Guest The Greens Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Sometimes you need a bit of inspiration so I thought I would share this with you, maybe someone will relate to it. Honestly this is a true story. My Dad was left to bring up myself and 2 younger sisters, when I was aged 8, my Mum decided she’d had enough and run away with a guy she met while working at the Adelphi Hotel in Liverpool. Last heard of in America somewhere. Sadly dad passed away a few years ago now. Trying to cut this story as short as I can, after leaving school at 18 I went on to study to become a Hairdressing and Beautician, had a few jobs before opening a hair salon with another girl in 1995. All my life I had struggled and worked hard sometimes going 2 paces back before moving forward. Suddenly our salon was going well, mysef and one of my sisters Sandy had bought a house between us, and through working almost seven days a week for a few years I managed to clear our mortgage back in 2000. Life was great, plenty of work, owned my home (modest little 2 bed terrace in Liverpool) but it was our palace. One night I was out at a club with Sandy and a few friends, there was a rugby team in the club making quite a noise with a few younger one’s showing off. As the night went on and we moved to another bar then club the usual thing, I recognised one of the guys from earlier. He came over and started talking. He asked me was I following him, t which I replied "That’s the worse chat up line I have ever heard". We had clicked. Well after a few dances and meeting the next day, we kept in touch. The long and short was within 3 months he asked me to move in with him. What a situation to be in. On the one hand I had met the man of my dreams, Big, tall, Athletic and yet a warm caring person. Against that I would be leaving everything behind in my home city, and moving 200 miles away to an area I knew nothing about, had no job, and no friends. I decided to go for it, thinking Love would not come my way like this again, and I must say I was head over heals. Inside a month I had sold my half of the business to my friend, Sandy kept the house for herself assuring me I could always come back. Packed all my personal bits in my car and was ready to leave to move to Gloucester the next day. However that week I had a terrible row over the phone with my man Tony, I was a nervous wreck all week. Crying and upset, edgy and rowing with anyone for any reason. As I looked out over the city I cried because I was leaving all I had ever known. Should I go or not? What should I do. I remember going up to Paddy’s Cathedral and just asking God What the hell am I doing? What should I do.? The next day I sat alone, it was the day before I was due to leave in my kitchen, just feeling low. In walked Sandy my sister, with the post, throwing me an envelope saying "here this looks like it’s from Loverboy" I can still see her and hear her now doing that. . There was an envelope for me and I opened it and it was off Tony. It was a card, and this is what it read. There comes a time in your life when you realize that if you stand still, you will remain at this point forever. You realize that if you fall and stay down, life will pass you by. Life’s circumstances are not always what you might wish them to be. The pattern of life does not necessarily go as you plan. Beyond any understanding you may at times be led in different directions that you never imagined, dreamed, or designed. Yet if you had never put any effort into choosing a path, or tried to carry out your dream, then perhaps you would have no direction at all. Rather than wondering about or questioning the direction your life has taken, accept the fact that there is a path before you now. Shake off the "why’s" and "what if’s," and rid yourself of confusion. Whatever was – is in the past. Whatever is – is what’s important. The past is a brief reflection. The future is yet to be realized. Today is here Walk your path one step at a time – with courage, faith, and determination. Keep your head up, and cast your dreams to the stars. Soon your steps will become firm, and your footing will be solid again. A path that you never imagined will become the most comfortable direction you could have ever hoped to follow. Keep your belief in yourself and walk into your new journey. You will find it magnificent, spectuacular, and beyond your wildest imaginings. :cry: I was amazed to read these words at such an appropriate time. From the despair and feeling of hopelessness I suddenly felt a rush of blood like a force, making me feel strong, emotional but determined. I took that journey and it’s the best thing I ever did. I found my true soul mate, best friend and Love like I never imagined. Now 7 years on, we are married, have made a great life, both workaholics but that’s our own fault, but yet are setting off together on another journey, (just a bit further this time) I think what I’m trying to say is You have to Follow Your heart and your Destiny. Dreams can come true and they very often do. So anyone feeling down or wondering about should they or shouldn’t they go through with their plans for Australia. My advice is Follow Your Heart, - It’s your true Destiny really. EMMY :SLEEP:
Guest alliekate Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 DO IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you don't you will always wonder "what if ?" Our relationship is far stronger for giving it a go - go for it. I bet if there were statstics of success/failures the successes would by far outway the negative. Just my penny in there - i love Oz, always will. axxxxxxxxxxxx
Guest Gardiner Gang Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 HI Emmy That is a wonderful post and just what I need rite now as we are struggling to find a way into OZ. You made made cry but have also made me stronger to keep trying and wait patiently for pathway d. Hopefully we will be in Oz someday. Thank you for a wonderfull story. Pauline
KazzE Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 WOW Emmy, sounds like you have a great man there! X
Jackboots Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 im glad you married him! and its a lovelly story, good luck for the next chapter.x
Guest MandyB Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Allikate thats wonderfull the dog looks happy on photo also.I agree with Pauline we are also struggling to find a way in.Keeping my chin up and will try every avenue i can. Pauline what are you struggling with? Mandyb
Guest pottsy Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 hi Emmy What an inspiration!!Thank you!Just what I needed to read!!We have a sponsor,but all a bit quiet on the visa application and having some wobbles!!!That has put me back on track. Look forward to hearing more!! Regards pottsy :notworthy:
TheBrammies Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Very Well Put i will probaly use this when i get the wobbles as the time draws closer
becky c Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Thanks Emmy, Your message couldn't have come at a more appropriate time; I've been having serious doubts today about the usual stuff - not having enough money to take, me and hubby giving up good comfortable jobs, leaving the friends I love....... ...but if you don't give it a go then you live your life wondering what if, and I don't want to do that either, so I'll choose the unknown and give it a go. best wishes to you, Bec x :wubclub:
Guest bruce&jackie Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Hi Emmy, How true are those words , we have to think positive. The past is what has made us ,now we must go forward as our lives are in front of us . How wonderful that a man in this day and age could write something so touching and meaningfull.What a great team you both make! Jackie x
calNgary Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Sounds like you landed a good one there Emmy !! your right ,dreams can come true,,ours certainly did and we havnt looked back since,good luck with your new life and i hope you can be as happy as i am over here,,take care Cal x
Stuju Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Emmy, Wow what a lovely story - so pleased it all worked out for you, I am a great believer in "following my heart" along with fate thats a special thing too
Guest kdal Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Hi Emmy, What a lovely writer your man is!! And it is the way to look at things - thank you for sharing that with us will print it off and keep it close ! Jo, how true you really do have to look back and think about what inspired you to make the move in the first place and from there go forward and follow the dream. As they say 'you have to have a dream to make a dream come true' Love Kimxx:wubclub:
Sea breeze Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 what a lovely story emmy i have a tear in my eye. dont need ant encouragment to leave the midlands pit though.......:biglaugh:
Guest The Greens Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Just would like to say thanks to you all for the kind words and replies. Your all great friends. I hope you liked the story, because it's absolutely true. What I found so brilliant about it all was I couldn't believe the timing of things, and how that card arrived at my lowest point when I think I was going to bottle it and pull out of the move and maybe the relationship would have been lost. Imagine what I would have lost, it still makes me shiver when I think of it. I'm not a superstichious person or a religious fanatic, OK I go to mass each Sunday, butin no way over the top, but I do believ in inspiration and sometimes there are little signs for us to see and follow. I hope the story inspires others, Thanks all, EMMY :smile:
Guest The Greens Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Hi Emmy, What a lovely writer your man is!! And it is the way to look at things - thank you for sharing that with us will print it off and keep it close ! Jo, how true you really do have to look back and think about what inspired you to make the move in the first place and from there go forward and follow the dream. As they say 'you have to have a dream to make a dream come true' Love Kimxx Hi Kim, Just like to say one thing, HE my O/h didn't write the words, they were already on the card, but he did write a lot of lovely things, telling me how much he had fallen in love with me and to lose me now would hurt so much. :cute: Ooohhhhh That card and his writing were worth their weight in Gold for a long, long time as every time I wanted something done or Tony stepped out of line, a quick photocopy of the card and all it's words with a threat to pin it up at his Rugby Club:jimlad::jimlad: did the trick in an instant. It got to the point where I had to hide the card in a safe place for fear of him finding it and tearing it to shreds. It was great fun, and between the Rugby Club and his Work on all the building sites, (one morning he opened his Lorry to find it waiting there on the steering wheel!!) :twitcy: I soon got my own salon and everything else. Ohhh Us Girls are so far ahead of them, and the phrase "City girl outsparts Country boy" was always used in our house. Crazy. EMMY P.S He has had me back now so many times and made me pay for my crookedness, usually to do with Cow's and what they leave behind (sorry to be a bit uuch)
Guest Curlysoo Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Emmy you have to accept that it was "meant to be" simple as that! :yes: thankyou for sharing such a personal story, it will help us all to put things into perspective when we are having a wobbly day. :wacko: I sometimes think life is all about finding the right partner to walk through your life with, the secret I think is NOT to look and then you can bet they will find you, I too had a tough start in life, but then My John found me .... and here I am happily married living 250 miles away from the Wirral, where I was born and bred, and we are now planning our move to Oz in august.
Guest kdal Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Hi Kim, Just like to say one thing, HE my O/h didn't write the words, they were already on the card, but he did write a lot of lovely things, telling me how much he had fallen in love with me and to lose me now would hurt so much. :cute: Ooohhhhh ................. Hi Emmy, Well he must have hunted about in the card shop for ages trying to find the right words, so he still gets brownie points :biglaugh:! And yes he should've been careful what he put in writing lol Your both strong together and I am sure that you will be just fine in Oz. Good luck Kimx
Guest afiyafifi Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Hi Emmy , just wanted to say what a lovely story it brought tears to my eyes .
keily Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Hi Emmy .... Have To Agree With Everyone Else .... What A Lovely Story .... My Gran [95] Told Me Over 23yrs Ago [when I Was Going Through A Tough Time ] "whats For You Wont Go By You " I Live With This Message Every Day Of My Life ..... She Wasnt Far Wrong And It Helps Me To Understand Why Things Happen In Life ... Apart From My Wee Grandaughter And My Son She Will Be The One I Miss Most When We Go To Oz [positive Thinking ] Lol Mrs Keily X
Guest Redaussies Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 Interesting post, many of us have doubts and feel frightened when the push comes to shove. Fear of failure is one thing, and this move so far away from all we know and love is very intimidating. I always try to keep my own destiny in my own hands, trying to eliminate risks, but sometimes I regret it and wish I had taken some risks. Hope your journey goes well, sounds as if it will.
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