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OK I will start the ball rolling from my own perspective.

 

I think I make a good one.

 

- Parents are gone and what family are left in the UK are not close

- I have a reasonable job and thus pay a fair amount of tax - top bracket

- have lived other places other than the UK so used to meeting new people and also used to many of them moving on after a while

 

Only drawback i feel is that I like to move on after a few years and so do not intend on staying but if push came to shove I could. I would consider staying more if I could get good sausages

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One that has a fair knowledge of what they are coming to, someone that likes the climate they are coming to and enjoys the sea and sport.:cool: Not that bothered about leaving friends and family, partner, if they have one, with the same mindset.

 

Don't expect a job to fall in your lap, people coming round to invite you out for drinks, streets to be paved with gold, a 4 bed house with a pool next to the beach for $200,000. Don't let your first thought, when you get here, be wonder how long it will be before we can afford a holiday back to the UK, or plan on going back every couple of years for that matter. You would never get out of the rut of having to save up for your next trip.

 

Don't live your life through skype, facebook, twitter and the friends you left behind in England. Don't get jealous when they tell you how many holidays they've had to Ibiza in the year, you live in a better place than Ibiza.:cool:

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One that has a fair knowledge of what they are coming to, someone that likes the climate they are coming to and enjoys the sea and sport.:cool: Not that bothered about leaving friends and family, partner, if they have one, with the same mindset.

 

Don't expect a job to fall in your lap, people coming round to invite you out for drinks, streets to be paved with gold, a 4 bed house with a pool next to the beach for $200,000. Don't let your first thought, when you get here, be wonder how long it will be before we can afford a holiday back to the UK, or plan on going back every couple of years for that matter. You would never get out of the rut of having to save up for your next trip.

 

Don't live your life through skype, facebook, twitter and the friends you left behind in England. Don't get jealous when they tell you how many holidays they've had to Ibiza in the year, you live in a better place than Ibiza.:cool:

 

 

Well i I must be a well crap migrant then pmsl x

 

 

i like the climate , and the sea , you would not be normal if you didn't miss family and friends .

 

i did expect a job fall in hubby's lap if I'm honest never had issues before , no major issues really just not much about , he's never come across it in his career .

 

I expect a 4 bed house , and a pool , and a games room and a bar yes I do!

 

Not for 200'000 though I am realistic lol .

 

i do plan on going back every couple of years for a hol .

 

I am on fb a lot because I know no one .

 

i miss my friends in uk , wit and humour I miss and fun to be around .

 

However my hubby does think certain things are better here and certain things are worse .

 

i don't believe one pom who hasn't come live the so called dream . They all are after something better or what would be the point . Lol .

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Just do what you did from where you came, no different really just takes time to adjust and make good of the things you miss, and get used to people who for some reason carry a bitter pill everywhere they go?

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Understand that you are moving to another country and that you will feel foreign - and that feeling may stay with you for a long time.

Be prepared to never fit in entirely - you will always be made to feel "other" when the Ashes are on.....

Be an independent person who does not rely on family for childcare. Be someone who has already moved away from the town you were born in so that Mum is not around the corner.

Accept that if you have teenage children you have taken a big risk in uprooting them and you have possibly prioritized your wants over their needs.

Accept that if you can't afford to move to London you probably can't have a great life in Inner Sydney or Melbourne

Appreciate that if you don't like the heat or the beach, you may quickly get bored in Perth

Know that middle aged Australians are probably not in the market to recruit new best buddies. You have vacancies - they don't.

Understand that the British way of doing everything is not necessarily the gold standard - if things are done differently, it does not mean they are done wrong.

 

Most importantly - be prepared to go back. the people who love you, will still love you, will not think you made a mistake of a fool of yourself - and they will be delighted!

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Understand that you are moving to another country and that you will feel foreign - and that feeling may stay with you for a long time.

Be prepared to never fit in entirely - you will always be made to feel "other" when the Ashes are on.....

Be an independent person who does not rely on family for childcare. Be someone who has already moved away from the town you were born in so that Mum is not around the corner.

Accept that if you have teenage children you have taken a big risk in uprooting them and you have possibly prioritized your wants over their needs.

Accept that if you can't afford to move to London you probably can't have a great life in Inner Sydney or Melbourne

Appreciate that if you don't like the heat or the beach, you may quickly get bored in Perth

Know that middle aged Australians are probably not in the market to recruit new best buddies. You have vacancies - they don't.

Understand that the British way of doing everything is not necessarily the gold standard - if things are done differently, it does not mean they are done wrong.

 

Most importantly - be prepared to go back. the people who love you, will still love you, will not think you made a mistake of a fool of yourself - and they will be delighted!

 

This defines a bad migrant pretty well.

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My hubby tells them theve done stuff wrong all the time lol. Not because he likes to say but because they have if he says they have , he will work in their best interests , to make money and to not look a *** in front of the customer .

 

He he doesn't like saying , but he will follow the law specifications and prove it , if they carnt prove it then there is no argument lol . Not that he thinks we do it better he would stand the same for uk too .

 

my teenagers I thought they would be better off here , not saying they worse off yet there's still time . Lol .

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Never forget why you decided to emigrate in the first place.

 

If you have a partner, be in agreement.

 

Have realistic expectations financially.

 

Do your research beforehand and take a balanced approach.

 

Expect to adapt to your new environment rather than expect the country and people to adapt to you.

 

Look forward, rather than back.

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Very true rue that were me haha , awww look at that I wish sitting there eating my cornflakes , what a life haha very disappointed I'm nieave lol .

 

Afraid your not alone there. Spin is slick these days and often over rules common sense. I feel for folk that were somehow sucked it. Still make the best of it and time will decide the way forward.

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Go with the flow, don't continually fight it. Have a bit of humility , you are no better than anyone else. Accept help and smile and be polite, in my experience that's exactly what I get back.

 

I agree with you and I do all those things , but I just get **** on , I will do out for anyone , would never think I'm better than anyone , always smiling I'm always laughing have lots of manners , but like a good laugh . I will find my way though eventually lol .

 

oh oh I don't do rough though , not because i think I'm better , but because I just don't like that kind of atmosphere . Everybody will not be everyone's cup of tea . Lol. Or miserable people I don't do lol .

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Understand that you are moving to another country and that you will feel foreign - and that feeling may stay with you for a long time.

Be prepared to never fit in entirely - you will always be made to feel "other" when the Ashes are on.....

Be an independent person who does not rely on family for childcare. Be someone who has already moved away from the town you were born in so that Mum is not around the corner.

Accept that if you have teenage children you have taken a big risk in uprooting them and you have possibly prioritized your wants over their needs.

Accept that if you can't afford to move to London you probably can't have a great life in Inner Sydney or Melbourne

Appreciate that if you don't like the heat or the beach, you may quickly get bored in Perth

Know that middle aged Australians are probably not in the market to recruit new best buddies. You have vacancies - they don't.

Understand that the British way of doing everything is not necessarily the gold standard - if things are done differently, it does not mean they are done wrong.

 

Most importantly - be prepared to go back. the people who love you, will still love you, will not think you made a mistake of a fool of yourself - and they will be delighted!

 

Why should we feel "other" when the Ashes are on?

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Don't overthink it..have an open mind..it's another country not another planet...expect the best and plan for the worst...make the most of every opportunity that comes your way...be sensible about what you can afford....don't try to go from half a bitter to a magnum of dom perignon....be yourselves...don't try too hard...don't affect a fake accent...don't say pardee or warder.....stay in touch with your loved ones but remind yourself why you left.....go with the flow....remember nothing has to be forever..you're in charge...be the driver not the passenger....erm...that's all....

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One that has a fair knowledge of what they are coming to, someone that likes the climate they are coming to and enjoys the sea and sport.:cool: Not that bothered about leaving friends and family, partner, if they have one, with the same mindset.

 

Don't expect a job to fall in your lap, people coming round to invite you out for drinks, streets to be paved with gold, a 4 bed house with a pool next to the beach for $200,000. Don't let your first thought, when you get here, be wonder how long it will be before we can afford a holiday back to the UK, or plan on going back every couple of years for that matter. You would never get out of the rut of having to save up for your next trip.

 

Don't live your life through skype, facebook, twitter and the friends you left behind in England. Don't get jealous when they tell you how many holidays they've had to Ibiza in the year, you live in a better place than Ibiza.:cool:

 

pretty much sums up what I would say.

 

apart from the not bothered about leaving friends and family. I was bothered, had great friends and a loving family....but we werent in each others pockets.

 

ie if your someone who just has to see your mum/sister/brother everyday...then you will struggle.

 

i miss the nights out with my mates for sure...but I've been willing to adapt. At the moment most of the friends I have here have young family, we don't. So I can just phone up a mate and say "shall we head to town after work". Not all the time, but mainly its socialising via back yards. But that's fine with me.

 

Haha the Ibiza thing...yes that was me when I first moved here. Got jealous of mates heading off on their euro hols. But hold on a minute...they get two weeks of it...I live somewhere where I live the resort lifestyle everyday of the year.

 

it takes time to settle...for me I didn't even realise I had until I thought ..hold on I've not thought about the UK for ages.

 

you can tell straight off...who is going to make a successful migrant or not. Even the ones who swear blind before they come that this is what they want.

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That's for my husband who would like to support Australia in the cricket if he chooses - as an Australian citizen of many years - but he never gets the choice once people hear the trace of accent - automatic assumption that you will support the English team - which is not always a happy thing to do!

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