Guest imor Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Hi, I'm new to this forum. I'm finally realising my lifelong dream of relocating to Sydney, and the flight leaves next Tuesday. However I'm not sure any longer that when it comes to crunch time next week I will actually be able to leave. This whole experience has been incredibly hard on my family that I'm leaving behind, but now I think that's it's me that won't have the strength to turn my back and drive away. I've given up my job in the UK and if I don't go I'm going to be unemployed and living back at my parent's, but all of a sudden this seems preferable to leaving my family and friends. Has anyone else experienced anything similar to this, and if so, how did you cope? Any advice gratefully received! Thanks, Ian. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritChickx Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Yeah, we're going back without even having a visa! I'm out in NZ atm but was going to apply for a partner visa and wait until that was granted but now I've realised i don't want to go. Not yet anyway. so we're going to go back to the UK and settle down again in my home town. Edited to say that a lot of people get cold feet before they go and when they go to aus it turns out to be great. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perthbum Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Yeah, we're going back without even having a visa! I'm out in NZ atm but was going to apply for a partner visa and wait until that was granted but now I've realised i don't want to go. Not yet anyway. so we're going to go back to the UK and settle down again in my home town. You are a ping pong gal...lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
northshorepom Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 It's normal to have cold feet just before you jump - same as in virtually all other major changes in your life; going to Uni, getting married, taking your first proper job away from your folks, buying your first house, the first jump into the swimming pool in spring :wink: So don't worry, everyone feels like that. If it doesn't work out, what's the worst that can happen? You have to come back and try again - it's not the end of the world. And if it does work out, you could open up a whole new world of oppotunity. So give it a go. Very little is irrevocable and moving to Oz certainly isn't. And as you say, you're already half way there anyway if you've given up your job. So chin up and take the plunge, otherwise you'll spend your life wondering "what if?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritChickx Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 You are a ping pong gal...lol Yeah maybe, I just have this ache to go back and be with myf riends and family, i didn't have a bad life I just got bored, essentially not had much contact with friends and family since before i left to go to aus a year ago! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rupert Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Hi, I'm new to this forum. I'm finally realising my lifelong dream of relocating to Sydney, and the flight leaves next Tuesday. However I'm not sure any longer that when it comes to crunch time next week I will actually be able to leave.This whole experience has been incredibly hard on my family that I'm leaving behind, but now I think that's it's me that won't have the strength to turn my back and drive away. I've given up my job in the UK and if I don't go I'm going to be unemployed and living back at my parent's, but all of a sudden this seems preferable to leaving my family and friends. Has anyone else experienced anything similar to this, and if so, how did you cope? Any advice gratefully received! Thanks, Ian. If this is your lifelong dream, then don't give it up because of what sounds like last minute cold feet. Seeing as you have already given up your UK job, it really sounds like you have nothing to lose by giving it a go and everything to gain. And if it does not work out, then you can leave again. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
devon67 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 ohhhh i cant wait to go, if you have real mates they'll come out and see you, if not ill help em with the plane ticket family will also be coming out i can understand about missing mates and family, but it is YOUR life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight7 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Don't worry about the cold feet- most people get them. Just put your head down , look neither right nor left and go! She'll be right on the night as they say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Candygirl Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 I totally agree with Rupert. When we first went to Sydney. I was absolutely fine, had the usual leaving parties and saying goodbye to parents (I didn't say goodbye to mine, it was too painful, I booked them a holiday so that they wouldn't be there when we left). I was fine until I was at the departure gate and the flight was announced at Heathrow. That was it, my legs gave way and I was a Demented Giblet. My OH couldn't believe it and doesn't how to this day how I got myself on the plane. You are almost there and it is absolutely normal to feel this way. It is last minute nerves. It is a huge step to take and I bet if you asked many on PIO they would tell you they felt the same way and they will how you are feeling. You'll be fine :hug: Good Luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saraho Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 I think it's totally normal to have last minute doubts as its a big move, but it can also be an exciting move too! I remember 7 years ago heading off to Aus all by myself doubting everything at the last minute. It turned out to be the best move ever, made great friends and met my husband there (moved him back to the uk though 3 months ago!). My best way of dealing with it at the time was if it doesn't work out you can always come back, you won't have lost anything and will probably gain do much. Never look back and think what if, just have a smile and think at least I gave it a try :-) good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest imor Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Thanks everyone...appreciate the time you've taken to reply and the kind words. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pablo Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 Yeah, we're going back without even having a visa! I'm out in NZ atm but was going to apply for a partner visa and wait until that was granted but now I've realised i don't want to go. Not yet anyway. so we're going to go back to the UK and settle down again in my home town. Edited to say that a lot of people get cold feet before they go and when they go to aus it turns out to be great. I give up mrs,been clocking posts to see why your going/coming back,cant find it:no:,whats happened,no work in NZ or what? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fiftyfifty Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 I know exactly how you feel, going though the same very mixed feelings right now! We are leaving on Sunday, and it's actually really scary. I think the best thing to remember is that you have to do it for you. After all in life you regret what you don't do, not what you do. Better to look back in 20years and the worst that could have happened is that you tried it and didn't like it (and at least still had a great experience) than to think you never gave it a go and regretted that. You'll probably look back and wondered why you were so worried at the time! Sorry if that doesn't make a lot of sense, but I think you will be fine! Best of luck with the move nx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest sadiesmum Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 Ive changed my mind 3 or 4 times and we havent even had our visas approved yet! Your flights are booked, accommodation is no doubt sorted, what harm would there be in just saying sod it Im doing it. One of the best quotes Ive heard comes from Angelina Jolie "the only way to enjoy life is to commit to it like crazy" which goes for many things, but I suppose you can find doubt in anything in life if you try. My advice would be while you are able to enjoy a single free lifestyle do it, you will regret it once you are married with kids!! Every journey starts with a single step Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritChickx Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 I give up mrs,been clocking posts to see why your going/coming back,cant find it:no:,whats happened,no work in NZ or what? I thought you found it since you liked some of our travel posts! Look harder :laugh: http://www.pomsinoz.com/forum/backpacking-whv/152643-britchick-pommypauls-travels-part-2-a-31.html Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoandJon Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 THere's some song lyrics I like that says it all really 'I'd rather regret the things I've done, than the things I didn't do' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delaneym Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 I try to think its more about going for an adventure which means that if |I decide to return to uk thats not the 'worst case scenario' its the i went to australia experience! theres plenty to think about and be told ( my dad is old, my sons not coming, im going alone, the visa is not pr but just a few of them)that can start the heart pounding but whilst I have freedom to choose going and coming back then I see no reason to scare myself with a its all or nothing thought. I am going on the 13th september so i may be eating these words with extra humble pie!! good luck and safe journey! Marion x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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