Guest clarejane Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Ok well yeah i guess i am one of those ping pong pommes, ive been back and fourth many times, and no dought will return to the uk in the future. i posted a thread several weeks ago discussing how homesickness has reared its ugly head and pretty much only told the quick story...my life here in australia has become an on/off affair for a long time! i return for several years and only to be temp but end up staying due partners job and my family move back out here (yes its confusing and yes its something i regret) anyway im starting to babble but the responses i had were interesting...few were thinking i had depression of some sort (post natal) which by the way is fine but something i dont have, because im homesick and its just been since ive had a baby, its been almost on my mind for a very long time, its just you get on with things and then you suddlenly realise your thinking about home more than i nornally do. ive heard it all....from many ex pats for 17 years!!! something ive recently realised though is that ive constantly compared uk to australia...ie clothes, shops, food, money, weather, tv programmes, radio...oh the list goes on!!! you would think after all these years that this would stop.surely theres more to life than all of these things?? hmmm not for me it feels. i have everything here, my friends whom ive known for 2o odd years who i schooled with, my parents etc. so whats the pull to go home? my mum totally understands where im coming from as she used to feel the same. my parents would be heartbroken if we were ever to leave australia but on the other hand we cannot live our lives thru them. its a vicious cirlcle and a very complex one at that!!!! sorry to have vented off more than i intended...i so enjoy reading all aspects and views of everyones journeys, it gives me encouragment and give me hope that one day our dilema will be sorted which ever way our path decides to take us!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skilledhansgirl Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Hi hon, I am a new member & I hope you don't mind me chimeing in ! Ah well try not to beat yrself up too much about it geez you'd think I'd have in worked out by now after being here in Au's for 37yrs. Alas however I am considering going back to the UK. Mind you I am a formally qualifed lady in my 40's have made my life here since pre teens. I cannot deny however that the best friends I have made here in Au's where travellers from the UK & Europe who all had to go back home. Maybe I am also a sucker for the tall dark Englishman types as well ???, Who knows what transpires, Kind regards skilledhansgirl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Southernstar Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 You're totally not alone in thinking and feeling like you do. My parents emigrated to Australia in the 70's (when I was a young child) and during the course of my growing up we moved back to the uK 2 or 3 times, only to come back!!! My parents however recently retired back to the UK, which has left me and my kids with a bit of a dilemma, workwise I am better off here but emotionally I feel the need to be in the Uk with my family. I don't think the decision is an easy one for anyone, but I believe that everyone has to do what is right for them, and realise that nothing in life is permanent. People change, expectations change, and ultimately we owe it to ourselvs to do what makes us happy. Never mind the naysayer's, whatever you need to do, i say do it!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunbury61 Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Ok well yeah i guess i am one of those ping pong pommes, ive been back and fourth many times, and no dought will return to the uk in the future. i posted a thread several weeks ago discussing how homesickness has reared its ugly head and pretty much only told the quick story...my life here in australia has become an on/off affair for a long time! i return for several years and only to be temp but end up staying due partners job and my family move back out here (yes its confusing and yes its something i regret) anyway im starting to babble but the responses i had were interesting...few were thinking i had depression of some sort (post natal) which by the way is fine but something i dont have, because im homesick and its just been since ive had a baby, its been almost on my mind for a very long time, its just you get on with things and then you suddlenly realise your thinking about home more than i nornally do. ive heard it all....from many ex pats for 17 years!!! something ive recently realised though is that ive constantly compared uk to australia...ie clothes, shops, food, money, weather, tv programmes, radio...oh the list goes on!!! you would think after all these years that this would stop.surely theres more to life than all of these things?? hmmm not for me it feels. i have everything here, my friends whom ive known for 2o odd years who i schooled with, my parents etc. so whats the pull to go home? my mum totally understands where im coming from as she used to feel the same. my parents would be heartbroken if we were ever to leave australia but on the other hand we cannot live our lives thru them. its a vicious cirlcle and a very complex one at that!!!! sorry to have vented off more than i intended...i so enjoy reading all aspects and views of everyones journeys, it gives me encouragment and give me hope that one day our dilema will be sorted which ever way our path decides to take us!! Clare ..........i shouldnt really be in a position to give advice as i love both countries ......but iam very much pro England ........and yes i see the good and bad . Dont throw it all away with Australia on a few memories of what you think England is like ...........its not alll castles and village greens , and midsommer murders .........it can be a hard school ............ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quoll Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 You do what you have to do and dont let anyone guilt you into doing something different. If you want to go and live in UK then do it (I am and it is brilliant for me at this time of my life and I wish I could have done it 5 years ago!). Life is all about taking steps and moving on when you feel the need, getting trapped somewhere you dont want to be is the surest road to depression. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunbury61 Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 You do what you have to do and dont let anyone guilt you into doing something different. If you want to go and live in UK then do it (I am and it is brilliant for me at this time of my life and I wish I could have done it 5 years ago!). Life is all about taking steps and moving on when you feel the need, getting trapped somewhere you dont want to be is the surest road to depression. fair point Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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