helly80 Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I've been in Melbourne now for nearly 4 weeks and today is the first day I could quite easily have just got on a plane home. I know it's hard at this time of year, I expected it would be but I'm feeling so sad and crying all the time! I've struggled to look happy on FaceTime today when talking to my parents. Don't want them to know I'm feeling sad as it will make them worry. Don't get me wrong, I've enjoyed my time here so far and we've done loads of great things.. We're here on a 457 visa and m partner is the one being sponsored. I'm not working yet which I think isn't helping. I am missing friends so much and wonder if I'll ever make friends here. Maybe I'll feel more settled once I'm working, hope so. That's another worry in itself, finding a job! glad to get it off my chest! Try to not show OH that I'm homesick in case I drag him down too and make him miserable! thanks for listening to me! H x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
northshorepom Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Chin up. It can be a really tough time of year especially for new arrivals. You've been here such a short time you're bound to be in some turmoil. You're right to see getting a job as a priority - sort that and much of the rest will fall into place, no one makes friends (anywhere) in a day but with work you'll meet people, possibly get plugged into some social scene Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freckleface Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Given you have only been here for 4 weeks (and it is Christmas) I would be surprised if you weren't feeling homesick and out of sorts. :hug: I wouldn't be surprised to find out your OH is having similar feelings as well. Perhaps acknowledging how you feel to your partner wouldn't be such a bad idea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rupert Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I felt like a fish out of water for the first three weeks, didn't know what on earth I was doing here, it was like being on Planet Zog. It was bound to be a whole lot harder this time of year, it's nearly over now though, just let it pass and focus on the future. You will be working shortly and once you are then I think that would be a tur ing point for you. I was working from the day I arrived practically, it was finding a rental house that was the turning point for me. It was a very clear point too, I recognised it even at the time. You could try and see if there are any PIO meet ups in your area perhaps? See if there is a class you might like to go to. Keep your expectations real, it will take time to replace a lifetime of friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helly80 Posted January 1, 2013 Author Share Posted January 1, 2013 Thank you. I sometimes find it hard talking to OH, he isn't the best 'communicator' in the world which is prob why I'm pouring my feelings out here! He would listen to me, don't get me wrong, but he seems to be settling well and I am worried i might disrupt that. I know that in a few months time I will look back and think 'what was all the fuss about'!! Or maybe that's just wishful thinking....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VERYSTORMY Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Give it time. I think a lot of us get emotional at christmas, including myself. It's the time when we tend to miss people and miss the UK. Try to put it behind you and focus on something positive. Find a outlet such as looking at jobs or houses or anything. It will get better in a few weeks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rupert Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Thank you. I sometimes find it hard talking to OH, he isn't the best 'communicator' in the world which is prob why I'm pouring my feelings out here! He would listen to me, don't get me wrong, but he seems to be settling well and I am worried i might disrupt that. I know that in a few months time I will look back and think 'what was all the fuss about'!! Or maybe that's just wishful thinking....... The rhythm of going to work every day helps with settling in, that is why he maybe seems ahead of you at this point in time. I am sure he would understand why it is a little harder for you right now, I would try to talk to him, maybe he will have some good ideas of things you can try together to meet more people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Pom Queen Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 You aren't alone, this is our 9th (I think, I've lost count) Christmas here and I still struggle. 4 Weeks in will be hard, you are over the holiday mode and Christmas is over so it's bound to start hitting you. Hang in there. Are you on the http://www.lifeinvictoria.com forum as they are a lovely bunch and I'm sure they would love to meet up with you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helly80 Posted January 1, 2013 Author Share Posted January 1, 2013 Yes I'm on lifeinvictoria too, I'll keep an eye out for meet ups. I'd actually started a thread asking if anyone near me fancied meeting up. Turns out OH not so keen on that so soon, however I feel like I'd benefit from meeting others who feel/have felt what I'm feeling just now...and also someone to have some fun with! Jeez I'm making it sound like I don't even have fun with OH, you know what I mean though, hard living in each others pockets all the time. We had a great balance in UK where we saw lots of friends separately then had our time too. I'd like that again, but as you say it's gonna take time. This is helping though, just chatting and realising I'm normal!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumoffour Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Totally normal! I'm struggling to keep up a happy face for the kids and OH when I think about how different our NYE would've been back home. It's the major downside to emigration - hopefully will start to feel better as soon as the fireworks stop being on the news :-) Christmas, NYE and Birthdays etc are always going to be a blip on your happiness radar but that is the life of an ex-pat imho but you never really know how hard it's going to be till you're doing it. It will get easier (or you get used to it?) over the years x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Pom Queen Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Yes I'm on lifeinvictoria too, I'll keep an eye out for meet ups. I'd actually started a thread asking if anyone near me fancied meeting up. Turns out OH not so keen on that so soon, however I feel like I'd benefit from meeting others who feel/have felt what I'm feeling just now...and also someone to have some fun with! Jeez I'm making it sound like I don't even have fun with OH, you know what I mean though, hard living in each others pockets all the time. We had a great balance in UK where we saw lots of friends separately then had our time too. I'd like that again, but as you say it's gonna take time. This is helping though, just chatting and realising I'm normal!! Lol don't worry OH doesn't like meeting people either he is very shy. Where are you in Melbourne, I'll put you in touch with someone I know will make sure you are ok and get you out meeting the other girls. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milliem Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 i know how you feel We have also been here a short time and this time of year is a little tough missing family. It is just myself and teenage son here. I guess it will be easier for him to settle when he starts school. I have been lucky that I have a good friend here to hang out with now and again and I think once you have some kindred spirits around and start work you will be fine. hang in there :hug: Millie x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helly80 Posted January 1, 2013 Author Share Posted January 1, 2013 Lol don't worry OH doesn't like meeting people either he is very shy.Where are you in Melbourne, I'll put you in touch with someone I know will make sure you are ok and get you out meeting the other girls. Im in burwood. That sounds great, just having someone to talk to is what I've been needing I think! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Pom Queen Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Im in burwood. That sounds great, just having someone to talk to is what I've been needing I think! Ok I'll try and round them up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whizzkidd Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I've been in Melbourne now for nearly 4 weeks and today is the first day I could quite easily have just got on a plane home. I know it's hard at this time of year, I expected it would be but I'm feeling so sad and crying all the time! I've struggled to look happy on FaceTime today when talking to my parents. Don't want them to know I'm feeling sad as it will make them worry. Don't get me wrong, I've enjoyed my time here so far and we've done loads of great things.. We're here on a 457 visa and m partner is the one being sponsored. I'm not working yet which I think isn't helping. I am missing friends so much and wonder if I'll ever make friends here. Maybe I'll feel more settled once I'm working, hope so. That's another worry in itself, finding a job! glad to get it off my chest! Try to not show OH that I'm homesick in case I drag him down too and make him miserable! thanks for listening to me! H x Hi H There are a group of us near Diamond Creek who have recently arrived. We meet up often and are all around for the next month as kids off. I think your only 30 mins away. Do you drive? Or an you catch the train? It would be lovely to meet you and have a good chat. I'll PM you my mobile number. Take care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Pom Queen Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Im in burwood. That sounds great, just having someone to talk to is what I've been needing I think! Ok a couple of girls should be getting in touch, one is a member on here Trudy (Herbies) a lovely lady who loves get togethers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helly80 Posted January 1, 2013 Author Share Posted January 1, 2013 Ok a couple of girls should be getting in touch, one is a member on here Trudy (Herbies) a lovely lady who loves get togethers. Brill, thanks so much I feel better already! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helly80 Posted January 1, 2013 Author Share Posted January 1, 2013 Hi H There are a group of us near Diamond Creek who have recently arrived. We meet up often and are all around for the next month as kids off. I think your only 30 mins away. Do you drive? Or an you catch the train? It would be lovely to meet you and have a good chat. I'll PM you my mobile number. Take care. Hey, thanks very much it's great to know so many people are so kind! I do drive but no car yet ( not sure I'd brave the roads yet anyway, always a nervous driver!) I am sure I could catch train though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.