close but I can see myself maybe being in the UK.

I grew up in Aus but always felt a loneliness/isolation that I actually didnt feel when I was in London. 

The only thing is I know we wouldnt move back to London (partners family is in Yorkshire but we are not wedded to Yorkshire). So I just dont know what life outside London could be like.

The thing about UK is that nowhere is that far from anywhere else and if you have an Australian perspective of distance you should be fine,  Plenty of nice big Yorkshire cities though now getting good raps - I have a friend whose daughter simply loves Sheffield and another whose son thinks Leeds is the bees knees (wouldnt touch Bradford with a barge pole though LOL).  I once went from Cambridge to Manchester for afternoon tea and from Cambridge to Durham for the day to do family history - it's all so accessible. I would be inclined, as I have said elsewhere to avoid being in the inlaw pockets - for the sake of your little family and so that you both have to learn the same ropes.   As for feeling guilty about leaving your folk - happens to all of us who do it but it is your life they cant live it for you, one family is going to be without no matter where you go.

[Dan Not Dale]

On 10/01/2022 at 12:09, Mdees1 said:

thats what i am really hoping for...

I think I would want to be in Yorkshire because otherwise I don't see the point as we wont be "close" to her parents. But I just have not explored jobs and the likes, more just thinking about it.

the UK village/small towns appealed to me more than I thought, granted we visited friends and family so if I moved back I think it would have to be near friends and family.

Surrey Hills is lovely part of the world and perhaps creating a village like feel wherever I settle in Melbourne is the best option.

Keeping my thoughts from straying until the ideas "emerge" will be the challenge.

I just get a feeling of guilt come over me when I think about moving away from family but my parents are about 10 years younger than hers so I can ping pong I guess.....good to sound these thoughts out!

I’m sure there are many amazing villages in Yorkshire. Very different from London though.

[Dan Not Dale]

Thought would check in here (been nearly 6 months).

Feeling better about Melbourne (likely summer playing a role in that). 

Not had chance to visit Perth yet (covid and lockdowns), also we are now pregnant. 

Melbourne it will be till he is over 12 months old. 

[ali]

5 hours ago, Dan Not Dale said:

Thought would check in here (been nearly 6 months).

Feeling better about Melbourne (likely summer playing a role in that). 

Not had chance to visit Perth yet (covid and lockdowns), also we are now pregnant. 

Melbourne it will be till he is over 12 months old. 

Congratulations on the pregnancy, glad to hear that things are feeling a little better

 

[Mdees1]

20 hours ago, Dan Not Dale said:

Thought would check in here (been nearly 6 months).

Feeling better about Melbourne (likely summer playing a role in that). 

Not had chance to visit Perth yet (covid and lockdowns), also we are now pregnant. 

Melbourne it will be till he is over 12 months old. 

Congratulations!

You will be busier now so will help with the mood you were having. Its been stifling hot but helps remind us why Australia sometimes!

[Dan Not Dale]

29 minutes ago, Mdees1 said:

Congratulations!

You will be busier now so will help with the mood you were having. Its been stifling hot but helps remind us why Australia sometimes!

Yes the odd bbq in the garden works wonders

[BeachBabe2022]

On 16/06/2021 at 11:55, Dan Not Dale said:

 

Although strangely, I dislike Melbourne. 

I’ve made no friends here in 7 years so I realise I could be the problem. Still close with friends back home and I’d be welcomed back in the circle with open arms 

 

 

I absolutely hate Melbourne. As does my husband, even through he was born there, worked there and has family there still. Also found it hard to make friends there. But have made friends in other places in Australia where I have lived. Have you joined any clubs or organisations? As for PP, it has never appealed to me. Would be too expensive and the emotional upheaval would weight to heavily on me (I think). It would be OK if you were single or a couple, but the though of moving children and pets back and forth, gives me the shudders. 

[BeachBabe2022]

On 12/01/2022 at 16:49, Dan Not Dale said:

 

Feeling better about Melbourne (likely summer playing a role in that). 

Yes. Summer makes me happier wherever I am. 

[Bulya]

3 hours ago, BeachBabe2022 said:

I absolutely hate Melbourne. As does my husband, even through he was born there, worked there and has family there still. Also found it hard to make friends there. But have made friends in other places in Australia where I have lived. Have you joined any clubs or organisations? As for PP, it has never appealed to me. Would be too expensive and the emotional upheaval would weight to heavily on me (I think). It would be OK if you were single or a couple, but the though of moving children and pets back and forth, gives me the shudders. 

Same.  I did my sentence there and I’ve behaved since so that I never have to return…

[Mdees1]

wow so much hate for melbourne.....what do people dislike about melbourne. I now many will say the weather!

[Bulya]

51 minutes ago, Mdees1 said:

wow so much hate for melbourne.....what do people dislike about melbourne. I now many will say the weather!

Everything apart from the footy!

[Dan Not Dale]

On 25/01/2022 at 13:21, BeachBabe2022 said:

I absolutely hate Melbourne. As does my husband, even through he was born there, worked there and has family there still. Also found it hard to make friends there. But have made friends in other places in Australia where I have lived. Have you joined any clubs or organisations? As for PP, it has never appealed to me. Would be too expensive and the emotional upheaval would weight to heavily on me (I think). It would be OK if you were single or a couple, but the though of moving children and pets back and forth, gives me the shudders. 

I think a mutual dislike of Melbourne is an essential criteria for any new friend at this point.
Maybe there’s a club for that. 

Jokes aside it is something I need to work on. 

May I ask what prompts the hate?

 

[Dan Not Dale]

18 hours ago, Bulya said:

Everything apart from the footy!

That’s one of the worst parts. I cannot think of any other sport where people deemed professional would be so bad at the game.

Can you think of any sport with a goal of unlimited height with no goalkeeper where they would miss so often. Then add another goal either side, still with no keeper, and they still put it wide of all 3 of them. 

[Blue Flu]

On 25/01/2022 at 10:21, BeachBabe2022 said:

I absolutely hate Melbourne. As does my husband, even through he was born there, worked there and has family there still. Also found it hard to make friends there. But have made friends in other places in Australia where I have lived. Have you joined any clubs or organisations? As for PP, it has never appealed to me. Would be too expensive and the emotional upheaval would weight to heavily on me (I think). It would be OK if you were single or a couple, but the though of moving children and pets back and forth, gives me the shudders. 

Hard to make friends in Melbourne? Possibly. But isn't everywhere in Australia challenging in that area? Perth is rather superficial at best in establishing relationships. My OZ friend from Adelaide found it hard in that city after returning from a prolonged stay in London. 

I can understand the drain on emotions an upheaval would have. Especially with kids and animals. But isn't the word 'hate' a little extreme, for what often sells itself as the nation's most liveable city? I wouldn't mention the 'worlds' as obviously over the top.

[Parley]

Is this the whingers' club? How do people join?

[Toots]

13 minutes ago, Blue Flu said:

Hard to make friends in Melbourne? Possibly. But isn't everywhere in Australia challenging in that area? Perth is rather superficial at best in establishing relationships. My OZ friend from Adelaide found it hard in that city after returning from a prolonged stay in London. 

I can understand the drain on emotions an upheaval would have. Especially with kids and animals. But isn't the word 'hate' a little extreme, for what often sells itself as the nation's most liveable city? I wouldn't mention the 'worlds' as obviously over the top.

I haven't found it challenging to make friends in Australia.  However, I read on this forum how a lot of folk find it to be so.  Don't find it any different to the UK or other places I've lived in.