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Hey all, My husband and I have just made the decision, after six month deliberation, to move to Cairns . It's all pretty exciting. Our situation is that I'm a complete Pom but Nick, though born in Devon, emigrated to Cairns when his was 10. He moved back at 23 to marry me (very sweet, I know) and now, after seven years and a baby (Jeremy, 10 months, also very sweet), it's time to go back. Nick's a dual citizen so Jeremy can claim citizenship by decent. I just need a spousal visa which is pricey but seems straight forward. So the count down begins! Obviously lots of research needs doing and we're very aware that although Nick has lived in Cairns previously, he hasn't for 9 years now (he spent his last two years in Oz at the JCU Townville campus) and a lot can change in that time. We're in Cairns in August for my sister-in-law's wedding so will some reacquainting then. I do have a couple of burning questions though, any responses will be gratefully received. Firstly, how did you tell you friends and family you were moving? We're facing a mix of elation from those living in Oz and real sadness for those to be left behind. We haven't told any of them yet as we're going to see how we feel in August just to doubly make sure it's the right thing for us (we're sitting at 90% currently). We don't want to upset anyone/raise any hopes if it's not going to happen. Secondly, we've got about 18 months to sort through all our stuff and answer the big question, to ship or not to ship? What's the general consensus? We might buy some Aussie plugs while we're out there and have re-wiring party as a leaving thing (oh yes, we know how to have a good time). Lastly, but probably the most complex, house buying. Will we need to live in Australia for a bit first to build up a credit rating or can we just dive on in? Is there any possibility of buying before we arrive? We have my in-laws (one of which is a carpenter-builder) who can check out properties for us. Or is that just far too complicated to even consider? Great to be a part of this community! I've already picked up so many useful bits.
Hi all I have just been reading a post from yet another person quaking in their boots about the reaction from parent's to the news that their adult offspring are off to the other side of the world -er - for good. As a parent, can I make a suggestion to anyone in a similar position? TALK TO YOUR PARENTS. Parents are not all selfish monsters and most want their adult kids to have a good life. Apart from the occasional 'mummie dearest' most parents would put their kids' needs above their own when it comes to location, lifestyle etc. We just want you to be happy. Granted, I'd prefer my daughter to be happy a bit closer to home but hey, life's not perfect. I think that an early discussion about the possibility of emigrating, followed by frequent updates, is in the end much kinder than just suddenly dropping the information out of the blue. I also think that the 'trial year' approach could be helpful. We just need to get used to the idea. Nobody would say it was easy, but I for one appreciated the idea being broached gradually. Good luck all. Wishing you short lived hysterics and early visits. Plus lots of skyping. Kath