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Kareng83

Relocating with 16 year old daughter

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Hi!

We are hoping to move to sydney from Glasgow by the end of this year. 

I have slight concerns about our 16 year old settling in. She is an only child so wouldn't have the comfort of siblings. 

Can anyone share their similar experiences and how it went? 

Thanks in advance 

 

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Where in Sydney will you be living?   


Scot by birth, emigrated 1985 | Aussie husband applied UK spouse visa Jan 2015, granted March 2015, moved to UK May 2015 | Returned to Oz June 2016

"The stranger who comes home does not make himself at home but makes home itself strange." -- Rainer Maria Rilke

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Not sure yet but looking at suburbs near St.George's hospital as that's where I will be working. 

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7 minutes ago, Kareng83 said:

Not sure yet but looking at suburbs near St.George's hospital as that's where I will be working. 

Oh good, that will take some pressure off your budget as you don't need to worry about the commute to the city,. You should be OK finding a suburb in the catchment area for a decent school.  Any idea what your budget for housing would be?  I'd say finding a school and activities where she'd feel comforrtable are the most important things.

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Scot by birth, emigrated 1985 | Aussie husband applied UK spouse visa Jan 2015, granted March 2015, moved to UK May 2015 | Returned to Oz June 2016

"The stranger who comes home does not make himself at home but makes home itself strange." -- Rainer Maria Rilke

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Probs around 800-1000 a week initially I think. Shes into music and plays guitar so that's what I'd be hoping to have access to. 

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Are you moving on a temporary visa or do you have permanency? If temporary, I'd suggest letting her stay with family /friends to finish her A levels. In fact I'd  probably be tempted to do that any way because she's 16. NSW starts the HSC course when kids are 16 in year 11 and you're saying you'll arrive by the end of the year by which time she will have missed most of the first year of a 2 year course - she would really need to arrive in the next couple of weeks to be able to fit into the system.

If you are temporary and will be returning home at the end of a contract there are a couple of issues - one is that HSC results don't travel well back to UK Uni entry requirements and the other is that she will be stung for international student fees because she won't have been resident in the country for 3 years before uni starts.  The other whammy for temporary visa holders in NSW is that education costs you - its $6kpa for the lower years and I think it's more than that for senior years.

If, however, you will have PR or expect to apply for it one day, having A levels will keep her options open as A level results travel well to Australia for Uni entry or she keeps her options open for Uni in UK.

16 is not a good age to be chopping and changing education systems unfortunately.

Apart from all that, how well kids settle really depends on them. For some kids it's  the end of the world and for others it's a good adventure. If they're resilient with the capacity to make friends wherever they go or  they're resilient and happy with their own company they'll probably do well but if they're secure in a long standing cohort it'll be much harder.

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we will be moving with 3 teenagers, 1 is being very difficult about it, she will be almost 17 when we move, i have asked her to come for a year and if she really hates it she can come home to my sister (she is super close to my sister) i have also told them they are welcome to have a friend for a month at a time in the first year. we have all lived in oz before (home 4.5years now) and she was devastated when we returned, hoping she will love oz again tho, i dont think i would be able to be that far away from any of my children but i wont force my dreams on them either.

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5 hours ago, Quoll said:

Are you moving on a temporary visa or do you have permanency? If temporary, I'd suggest letting her stay with family /friends to finish her A levels. In fact I'd  probably be tempted to do that any way because she's 16. NSW starts the HSC course when kids are 16 in year 11 and you're saying you'll arrive by the end of the year by which time she will have missed most of the first year of a 2 year course - she would really need to arrive in the next couple of weeks to be able to fit into the system.

If you are temporary and will be returning home at the end of a contract there are a couple of issues - one is that HSC results don't travel well back to UK Uni entry requirements and the other is that she will be stung for international student fees because she won't have been resident in the country for 3 years before uni starts.  The other whammy for temporary visa holders in NSW is that education costs you - its $6kpa for the lower years and I think it's more than that for senior years.

If, however, you will have PR or expect to apply for it one day, having A levels will keep her options open as A level results travel well to Australia for Uni entry or she keeps her options open for Uni in UK.

16 is not a good age to be chopping and changing education systems unfortunately.

Apart from all that, how well kids settle really depends on them. For some kids it's  the end of the world and for others it's a good adventure. If they're resilient with the capacity to make friends wherever they go or  they're resilient and happy with their own company they'll probably do well but if they're secure in a long standing cohort it'll be much harder.

Thanks. It will be PR we come over on. She started school early at aged 4 meaning she will have completed some of her highers this year in may. So would only be her 6th year she would miss out on. 

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1 minute ago, Kareng83 said:

Thanks. It will be PR we come over on. She started school early at aged 4 meaning she will have completed some of her highers this year in may. So would only be her 6th year she would miss out on. 

Well, no, if you arrive at the end of the year she will have missed out on one year of the 2 year HSC course.  Foreign country, totally different system.  If she has aspirations of Uni she would be better to hang on and finish her schooling in Scotland - when she started schooling in Scotland will be irrelevant in Australia.  Her age cohort will be starting year 11 at the end of this month and she will be disadvantaged if she doesnt do the full 2 year course (they talk about conversions but if you want a good grade for Uni, there is no telling how effective "conversions" are)  - if she would be Uni ready after just one extra year in Scotland, I would definitely leave her to finish that year there then bring those scores to Aus for Uni at that point if she wants an Aus Uni - or, she's taken a belt and braces approach and kept her options of a (isn't it free?) Scottish Uni open as well.

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2 hours ago, thebigmove2017 said:

we will be moving with 3 teenagers, 1 is being very difficult about it, she will be almost 17 when we move, i have asked her to come for a year and if she really hates it she can come home to my sister (she is super close to my sister) i have also told them they are welcome to have a friend for a month at a time in the first year. we have all lived in oz before (home 4.5years now) and she was devastated when we returned, hoping she will love oz again tho, i dont think i would be able to be that far away from any of my children but i wont force my dreams on them either.

Hmm, 17 is a really bad year educationally to move a kid.  As mentioned to the OP, finishing up education in UK is by far the most sensible option - 17 is even worse than 16 tbh! She would be more sensible to finish A levels then move. With that bit of extra maturity and all her options kept open you might be pleasantly surprised to find that she actually is ready for the adventure and that would fit in nicely with starting Uni.  She's got time enough to move

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2 hours ago, thebigmove2017 said:

we will be moving with 3 teenagers, 1 is being very difficult about it, she will be almost 17 when we move, i have asked her to come for a year and if she really hates it she can come home to my sister (she is super close to my sister) i have also told them they are welcome to have a friend for a month at a time in the first year. we have all lived in oz before (home 4.5years now) and she was devastated when we returned, hoping she will love oz again tho, i dont think i would be able to be that far away from any of my children but i wont force my dreams on them either.

Thanks. My daughter is really up for it some of the time then other times a bit aprehensive which is totally understandable. Leaving her wouldn't be an option for us so if she was to be really against it we wouldn't go . Realise it's such a difficult age anyway just think it's a great opportunity so hopefully we can all give it a go! 

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Hmm, 17 is a really bad year educationally to move a kid.  As mentioned to the OP, finishing up education in UK is by far the most sensible option - 17 is even worse than 16 tbh! She would be more sensible to finish A levels then move. With that bit of extra maturity and all her options kept open you might be pleasantly surprised to find that she actually is ready for the adventure and that would fit in nicely with starting Uni.  She's got time enough to move
She will have finished school. We are Irish so will have done her leaving certificate in Ireland, which is recognised in Australia.

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Thanks. My daughter is really up for it some of the time then other times a bit aprehensive which is totally understandable. Leaving her wouldn't be an option for us so if she was to be really against it we wouldn't go . Realise it's such a difficult age anyway just think it's a great opportunity so hopefully we can all give it a go! 
I genuinely hope that by giving it at least the year she will love it all over again and hense im kind of calling her bluff that she wont want to move back. Perhaps wishful thinking but we will work it out as a family together. Oz for us has much better finacial prosepects as well as our love for the sun and the way of life.

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12 hours ago, Quoll said:

Hmm, 17 is a really bad year educationally to move a kid.  As mentioned to the OP, finishing up education in UK is by far the most sensible option - 17 is even worse than 16 tbh! She would be more sensible to finish A levels then move. With that bit of extra maturity and all her options kept open you might be pleasantly surprised to find that she actually is ready for the adventure and that would fit in nicely with starting Uni.  She's got time enough to 

 

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Appreciate your input thank you. My original post though was just looking for people to share their personal experiences. 

My daughter will have finished most of her highers/A level equivalents by this may. 

At present she has no intention of starting a uni course as she is unsure what she wants to do. As she is so young she has plenty of time to return to study be that here or in Australia.  

My main concerns are socially how she will adapt . Sorry for any confusion on my post. 

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