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7 hours ago, DrDougster said:

I'd be less reluctant about giving things a try with a reluctant other half. We were pretty unsure and travelled fairly light when we came out and now the thought of moving back to UK is as far from our minds as it is in reality.

Ah, but you were unsure together.  That's different. 

I've been on these forums for a long time and have seen so many people - men and women - arrive on these forums because their partner had a dream to move to Australia and they didn't. After years of listening to their partner rhapsodize about Australia, they agree to move, because they know it will make them happy.  It seems like a small sacrifice - after all, Australia is such a lovely place.

Then they arrive and they're terribly homesick.  They realise that their friendships and family are far more important than nice weather, or they discover they have a visceral attachment to their homeland.  But their partner, who loves Australia, thinks it's all fabulous and simply can't understand what their problem is. "You're just not trying". "How can you not love this place?" "Look how much better off we are".  Eventually, the unhappy partner is faced with a choice between a country or their marriage, and surprisingly often, the country wins.

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Scot by birth, emigrated 1985 | Aussie husband applied UK spouse visa Jan 2015, granted March 2015, moved to UK May 2015 | Returned to Oz June 2016

"The stranger who comes home does not make himself at home but makes home itself strange." -- Rainer Maria Rilke

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