Kerry Pollard 10 Posted April 11, 2013 I can't believe I am actually home, its strange to think a week ago I was still living in Oz? even though its only been 5 and half days since I landed, I can't tell u how happier I feel, even noticed a difference in my son. I think u know what is right for u and what isn't, I know I will never go back to Oz, it wasn't just family I missed, it was everything. Even though the hubby is still in Oz, its not as hard as I thought it would be and I'm still not sure when he'll be back but that's up to him. I have done what was right for me and my son and I am so glad I did. I can't believe I wasted 11 months of my life, I was so unhappy and miserable and can't believe I stayed that long, it doesn't matter how long u give it, I think u know if its not right for u and I am so glad I listened to my heart and not what everybody was saying. I don't think any amount of research and planning u do, can actually prepare u for how u are going to feel. it affects people differently and for some people it works and for some people it doesn't. I was one of those ones that it didn't work for and I'm sure i wont be the last. kerry. Xx:biggrin::biggrin: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chortlepuss 426 Posted April 11, 2013 Great to hear you sounding so happy Kerry - but I don't think you wasted 11 months of your life. You gave it a go, and came back with a renewed enthusiasm for home. When I go back I won't miss out on opportunities to make the most of everything - and it sounds like you won't either! keep us posted........ Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lucia 18 Posted April 11, 2013 Oooh, I was just thinking about you today and wondering how you're getting on! Glad to hear that you are feeling happier already and I hope it wasn't too stressful with the move! I'm dreading that last week or two before leaving Oz with all the packing up and cleaning etc! Keep us posted about your new adventures at home! Subclass 309 (de-facto spouse) sent off 09/02/08 Case officer and Meds/police check requested 26/02/08 VISA GRANTED!!! 17/04/08 Arrived 15/09/08 Hoping to return to Blighty in 2014 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
starlight7 4,198 Posted April 11, 2013 Glad you are feeling happy now - your time here wouldn't have been wasted though- at the very least you learnt something about yourself! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Quoll 6,093 Posted April 11, 2013 Good to hear you are feeling so much happier, Kerry! I didnt believe in situational depression myself until I experienced it - there is no accounting for taste is there?! Onwards and upwards, hope it gets even better from here and hope the DH does decide his family is the most important thing in the world to him. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 11, 2013 So good to here from you Kerry and so glad you are feeling better already. You had to give ut as long as you did to have no regrets so don't have regrets that you gave it as long as you did. Can't wait to join you Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nic1171 313 Posted April 11, 2013 Dont think of it as wasted but as experience, at least you wont live to regret 'what if'. 2012 IELTS 26/5 ANMAC 27/10 2013 LOD 14/03 AHPRA 08/05 LOE 30/05 EOI for QLD SS submitted and invited (same day) 30/05 190 Visa lodged 11/06 Medicals 29/06 CO allocated 12/7 PCC 23/7 extra docs 18/8 VISA GRANTED 23/8! Flights booked 10 Sept Brisbane bound! :jiggy: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kerry Pollard 10 Posted April 11, 2013 I know I shouldn't see it as wasted time but I do, it wasn't a life I was leading it was an existence but that is in the past and u are right by saying I will never say "what if " Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kerry Pollard 10 Posted April 11, 2013 Oooh, I was just thinking about you today and wondering how you're getting on!Glad to hear that you are feeling happier already and I hope it wasn't too stressful with the move! I'm dreading that last week or two before leaving Oz with all the packing up and cleaning etc! Keep us posted about your new adventures at home! I only had 2 suitcases so not much moving to be honest, my OH has that to sort out as he's still in the house back in OZ. it will go so fast and it was the best feeling ever to land in Manchester and have my brothers waiting for me. Xx hope your move goes as quick, you'll be home before u know it. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whatsitallabout 10 Posted April 11, 2013 So Glad that you're OK & happy!! It must be a relive to you to be back where you belong. Australia is not for everyone but people don't seem to understand that. Wish you all the best Kerry enjoy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kerry Pollard 10 Posted April 11, 2013 So Glad that you're OK & happy!! It must be a relive to you to be back where you belong. Australia is not for everyone but people don't seem to understand that. Wish you all the best Kerry enjoy Thank you. I intend to enjoy every minute of it. X Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cartertucker 2,566 Posted April 17, 2013 Welcome 'Home'... :cute: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Desprado 10 Posted April 18, 2013 (edited) Glad your happy to be back home, I can relate to you as I left 8 months ago with my Daughter! My husband stayed on for 3 months think he would have stayed for ever ! It takes alot of courage to do it alone. I wasted 2 years in Australia and will never return! There's no place like home. Good luck Edited April 18, 2013 by Desprado Spelling Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MACDONALDO67 74 Posted April 18, 2013 Desperado and Kerry. When you were going to Oz were you excited, ecstatic, looking forward to the change of life? Without trawling through your posts what happened? What went so wrong? What was it that made you dislike Australia? Just interested to know. If it happens then it happens. If it doesn't well it doesn't. Amor Fati !! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jacaranda 1,352 Posted April 18, 2013 Welcome home Kerry,I am so glad you are happy!Life is too short to be miserable!:hug: When the power of love overcomes the love of power,the world will know peace ~ Jimi Hendrix Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
paul1977 169 Posted April 18, 2013 Desperado and Kerry. When you were going to Oz were you excited, ecstatic, looking forward to the change of life? Without trawling through your posts what happened? What went so wrong? What was it that made you dislike Australia? Just interested to know. Maybe it was expectations exceeding reality ??? paul :jiggy: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest chris955 Posted April 18, 2013 Maybe it was expectations exceeding reality ??? Reading some of the posts from potential migrants it seems to be a very common phenomenon. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chortlepuss 426 Posted April 19, 2013 What went so wrong? What was it that made you dislike Australia? Just interested to know. I think a lot of people moving home like Australia. I certainly think it's a lovely place, but I can't have the kind of life I want here. It's not all about money (although being skint isn't fun), it's about a wish to belong, not always be on the outside, plan for the future. I've just been watching Stephen Fry on the telly talking about Shakespeare. Makes me want to be back 'amongst the English'! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lamada 10 Posted April 19, 2013 I can't believe I am actually home, its strange to think a week ago I was still living in Oz?even though its only been 5 and half days since I landed, I can't tell u how happier I feel, even noticed a difference in my son. I think u know what is right for u and what isn't, I know I will never go back to Oz, it wasn't just family I missed, it was everything. Even though the hubby is still in Oz, its not as hard as I thought it would be and I'm still not sure when he'll be back but that's up to him. I have done what was right for me and my son and I am so glad I did. I can't believe I wasted 11 months of my life, I was so unhappy and miserable and can't believe I stayed that long, it doesn't matter how long u give it, I think u know if its not right for u and I am so glad I listened to my heart and not what everybody was saying. I don't think any amount of research and planning u do, can actually prepare u for how u are going to feel. it affects people differently and for some people it works and for some people it doesn't. I was one of those ones that it didn't work for and I'm sure i wont be the last. kerry. Xx:biggrin::biggrin: hi Kerry SNAP!!!!!! I could have written the above myself! Have been home just over three weeks and am ME again! Don't look at the time spent there as a waste, it all adds to our experiences in life and has made us appreciate home more! good luck for the future and to everyone making the move home. xxx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
starlight7 4,198 Posted April 19, 2013 I think we all have a kind of inner sense when we are in the right place- same with when we are in the 'wrong' place. For me Australia has always been 'right' since the moment I arrived but I have friends who have always hankered for life back in Britain from the start. Just what makes us all different, it wouldn't be an interesting life if we were all the same. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
michelleshane 10 Posted April 19, 2013 Iam so jealous to here your home and have landed in manchester my home town,, we are hoping to be back there in october this year as i feel exactly the same as you did been here 7 months now and i think i new after the first that i had made a big mistake but glad it because i would have been one of those always telling myself what if,, if we didnt, so pleased for you . Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Woofyhugger 92 Posted April 19, 2013 You didn't waste 11 months of your life at all. You experienced new things, you challenged yourself, and you grew from that. I am glad you're home and happy. Matt Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kerry Pollard 10 Posted May 2, 2013 Desperado and Kerry. When you were going to Oz were you excited, ecstatic, looking forward to the change of life? Without trawling through your posts what happened? What went so wrong? What was it that made you dislike Australia? Just interested to know. i was very excited and nervous, looking forward to the whole adventure but when we got their I knew I should have never got on that plane, only because I realised it was my OH's dream and not mine, I left my life, my job, my home, my family, I left me behind too. It was very hard for me to come to terms with the fact I had made a mistake and I do regret going but glad I did in a small way, as at least I tried it. i found it very hard, as I couldn't get a job and I tried everything, it's not what u do, it's who u know. I felt isolated, even though I tried the mother and toddler groups, their was just nothing where we lived, my hubby was busy enjoying his new life, so he didn't see how depressed I was getting. He didn't want to see it, he is still their and I'm not sure when he'll return or if he will at all but I'm not worrying about that, me and my son are happy and I will never go back to Australia again. Xx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kerry Pollard 10 Posted May 2, 2013 Iam so jealous to here your home and have landed in manchester my home town,, we are hoping to be back there in october this year as i feel exactly the same as you did been here 7 months now and i think i new after the first that i had made a big mistake but glad it because i would have been one of those always telling myself what if,, if we didnt, so pleased for you . It will go so fast, can't believe I've been back a month already. Xxx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MACDONALDO67 74 Posted May 2, 2013 i was very excited and nervous, looking forward to the whole adventure but when we got their I knew I should have never got on that plane, only because I realised it was my OH's dream and not mine, I left my life, my job, my home, my family, I left me behind too. It was very hard for me to come to terms with the fact I had made a mistake and I do regret going but glad I did in a small way, as at least I tried it. i found it very hard, as I couldn't get a job and I tried everything, it's not what u do, it's who u know. I felt isolated, even though I tried the mother and toddler groups, their was just nothing where we lived, my hubby was busy enjoying his new life, so he didn't see how depressed I was getting. He didn't want to see it, he is still their and I'm not sure when he'll return or if he will at all but I'm not worrying about that, me and my son are happy and I will never go back to Australia again. Xx Sorry to hear that but glad you are now happy. You have to do what is right for you and your son. If it happens then it happens. If it doesn't well it doesn't. Amor Fati !! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
