Tinaandco Posted July 31, 2012 Share Posted July 31, 2012 Hi our daughter is 15 and she really wants to go home ! We are living in Geelong and I'm wondering if there is anyone who has also emigrated to Geelong or near Geelong with kids of my daughters age and maybe they could have a chat xx thanks Tina x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Ropey HOFF Posted July 31, 2012 Share Posted July 31, 2012 Sorry I can't help, hopefully someone else will, teenage kids struggle with their emotions wherever they live, best of luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest trasi Posted July 31, 2012 Share Posted July 31, 2012 would love to have helped, but not out there yet, and going central coast nsw....hope everything works for her xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petals Posted July 31, 2012 Share Posted July 31, 2012 Hi there are quite a few Brits living in your area so hope that someone pops along to help. If you have not already done so join the Life in Victoria forum, there is a link at the foot of the page and a lot of the people who live here already post on there. Also pop over to the Facebook page this will cover all bases for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob1 Posted July 31, 2012 Share Posted July 31, 2012 How long have you been here? If it's the three month - six month mark then it's perfectly normal. Has she got involved with things at school? part time job? I'd do as I do in lots of situations "reflect the feeling, state the rule". e.g I know you feel homesick, it's hard feeling that way, but it's normal and you're not going home! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tinaandco Posted August 1, 2012 Author Share Posted August 1, 2012 We have been here 8 weeks and it's so hard to see your daughter upset ! It would just be nice to have one or 2 English friends for her to chat to, her Aussie mates are lovely but she said they laugh at different things and she just keeps feeling lonely xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob1 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 It will be hard for her - a whole new culture - Aussie 15 year old will be listening to different bands, watching Aussie TV shows that she won't know and talk about Aussie idols (pop, sports, actors etc) that she won't know. The shops they go to will be totally alien to her - poor girl, no wonder she craves something familiar. Good that she's made some friends though and it will get easier as she becomes more familiar with things. I presume she has access to facebook/skype - so important for this age group - and that way she can keep in touch. Can't help with UK friends in Geelong but hopefully someone can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lilmissp Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Totally sympathize with you. I will hopefully be moving with teenagers and have a 15 yr old daughter but we will be going to Brisbane. 8 weeks is a hard time you have just got over the initial holiday mode feeling and realising that its for good, so then the readjusting is only beginning. Give it time she will settle down. Teenagers are difficult no matter what and where you are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lilmissp Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 How long have you been here? If it's the three month - six month mark then it's perfectly normal. Has she got involved with things at school? part time job? I'd do as I do in lots of situations "reflect the feeling, state the rule". e.g I know you feel homesick, it's hard feeling that way, but it's normal and you're not going home! Can I steal your saying reflect the feeling state the rule? thats very useful, I will be using that a lot in the future when dealing with my teens! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob1 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 of course - I've used it since my kids were little - sometimes children just want you to acknowledge that they feel bad, particularly if they are anxious and want to avoid something. Shows them you hear, understand how they feel but they're not going to be able to avoid something and you're the boss! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davo1 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Very good bob1 - think I may plagirise that also if you do not mind! To my daughter - 'I know you will be nearly 17 when we move to Oz and it will be difficult for you but you are in no way able to live alone, so come along and try it AND bob1 confirmed I am the boss so you have no choice, you are coming! lol! Thanks! Tinaandco - I am sorry to hear about your daughter. I have a 15 year old (nearly 16!) and know what like their emotions can be. Try and encourage her to join groups etc too and get her out with her new friends as much as possible and it will ease. Its only been 8 weeks, it will take her some time to adjust. School should help too. Good Luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petals Posted August 2, 2012 Share Posted August 2, 2012 As she has got friends I think she is over the first hurdle, acceptance by peers. If she is particularly close to one of them then she can discuss with her and I am sure they will give her a lot of support. I moved at the age of 11 to Africa, only child then, very different, managed as I had to. Moved to New Zealand at 15 very very hard, but no going home so had to put up with it as well. Did not help that Mum hated NZ and went off back to the UK and left me with Dad for a couple of years. Anyway we survive and as I said getting those first few friends is great. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruby Tuesday Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 Keep her busy with sports or hobbies she was involved with prior to your move to Australia. Also get her involved with decorating her bedroom (paint/wallpaper/curtains/etc.) so she feels more at home. If kids have too much time on their hands, that's when the trouble starts and the homesickness sets in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tinaandco Posted August 3, 2012 Author Share Posted August 3, 2012 Thanks Ruby Tuesday but we are in a rented place so we can't decorate but we've only just moved in today so will have to sort her room out and make it nicer, where abouts in Geelong are you ? Do you have kids ? Xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BackToAdelaide Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 If you've literally just moved in today you're probably not quite ready for visitors but once you've organised yourselves a bit perhaps suggest she invites one or two of her new friends round to visit? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.