MARYROSE02 Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 There is no need to feel any guilt at all. You are suffering an illness which is not at all your fault. Most of the ignorant types who would try to make you feel guilty about being depressed would probably be laying crumpled in a heap if they felt any of what your illness inflicts upon you. I have been on many different anti-depressants since 1981. Some are easier to stop than others. Some have withdrawal effects and some must be stopped for at least 2 weeks before another medication can be started. I have found that for me anti-depressants have a spectacular therapeutic effect that lasts for anything from 2 weeks to several months before it just stops working. Then my p-doc would generally change me to another one. It's often the case that you may need to try several different medications and even different combinations of medications before the correct one for you is found. Although many of these medications have reputations for being difficult to stop I have never had much problem myself, but have read harrowing accounts of withdrawal symptoms others have suffered. So it varies for person to person. It seems that my case is one of the rarer that are quite treatment resistant. I have been on MAOIs, Tricyclics and SSRIs. I have lost count of the number of different brands I have tried over the years. MAOIs have been the most effective for me as they have tamped down my social phobia while also relieving my depression. But sadly, it's still not enough to be considered fully effective. I still feel depressed just not as depressed. And I still suffer from social phobia - in fact that is the main reason I am currently living in my car. I cannot compete effectively in the job market. At best the interviewer would think that I have no personality and at worst I would seem like a clueless dolt. But actually it's just that I am in a state of low terror during the interview. I just noticed your post - been working my way through this thread. Social phobia and/or shyness has been a problem at times. At uni in the 1980's I found the tutorials horrible, crowded into a small room, and unable to open my mouth for an entire year. Now I'm doing my Open Uni degree, a generation later, and it's all on line, but I am contributing to the forums, and to be honest, if I had 'face-to-face' tutes again, I don't think have any problem. I think 'social phobia' is all about the fear of being judged by other people. You know, 'I walk into the pub, and I'm sure that everybody is looking at me' or 'How can I go to a gym when all the 'jocks' will be laughing at my weedy body.' But in reality, nobody is looking, and they all have their own problems to worry about. Have you ever had any therapy? That can help. It helped me in fact. I remember after my first appointment with the guy I see, I was pumped up enough to go to an open mic poetry evening and read my own (crap) poem aloud! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MARYROSE02 Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 I phoned them for depression once. Reply was that ........"if I found Jesus and took him into my life"........ I would not be depressed. WTF they are not allowed to do that. Anyway I was so shocked by their response that it snapped me out of my depression. I have had bouts of the Black Dog my entire life. Made worse in the past 15 years by a medical condition that is hard to cope with and wears me down (Crohn's). I have minimal support in Australia with this. Personally I don't like taking medication drugs at all. I am very sensitive and suffer from side effects. Which then require yet more medication to correct. Last year I saw a herbalist and she put me on a mixture of Rhodiola and Schisandra, and they changed my life.........I was literally happy 24/7 with no side effects. In fact, I was so happy all the time, I had to cut back on the dosage!! :smile: Suffering from Crohn's Disease must wear you down? I thought there might be some support groups around for something like this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumpingjellybean Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 Blimey, that is absolutely NOT Lifeline protocol Yes I know. Rare I am sure. But heard of other people it has happened too as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumpingjellybean Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 Suffering from Crohn's Disease must wear you down? I thought there might be some support groups around for something like this? There are online. But never met anyone else in real life who has it. The daily grind of it gets me down and depression is associated with it - although had depression long before Crohns. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumpingjellybean Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 the major disadvantage of Citalapram is that it has destroyed my libido! The herbal mix I took last year worked for depression and libido. Another reason for me lowering the dosage - I was happy and horny all the time :laugh: to the point of distraction! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumpingjellybean Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 I forgot to mention that: Meditation (as opposed to medication) is excellent for people suffering from depression. Guided meditations on tape or CD are particularly useful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newjez Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 I used to suffer as a teenager young adult. Even had a full blown breakdown in my thirties. Haven't had a problem with it for ages now. Not sure why. Maybe my age? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzukiscottie Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 There are online. But never met anyone else in real life who has it. The daily grind of it gets me down and depression is associated with it - although had depression long before Crohns. Crohns and UC; There's a lot of it about in growing numbers according to my Gastro specialist. Infliximab infusions have made a massive change to my quality of life. [emoji106]? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MARYROSE02 Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 Crohns and UC; There's a lot of it about in growing numbers according to my Gastro specialist. Infliximab infusions have made a massive change to my quality of life. [emoji106]? Crohns is horrible. What is UC? Stress often seems to hit in the gut? IBS? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzukiscottie Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 Crohns is horrible. What is UC? Stress often seems to hit in the gut? IBS? Ulcerative colitis Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petkula73 Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 Ulcerative colitis My wife had ulcerative colitis in the late 90s and it's horrible. Basically her whole colon was covered in ulcers for about two years, which really impacted on her quality of life. She was pumped up on hydrocortisone too, which bloated her out and added to the general lack of well being. Anyway, to cut a long story short, she was living in Finland at the time and the Finns have a very aggressive surgical policy in dealing with it, so in 1999 she had the whole of her colon removed and an internal pouch created from her small intestine. Sounds extremely dramatic, and it was at the time, but after around three months she was more or less back to normal and fifteen years on she's never looked back. Other than a scar there's really no sign that she had previously been that ill. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ADG Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Hi, My partner and I are seriously considering emigrating this year to Oz. I have been diagnosed with Depression since the age of 21. 29 years on and medication has really helped and I have not had any severe episodes for about 7-8 yeas. I still am on medication, lead a healthy lifestyle and do all that one should to self-help. I have held down a full time job since the age of 18 and been a single mum for 10 years before meeting my partner almost 4 years ago. My partner is very anxious that I will not pass the medial due to me taking medication. Did you have any issues and do you have any advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annaray Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 On 5/24/2015 at 11:44 AM, MARYROSE02 said: I just noticed your post - been working my way through this thread. Social phobia and/or shyness has been a problem at times. At uni in the 1980's I found the tutorials horrible, crowded into a small room, and unable to open my mouth for an entire year. Now I'm doing my Open Uni degree, a generation later, and it's all on line, but I am contributing to the forums, and to be honest, if I had 'face-to-face' tutes again, I don't think have any problem. I think 'social phobia' is all about the fear of being judged by other people. You know, 'I walk into the pub, and I'm sure that everybody is looking at me' or 'How can I go to a gym when all the 'jocks' will be laughing at my weedy body.' But in reality, nobody is looking, and they all have their own problems to worry about. Have you ever had any therapy? That can help. It helped me in fact. I remember after my first appointment with the guy I see, I was pumped up enough to go to an open mic poetry evening and read my own (crap) poem aloud! I have social phobia too. Whenever I am eating by myself or shopping alone I always felt like people were judging me. Although it wouldn't matter even if they did. But I feel much better now. Though it took me a long time to make friends in school and college, the few friends that I have collected over the years are one of the best people I could surround myself with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Pom Queen Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 4 hours ago, annaray said: I have social phobia too. Whenever I am eating by myself or shopping alone I always felt like people were judging me. Although it wouldn't matter even if they did. But I feel much better now. Though it took me a long time to make friends in school and college, the few friends that I have collected over the years are one of the best people I could surround myself with. I have to say since going in a wheelchair I have struggled with going out because I feel everyone will judge. When you don't have a visible illness people don't make allowances or seem to understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perthbum Posted June 5, 2017 Share Posted June 5, 2017 On 2017-4-20 at 16:16, The Pom Queen said: I have to say since going in a wheelchair I have struggled with going out because I feel everyone will judge. When you don't have a visible illness people don't make allowances or seem to understand. My heart goes out to you pom queen, its just not fair that we have to suffer these illnesses, I suffered from depression a few years back and I don't know why it happened, I had a great life was in good health but this black cloud came over me and no matter how I tried it would not go away, its the most horrible feeling, your stomach is in knots you cant sleep you do not want to eat, you do not want to get out of bed, you do not want to do anything, it lasted over a year but thankfully the cloud has lifted but now and again I can feel it moving towards me again and it takes all my will-power to move out of its way, I don't know if it will engulf me gain but one thing I have learned is the sorrow and empathy I feel for anyone who is going through this awful gut wrenching condition. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Maya White Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 Hello, Good Post for them who are suffering from Depression. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GovardSlark Posted October 25, 2019 Share Posted October 25, 2019 Depression is not a bad thing it depends which way you look at it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annatour Posted November 26, 2019 Share Posted November 26, 2019 On 25/10/2019 at 21:35, GovardSlark said: Depression is not a bad thing it depends which way you look at it animals get depressed and we had a dog who got depressed when his mate died. I think there is too much pressure on people to be happy. Or to seem.happy. Society says you cant reply to "how are you?" With "really down, depressed, p***ed off" ! I think It is wise to let those close to you know when you feel down. and realise it is totally normal and natural. Without downs there will be no ups! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gbye grey sky Posted November 26, 2019 Share Posted November 26, 2019 11 minutes ago, annatour said: animals get depressed and we had a dog who got depressed when his mate died. I think there is too much pressure on people to be happy. Or to seem.happy. Society says you cant reply to "how are you?" With "really down, depressed, p***ed off" ! I think It is wise to let those close to you know when you feel down. and realise it is totally normal and natural. Without downs there will be no ups! The reason you cannot reply to “how are you” with a downer response is because hardly anyone who asks is genuinely interested. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jojoz Posted August 2, 2022 Share Posted August 2, 2022 I was in the same boat. I think it's better to cunsult with specialist who can prescribe the right treatment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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