Advise for a newbie - Hubbie is Australian, looking to emigrate 3-4 years time

[PomPomBuckley]

Hi all.

 

After watching and reading from afar I have finally gotten around to starting my own thread :biggrin: My husband moved to the UK in July 2006 (his dad was originally from Halifax that is what drew him here). We were married in 2009 and have 2 gorgeous boys (3 and 10 weeks).

 

I am just looking for a bit of advise from anyone that might have moved to Australia (that is from Uk or other) with a partner/spouse that is Australian and live close to family. My husbands immediate family are all in Brisbane so we know that we will have a good support network when we do make the move. The only thing that is holding back the move is that we have another 10 months left on a debt repayment programme (there is light at the end of the tunnel!) and once that is repaid we will be starting the big save! I guess my burning question is this...did you find it easier because you had relatives already there? Or did you find that you didn't get out and socialise more because you didn't really have to? I have visited twice in 2008 and 2011 so I kind of know what to expect (travelled a bit around Queensland and also been to Perth). I really feel like I want to do this and that having the family there will make things easier as i will obviously miss my family tonnes! But I think the lifestyle for my boys will be far better than here. I don't hate the UK but I have experiences, first-hand, the lovely laid back nature of the Aussies and I can see what a difference it makes. I'm not saying life there isn't without its ups and downs just like anywhere, but overall I think Australia holds a bright future for us.

 

Am I trying to convince myself? Or has this been the case for other with Australian partners/spouses? What was your experience?

 

Thanks for your replies in advance

 

:biggrin:

[Guest themanns]

Hi there! We did a rekkie when I was preg and you can read it on Aussiemove website.. Basically I slated the place. But following the birth of my son I realised it could be good for him and that the UK was finished for job choices and finance ect . we have been here for 3 weeks and I feel we have made the right choice. yes I miss family but it's sunny and the children love it. Aussie people are so upbeat and friendly and the children so positive..There is so much to do for free and it is more expensive here due to the crap exchange rate but once you are earning $ it's not too bad. My advice is to give it a go..you can always change your mind

[jennlx]

I'm from Oz, hubby from England/Ireland. To be honest, I personally think it is a huge advantage. It's a hell of a thing, to move to the other side of the world and I really commend those who do it and don't know a soul in Australia. The family in Australia is a huge factor for us (but we don't really have much here). I wouldn't think it would keep us from socialising - there are very clear demarcations between friends and family with us! My husband has only met my family a couple of times, but he is already considered to be very much part of the family. SAYING THAT, I would never EVER live in the same suburb as them...we want to start a new life as a family, not pick up from where I left off when I lived there/live in the pockets of the family.

 

I'm pretty much of the same mindset - Australia really doesn't hold much appeal for me personally, but with kids...

[Guest]

We've not moved yet but are doing so next summer. My hubby is an Aussie and we have a child. We are moving back to his home city as tbh, at least for the first few years it'll be a good place to start. We both want to head there and if we decide to move in elsewhere in the future then fair enough.

 

We want our son to know his Aus side of the family while he is younger as once he is older it generally isn't as free flowing and he'll be off doing other things. TBH marrying someone from another country always holds compromises for one of you. Even if you both want to live in Aus, you have to leave your family and country behind.

 

I have no qualms about moving to Aus. I spent most of my 20's living overseas and am quite capable of living elsewhere in the world. I don't hate the UK, am quite happy here but can also see advantages and good things about living in Aus also. I like where we will be settling and am really looking forward to the experience and having a new home.

 

We will be living near hubby's family as many of them live in the same city but they are not going to be in our pockets. But I know grandparents, great grandparents and so on will be around. As will siblings, cousins and friends.

 

I think if you get on well with your husbands family it will help. And if you like where you plan to live, it really makes a huge difference. If you are unhappy somewhere it can make everything else seem worse. I'd say try not to see it through the eyes of those migrating on other visas (ie not married to an Aussie) as they are often moving for reasons different to your own, different things may drive them. Some people might think we have it easy being married to an Aussie but its a life time of compromise in some shape or form and lots of hurdles to overcome to make the relationship work and stay working.

 

If we didn't have our son we'd probably still be going next year. But having a child does make you painfully aware you have to make a decision and find a balance and hopefully get it to work.

 

Drop me a PM anytime if you want to chat, happy to lend an ear and share my experiences.

[PomPomBuckley]

Thanks for the great advice

 

I think my OH is of the mind of 'wouldn't bother to move back if it weren't for the kids'. Growing up in Australia he can see the advantages of bringing the kids up there over in the UK. I had a perfectly happy childhood, but even I can see the differences between here and there for kids. Everything is much more family/friends orientated in general in Australia. We are definitely going to do it. I am a planner hence starting early (even with the advantage of my OH knowing the living there part inside out)...I don't like being out of control! haha!

 

My OH has 3 younger sisters and one of them has just had her first baby. We had the first two grandchildren and the in-laws have seen the eldest (aged 3) 4 times and have yet to meet the youngest who is only 10 weeks. It really drags me in opposite directions. I have a sister here who has 3 boys and my mum and step dad live close by. I think they understand why we'd go through with it but of course it is hard to think of family upping sticks and moving half-way across the world. I'd take them all with us if I could! :biggrin:

 

I'll take a look at your blog themanns. Thanks.

 

Thanks for the offer of PM'ing snifter, I might just take you up on that! Will keep my eye out to see how you progress.

[Quoll]

I tend to have a slightly different take on it. Personally I recommend NOT living near his folks/his place/his friends - I think that paves the way for easy resentment when he has it all and you have bugger all of yours around you. I have had many pms (usually from women) who have found themselves like a spare wheel when their Aussie husbands have just slotted straight back into their old lives and left the little woman struggling to find her feet. No matter how fabulous are his folk, it doesnt take too many hormones for you to become resentful that your kids see his family all the time and the best that your family get is the once in a blue moon Skype session. I think that it is healthier if your little family establishes itself in its place - sure, you are going to be a whole lot closer to his folk than yours, but you are both out there cementing your place in a new community and working as a team to belong.

 

Personally we found 10 hours from his folk (and they are super people) to be just about right. It meant we were very self sufficient and that suited us down to the ground as it also meant we had no skewing of power (not quite the right word) in our relationship, we were all in it together.

 

I still remain to be convinced that Australia offers kids anything better than any other first world country and watching the family activities going on around here in UK I certainly dont see the vast "family focus" benefit of Australia!!! I guess it depends on how comfortable you are where you are as to whether it is worth tossing it all in the air and taking the gamble. May I also recommend that you read the sticky about what happens if one of you wants to move on to UK and the other doesnt - many women wish they had read that thoroughly before they committed to Australia.

[Guest]

I tend to have a slightly different take on it. Personally I recommend NOT living near his folks/his place/his friends - I think that paves the way for easy resentment when he has it all and you have bugger all of yours around you.

 

Surely that can be said the same in reverse though when an Aus hubby has to live near wife's UK family and friends in their home area/town?

 

I think it ultimately comes down to the people themselves and how they cope and if they are able to discuss their feelings with partner and in laws etc. I know I can and do and don't mince my words if I feel I need to say something or am unhappy. I'm also secure enough to be ok with getting on with his friends and family and so on. I know how it goes and know I'll make my own friends (already have a couple there) in time. My husband has been here 7 years with me and the shoe has been on the other foot so to speak.

 

I could not, would not contemplate living 10 hours away from my husbands home as that is where we both want to be. I've no desire to live in Melbourne (at least not yet and we are keeping our options open for a few years down the road), 10 hours down the road. For us it partly defeats the purpose of being there are we'd not see much more of many of the people than we do now.

 

I find it suffocating to live in a families pockets anywhere, we don't do it here and we won't do it there. I'll be further away from some of his family than I am my own here and others closer. Its swings and roundabouts. I think if people rely heavily or live in the pockets of their own family while in the UK they may be in for a shock getting to Aus and having the in laws in the same area but it isn't all bad or doom and gloom if you discuss in advance and keep communication channels open as you go. We hardly have any support from my family here and we don't mind this. I'm not looking for support when we move but I do want our son to know his family and have a chance to live in the area.

 

I get on well with his family and am confident in myself that I can deal with things as and when they crop up. I'm 41 years old and have dealt with far more awkward or difficult life situations and have come out the other side, so this move and being nearish to his family and friends doesn't phase me in the least. It would be unfair to deny him some time back there after 7 or 8 years away, he wants to go back there. We have both made sacrifices in moving in the past if it meant it was the better thing to do as a couple and then as a family. It wasn't the ideal for one of us but for the both of us it was the better thing to do. And we did it and you know what, it was all good in the end. Its compromise and I feel we've got the balance right for the past 11 years and if we've overcome all the other things, we should be able to figure out moving to Aus together.

 

I know my husband and know he isn't the sort to just abandon me to his family and slot right back in to his old life and leave me out there on my own to try to fit in or adjust. He isn't going back to his old life as years have passed, he has long left uni and has a wife and child and quite a few of his friends and family are also married or have kids now. Going back with a family when you left as a single person is never the same. My husband knows this and his focus is clear. His priority (and mine) is our happiness as a family and that has always been the key thing for us since the get go.

[Quoll]

I'm not that fond of living in anyone's pocket TBH and when we were first married we lived in PNG and then 4 hours from my folk on the other side of the country - it worked well. Neither of us wanted to be that close to either of our sets of parents. The M-i-L did once try and get us to move next door to her - my DH was even more adamant than I was that it wasnt going to happen!

 

I guess I can only take the message from the many women who have pm-ed me over the years, some of them have been in quite a nasty little predicament and have been very unpleasantly surprised by the changes they found in their partners - some of even very long standing - and how that impacted their lives. I wish I knew what had happened to some of them and hope they survived!

 

I guess we all go with hopes and expectations that it will be just fine, but forewarned is forearmed I reckon!

[PomPomBuckley]

Thanks for your points of view Quoll and snifter. It helps to see it from all angles.

 

We would live in Brisbane as I do think we want to live in the same area as my OH's family but when we do eventually rent/buy a home it won't be next door that's for sure! hahaha. OH's family aren't the types to live in one anothers pockets and my mother-in-law is not imposing at all so I have no doubt there it will be more about what we make it. I make friends easily and had gelled well with friends of m OH when visiting Aus so I'm confident things will go well that way too. Above all else we actually couldn't afford to live where the family so hahaha! So no worries there :biggrin:

[Guest]

I'm not that fond of living in anyone's pocket TBH and when we were first married we lived in PNG and then 4 hours from my folk on the other side of the country - it worked well. Neither of us wanted to be that close to either of our sets of parents. The M-i-L did once try and get us to move next door to her - my DH was even more adamant than I was that it wasnt going to happen!

 

I guess I can only take the message from the many women who have pm-ed me over the years, some of them have been in quite a nasty little predicament and have been very unpleasantly surprised by the changes they found in their partners - some of even very long standing - and how that impacted their lives. I wish I knew what had happened to some of them and hope they survived!

 

I guess we all go with hopes and expectations that it will be just fine, but forewarned is forearmed I reckon!

 

Maybe so.

 

 

I personally happen know a fair number of women who are married to or living with their partners who are from elsewhere in the world. All but one of those couples are still going strong today. New Zealand, US, Canada, Germany, The Netherlands and a few other places. Most of them living outside the country of their birth, most in their husbands home country, a couple in a neutral country. There are two sides to the coin. I know the down side of it for myself as my parents are from different countries and I am a child who grew up embracing different cultures and living in them. And whose parents divorced. Having lived it, I feel I know the pitfalls and hubby and I have worked hard to come up with a plan we are both comfortable with and so on.

 

 

I am confident my husband won't do a Jekyll and Hyde change just because he moves back to his home country and home city. He's not changed living here and as I've said before, I can't see him suddenly becoming a different person overnight. He wasn't a wild party type or anything like that before he left and neither were his friends, and he has no desire to live that life here or there. He is very family focused and I won't doubt him. He has never given me reason to yet. I appreciate what you are saying, but I do know the kind of man my husband is and I trust him, trust us.

 

 

I don't know Quoll. I cannot find the words today to reply as I would like. I struggle with your negativity on occasion as while I can see where you are coming from, I really don't go to worst case scenario from the outset and do have strong foundations in my marriage and feel somewhat..... somewhat uncomfortable having you seemingly casting doubt when you know so little of a persons specific situation. Yes you are talking more in general that things can go pear shaped and so on, but it also seems to be something that can be taken as being aimed at personally also. I don't mean this in a bad way just how it comes over when I'm reading it.

 

And what about all those women for whom it works? They are probably not filling up your PM box as they are happy, content. You are well known on this forum for your dislike of having to remain in Aus and your happiness of returning to the UK finally. I feel that perhaps those who are unhappy for whatever reason gravitate towards others who are unhappy, to share, unburden and so on. I've heard from a fair few women with Aus partners who are very happy in Aus, enjoying life and its working for them. So again, the other side of the coin.

 

As to how our lives unfold, we can never know till it happens eh

[ozindublin]

Hi guys,

 

We currently live about 40 minutes from the OH folks, across the other side of the city of Dublin. This suits, I think, all of us. We visit every Sunday, go for lunch stay for supper, bath the kids, put them in their pj's and drive them home to put them to bed. I love Sundays, I relax, and read, and everyone enjoys each others company. I've become so independent living away from my own family, the four of us are very close, and love our weekends when Dad doesn't work, and we can do & go where we like. I think I have always been independent, hence travelling the world, and then meeting my OH, and staying here!

 

When we go back to Australia we'll be based 750km away from my family. But I'll still see them more than I do now. I'll visit them with the kids in the school holidays, and Mum will have a bedroom in our house for her visits to us. I'm very happy about where we're going, its a family adventure for us, I've never lived in Perth, so I'm very excited about it. We'll be ALL making a life change.

 

I don't think I could live in my old country town again. I think I would find it very stressful, and have far too many expectations put on me. My mum is a widow, and is lonely, she still works (thank god) and that keeps her busy. But she is very needy, and I know I'd break her heart and let her down if I lived in the same town. She is so happy we're coming home, and is happy enough knowing I'm ONLY 8 hours away.

 

We're going to move in with Mum, we all hope (including mum) that this will be no longer than 3 months. She'll be happy for us to be leaving her for big smoke by the end

 

Big exciting changes ahead, but the 4 of us will be together, and we've decided this is obviously the most important thing!

[Honourary Aussie]

Hi PomPomBuckley

 

Firstly, like you I have been reading from afar, but having read your post I just wanted to thank you for sharing your situation. I also have an Aussie partner and a young son, we too are planning a move back to Aus, (Melbourne to be precise). I like all of your points and this is exactly why we are planning the move. I have a wobble every now and again but I also believe that llife is to be grabbed by both hands and we should make the most of every opportunity for ourselves and our families. Sorry I can't give any advice right now but waned to say Hi and wish you all the best with your plans.

Snifter, your posts are inspiring, you have echoed what I think and that's made my day. Thank you :hug:

[Guest]

Hi PomPomBuckley

 

Firstly, like you I have been reading from afar, but having read your post I just wanted to thank you for sharing your situation. I also have an Aussie partner and a young son, we too are planning a move back to Aus, (Melbourne to be precise). I like all of your points and this is exactly why we are planning the move. I have a wobble every now and again but I also believe that llife is to be grabbed by both hands and we should make the most of every opportunity for ourselves and our families. Sorry I can't give any advice right now but waned to say Hi and wish you all the best with your plans.

Snifter, your posts are inspiring, you have echoed what I think and that's made my day. Thank you :hug:

 

Thank you I'm glad you've enjoyed reading them :yes:

 

I think having the odd wobble is perfectly normal I'd be worried if I didn't have one every few weeks as the months pass by and we inch ever closer to our move. Mostly my wobbles are silly things bought on by sentimentality and I know that giving them 10 minutes of my time is a good thing as I can usually resolve them in my head and move on. But my actual feelings about moving to Aus have not wavered and that for me is the key thing. If anything I want it more as time passes but I do feel a slight sadness as I know what I am leaving and the things I'll miss further down the road. I'll deal with that as and when it arises when we are there. But wherever we have to move to, I know I'll always miss other places, be it here in the UK or moving to Aus.

 

I miss living rural here in the UK but we had to make a move to suburban living for hubby's work. I don't hold it against him or resent him for it, it was how it had to be and I was the one who actually said to take the plunge and leave Exmoor. I miss it but I am not unhappy or crying into my cornflakes every day. I had many happy years there but can see that as a Mum with a young child, for my husband, where we are now is great. I appreciate what we have and don't hanker for what we left behind (other than my view out the back door across the orchard and chooks running everywhere). It was time for the next chapter in our life together. That my husband took to rural living like he did impressed me no end as he is a city boy. He compromised for years to be with me out there and thankfully was happy. I compromised to live suburban the past couple of years and honestly have to admit it was a good move.

 

I also think it helps us as we know we are not moving with the hope or intention of shutting the door on living in the UK. We are not leaving because we are disillusioned living here or hate it or feel its gone to the dogs, or in search of that much mentioned 'better life'. I always knew from the day we decided to marry, that one day we may be living in Aus. I didn't go into this blind and it was no surprise to find that we are both finally ready and wanting to make the move. We never put a time frame on here and we are not doing that for our move to Aus.

 

Heh, I am rambling. So shutting up now. Feel free to drop me a PM anytime, always happy to hear from others in a similar situation moving to Aus. I keep thinking about starting a group for Brit ladies (or from elsewhere) migrating to Aus with their Aus partners.

[PomPomBuckley]

Hi guys,

 

We currently live about 40 minutes from the OH folks, across the other side of the city of Dublin. This suits, I think, all of us. We visit every Sunday, go for lunch stay for supper, bath the kids, put them in their pj's and drive them home to put them to bed. I love Sundays, I relax, and read, and everyone enjoys each others company. I've become so independent living away from my own family, the four of us are very close, and love our weekends when Dad doesn't work, and we can do & go where we like. I think I have always been independent, hence travelling the world, and then meeting my OH, and staying here!

 

When we go back to Australia we'll be based 750km away from my family. But I'll still see them more than I do now. I'll visit them with the kids in the school holidays, and Mum will have a bedroom in our house for her visits to us. I'm very happy about where we're going, its a family adventure for us, I've never lived in Perth, so I'm very excited about it. We'll be ALL making a life change.

 

I don't think I could live in my old country town again. I think I would find it very stressful, and have far too many expectations put on me. My mum is a widow, and is lonely, she still works (thank god) and that keeps her busy. But she is very needy, and I know I'd break her heart and let her down if I lived in the same town. She is so happy we're coming home, and is happy enough knowing I'm ONLY 8 hours away.

 

We're going to move in with Mum, we all hope (including mum) that this will be no longer than 3 months. She'll be happy for us to be leaving her for big smoke by the end

 

Big exciting changes ahead, but the 4 of us will be together, and we've decided this is obviously the most important thing!

 

Thanks ozindublin. All this feedback really does help me. I think I have the mindset of 'I want to do it, so give it a go!' Life is too short. Good luck for your move back to oz. I hope it's everything you want for you and your family :em3600:

 

Hi PomPomBuckley

 

Firstly, like you I have been reading from afar, but having read your post I just wanted to thank you for sharing your situation. I also have an Aussie partner and a young son, we too are planning a move back to Aus, (Melbourne to be precise). I like all of your points and this is exactly why we are planning the move. I have a wobble every now and again but I also believe that llife is to be grabbed by both hands and we should make the most of every opportunity for ourselves and our families. Sorry I can't give any advice right now but waned to say Hi and wish you all the best with your plans.

Snifter, your posts are inspiring, you have echoed what I think and that's made my day. Thank you :hug:

 

Thanks Honourary Aussie :biggrin: Nice to know of someone in the same position. Have you got your visas etc yet? When do you plan to move? If it's ok with you, I think I'll keep in touch and track your progress :em3600:

 

Thank you I'm glad you've enjoyed reading them :yes:

 

I think having the odd wobble is perfectly normal I'd be worried if I didn't have one every few weeks as the months pass by and we inch ever closer to our move. Mostly my wobbles are silly things bought on by sentimentality and I know that giving them 10 minutes of my time is a good thing as I can usually resolve them in my head and move on. But my actual feelings about moving to Aus have not wavered and that for me is the key thing. If anything I want it more as time passes but I do feel a slight sadness as I know what I am leaving and the things I'll miss further down the road. I'll deal with that as and when it arises when we are there. But wherever we have to move to, I know I'll always miss other places, be it here in the UK or moving to Aus.

 

I miss living rural here in the UK but we had to make a move to suburban living for hubby's work. I don't hold it against him or resent him for it, it was how it had to be and I was the one who actually said to take the plunge and leave Exmoor. I miss it but I am not unhappy or crying into my cornflakes every day. I had many happy years there but can see that as a Mum with a young child, for my husband, where we are now is great. I appreciate what we have and don't hanker for what we left behind (other than my view out the back door across the orchard and chooks running everywhere). It was time for the next chapter in our life together. That my husband took to rural living like he did impressed me no end as he is a city boy. He compromised for years to be with me out there and thankfully was happy. I compromised to live suburban the past couple of years and honestly have to admit it was a good move.

 

I also think it helps us as we know we are not moving with the hope or intention of shutting the door on living in the UK. We are not leaving because we are disillusioned living here or hate it or feel its gone to the dogs, or in search of that much mentioned 'better life'. I always knew from the day we decided to marry, that one day we may be living in Aus. I didn't go into this blind and it was no surprise to find that we are both finally ready and wanting to make the move. We never put a time frame on here and we are not doing that for our move to Aus.

 

Heh, I am rambling. So shutting up now. Feel free to drop me a PM anytime, always happy to hear from others in a similar situation moving to Aus. I keep thinking about starting a group for Brit ladies (or from elsewhere) migrating to Aus with their Aus partners.

 

I will definitely be pm'ing you and tracking your progress snifter. You have been really helpful and honest. I am definitely one of those people that knows nothing is set in stone so to speak. Good luck :em3600:

[PomPomBuckley]

P.s. Snifter...I think the idea about starting a group for brits with Aussie partners would be a great idea!

[Honourary Aussie]

Hi All

 

Good to hear from you.

 

Snifter, a ramble is good.. it's healthy :wink: . Seems you're in a similar situation to us, how I/we feel... We have a good life here and are not heading out to 'mend' anything as such. I have also agreed (with myself!) that when I get emotional once there, I'll go through the phase, not fight it. I have a very good relationship with my fiances family and his friends, also know a few people there already (whom I've worked with in the UK) so will be calling on them for a shoulder . We've been to Aus many times over the 9 years we've been together and I fall in love with it more each time. There are things I would like to add or take its me, but it's not the UK and it shouldn't change, I can see its great as it is. And I accept the public transport is no tube system

 

I do love the UK and will miss it, and friends and family. I don't get to see my family that often here, as I moved away from my home city to London for work years ago, but will still miss the fact they're not just up the M1! Feel a bit sad I'll be taking their Grandson, my parents are divorced, but both have said for selfish reasons they'd rather we didn't but understand and wish us all the best, kind of made me more sad. But we're ready for a new adventure... It's not closing a door, it's leaving it ajar....

 

Sounds like you have a wise head, it can only make for a happy move. Forgive me if you mentioned (it's been a long Sunday!) but where in Aus are you heading?

 

PomPom, absolutely, would be great to keep in touch! I have my permanent residency, so it's a case of when now... The next few months should be interesting. We've started sorting through our things - having a loft and garage can be deceiving that's for sure! Had the house valued etc.

The group sounds great... Or should that be 'awesome'?! :cute:

 

PM anytime, be good to keep in touch, sometimes it feels like you're the only one who has to think about the compromises, so comforting to know there's a few of us!

 

All the best all

HA

x

[NicF]

Loving Snifters posts on this. Much of it reflects my own situation. We just moved to Adelaide just over a week ago but my OH had been in the UK since 1999 and we got together shortly after he arrived. We got married and had two kids who are now seven and eleven. So far they have grown up in the UK ,mostly just 10 minutes down the road from my parents and brother. We didn't see my family that often but we could just pop round if anyone needed anything which was good for me. My OH and I talked a lot about moving to Oz but I never really felt ready until around March/April last year when we decided to apply for the spouse visa. We were both ready for a change and felt the need to move on from where we were and I couldn't see the point in moving down south and being miles away from both sets of family so we made the decision to move to Australia. I very much feel that after spending 13 years in the UK near my family it was time to move to be near his.

 

Now we are in Adelaide being near my OH family has been hugely advantageous so far. My mother in law has gone to live with my sister in law so we can stay in her house until we get a long term rental and my sister in law has lent us two beds for the boys to sleep on. My brother in law has been going round viewing houses to rent and buy with my OH to give a balanced view point as property and land is his area of expertise. My mum in law is in her 80s so I was always keen to be fairly close so we can easily get to her if she needs anything, plus I love the suburbs on her side of the city so would choose to live that way anyway. The rest of the family are fairly spread out around Adelaide but we are no more than about 40 minutes away from anyone. We will not be living in each others pockets but I think the fact that I have people here that I get on really well with and that I can go to if I have a question or need some help is a great bonus.

[RockDr]

P.s. Snifter...I think the idea about starting a group for brits with Aussie partners would be a great idea!

 

There was a thread a while back, I'll see if I can dig it up. I also think a group would be a great idea (though I do tend to forget about groups since there's no notification system).

 

edit to add: found it! http://www.pomsinoz.com/forum/news-chat-dilemmas/140160-mixed-marriages-relationships-one-aussie-one-brit-8.html

[PomPomBuckley]

Hi All

 

Good to hear from you.

 

Snifter, a ramble is good.. it's healthy :wink: . Seems you're in a similar situation to us, how I/we feel... We have a good life here and are not heading out to 'mend' anything as such. I have also agreed (with myself!) that when I get emotional once there, I'll go through the phase, not fight it. I have a very good relationship with my fiances family and his friends, also know a few people there already (whom I've worked with in the UK) so will be calling on them for a shoulder . We've been to Aus many times over the 9 years we've been together and I fall in love with it more each time. There are things I would like to add or take its me, but it's not the UK and it shouldn't change, I can see its great as it is. And I accept the public transport is no tube system

 

I do love the UK and will miss it, and friends and family. I don't get to see my family that often here, as I moved away from my home city to London for work years ago, but will still miss the fact they're not just up the M1! Feel a bit sad I'll be taking their Grandson, my parents are divorced, but both have said for selfish reasons they'd rather we didn't but understand and wish us all the best, kind of made me more sad. But we're ready for a new adventure... It's not closing a door, it's leaving it ajar....

 

Sounds like you have a wise head, it can only make for a happy move. Forgive me if you mentioned (it's been a long Sunday!) but where in Aus are you heading?

 

PomPom, absolutely, would be great to keep in touch! I have my permanent residency, so it's a case of when now... The next few months should be interesting. We've started sorting through our things - having a loft and garage can be deceiving that's for sure! Had the house valued etc.

The group sounds great... Or should that be 'awesome'?! :cute:

 

PM anytime, be good to keep in touch, sometimes it feels like you're the only one who has to think about the compromises, so comforting to know there's a few of us!

 

All the best all

HA

x

 

'Dead set awesome' hahahaha

 

There was a thread a while back, I'll see if I can dig it up. I also think a group would be a great idea (though I do tend to forget about groups since there's no notification system).

 

edit to add: found it! http://www.pomsinoz.com/forum/news-chat-dilemmas/140160-mixed-marriages-relationships-one-aussie-one-brit-8.html

 

Fab I'll take a look. Thanks

[Skylark]

P.s. Snifter...I think the idea about starting a group for brits with Aussie partners would be a great idea!

 

Fab idea...where do i sign?...