newjez 10,751 Posted December 31, 2016 I don't know if it's a symptom of being seriously ill, but my life did flash before me when I was. When I say flash, it was probably more like unrolled before me. As I watched it, I'd never before realised that there were several distinct turning points which I'd taken the wrong decision. Screwed up terribly a few times, and my life would be vastly different if I had chosen the other way. But the thing that bugs me is I love my life. I'm not rich but I'm wealthy. I have three lovely sons. I have a wife I adore. If I had made those 'correct' choices would I be happier? Maybe, maybe not. Maybe they weren't mistakes. Nearly there! Don't drop the ball now guys! Vaccines are weeks away. Stay safe! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NicF 911 Posted December 31, 2016 I don't know if it's a symptom of being seriously ill, but my life did flash before me when I was. When I say flash, it was probably more like unrolled before me. As I watched it, I'd never before realised that there were several distinct turning points which I'd taken the wrong decision. Screwed up terribly a few times, and my life would be vastly different if I had chosen the other way. But the thing that bugs me is I love my life. I'm not rich but I'm wealthy. I have three lovely sons. I have a wife I adore. If I had made those 'correct' choices would I be happier? Maybe, maybe not. Maybe they weren't mistakes. I tend to think that things work out for the best in the end. Didn't get one job? Well the job I did get was a better location with better colleagues. Didn't manage to buy a house we liked? Well the house we did buy suited us better anyway. There are plenty of things I did or didn't do where things could have turned out differently but I tend to think that even the "mistakes" were the right decisions in the long run. Or maybe I'm just an expert at thinking positively and talking myself in to believing that things are better the way they have turned out than they way they would have been otherwise. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving. Dale Carnegie – 1888-1955, Author and Lecturer Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Que Sera Sera 6,268 Posted December 31, 2016 Whenever you're feeling this way, whack on a bit of Frankie Sinatra Regrets I've had a few, but then again........... You'll soon feel better :yes: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bungo 45 Posted December 31, 2016 I don't overthink these things and try not to dwell on mistakes I may or may not have made. When I do start to feel that way I generally go for the old chestnut line that I made the best decision that I could at the time with the information I had. That usually makes me feel better. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
newjez 10,751 Posted December 31, 2016 I don't overthink these things and try not to dwell on mistakes I may or may not have made. When I do start to feel that way I generally go for the old chestnut line that I made the best decision that I could at the time with the information I had. That usually makes me feel better. ah, but I didn't, and sometimes I hurt people needlessly because of my imaturity and lack of self confidence. Although, at the time I didn't realise how foolish I was. Maybe I was just lucky. Or maybe life offers us many opportunities, and maybe I learned a bit from my mistakes. In fact I know I did. Nearly there! Don't drop the ball now guys! Vaccines are weeks away. Stay safe! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flag of convenience 3,987 Posted January 1, 2017 We only learn when we realise just how little we really know. Let alone letting go what is really very unimportant. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bunbury61 4,216 Posted January 1, 2017 I tend to think that things work out for the best in the end. Didn't get one job? Well the job I did get was a better location with better colleagues. Didn't manage to buy a house we liked? Well the house we did buy suited us better anyway. There are plenty of things I did or didn't do where things could have turned out differently but I tend to think that even the "mistakes" were the right decisions in the long run. Or maybe I'm just an expert at thinking positively and talking myself in to believing that things are better the way they have turned out than they way they would have been otherwise. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Great way to think Nic ... It will hold you in good stead BUT I DONT FEEL AFRAID AS LONG AS I GAZE AT WATERLOO SUNSET IAM IN PARADISE Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Diane 507 Posted January 1, 2017 Coincidentally this came up in my newsfeed this morning: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
the bottler 11,190 Posted January 2, 2017 not only when I was young but later in life when I should have known better ... what is done is done ... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
benj1980 448 Posted January 2, 2017 Yes my life could certainly have gone in a few directions. I'm happy now so I can't complain. There is always an element of what if... Not sure if that will ever leave me! AITSL assessment complete-09/10/2014 | IELTS L8.5, R8, W8.5, S8.5. -13/12/2014 | EOI submitted 07/01/2015 (65) invite 09/01/2015 | 189 Visa applied - 10/01/2015 | Meds -20/02/2015 | PCC-08/03/2015 | Visa granted! - 20/03/2015. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BritChickx 10,877 Posted January 3, 2017 I've made a couple of genuine, big mistakes. A case of ignoring gut feelings and not seeing things for what they were. I definitely like to learn things the hard way . I guess I shouldn't regret it because I have had positive experiences since but I sometimes wonder what life would be like if I hadn't. I am in a better place than where I was though and I suppose that's the main thing. I have a lot to look forward to. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
