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Guest mjwhite78
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Hi All

 

My wife and I with our 15 month old child are considering a move to Oz. I spent a year in Australia and fell in love with Sydney. I have a few mates there (including a few people with a young family also). I have no issues with employment as I know I will receive sponsorship offers quickly.

 

My head is spinning with the ifs whats and maybes of it all really as I know 100% that Australia offers my daughter a far better environment to grow up in then the UK. Comparing the UK to Australia is not worth doing as Oz wins hands down (apart from Supermarkets and TV - Fox is a poor substitute for Sky!) but my biggest concern is being so far from the family network. Friends I will miss, but not so worried as you can always make new friends but having your Mum or Dad to support you at difficult times can not be replaced. The distance and time time difference really makes a massive difference to the equation. If the flight were 4 or 5 hours I would be sitting there dipping my feet in the sea at Coogee by now!! I may just be making excuses for what is a difficult decision!!

 

Anyone willing to share their experiences on this subject would be most welcome as I am sick of thinking about shall I shant I!?!?

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Well, I think you have answered your own question. You can see that Oz will provide a better life for your child and you can get work, what you don't mention is what you wife feels about it. It's only my personal opinion but if your wife is up for it I would say GO FOR IT. It is the best time to go now while your little one is still so little and won't miss anything from here. I have 4 children, 7, 5, 2 and 6 months and can't wait to get out there although we are going to Adelaide (visa willing). I think the earlier you can go for your childs sake the better. My 7 and 5 year olds really want to go but are starting to ask when they will see their friens again. I don't think any one can tell you what to do that is your decision but you have already lived in Oz so know what to expect so go for it and good luck.

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I think you could go on forever thinking of reasons not to go, there will always be an excuse. But the only way to find out if it is the right decision is perhaps to go for it. You can always come back if it doesn't work out.

 

My theory is "it is better to do something and regret it, rather than regretting not doing it"

 

It can only be your decision, but I know what I would choose (and am indeed going for it!!!)

 

Good luck whatever you decide

 

Tracy

 

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Guest adacakes
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Hi there,mjwhite78,

We are also having to contend with leaving family behind, hubby wanted to go to oz 5 yrs ago but I did'nt want to leave my family esp my mum we are so close we talk on the phone 4 times a day and live in the same village, but 5 yrs on I now want to go and could not bear the thought of holding my hubby back and him resenting me years from now. He feels the same about me leaving my mum and does not want me to resent him for me not seeing my mum. I adore my family but I am determined not to let my dreams of a better life with my children and husband make me feel guilty about leaving my family(mother in law has a new illness each week since we said we want to go!!!).

But on the plus side we will be getting webcams for mums and dads so we can still see each other, which will be so nice. I know there will be tears and pain but I want to do this and I just wish more people would encourage us rather than the old "huge spiders, you hate spiders!"

"Bloody hot" " the ozzies hate poms they call them whinging poms" and so on.

 

Anyhoo go and enjoy and you will always have friends on this site for moral support.

 

Good luck

 

adacakes

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You are young, you have opportunities and if your wife is as 100% as you are then go for it! But do not burn any bridges as you go. Just be sure that you are not dragging her along on your dream because if she is not as committed as you then it could be very difficult for one of you down the track.

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