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I freely admit that I have little family ties to the UK other than having 3 sons and 6 grand-kids there...................no uncles, no aunties....no mother or father.............so........ Yes, I am far from the "norm" and tbh............this "missing family" really gives me the shlts. Family for me is "immediate family" wife and kids..............I will not, and never have, allowed my life to be swayed by anyone else other than them. I appreciate that some folk feel very strongly about the fact that their kids are missing out on grannys, Grumpas, aunties, uncles and the whole kit and caboodle that comes with "keeping in touch" Is this indicative of the fact that the parents don't provide enough? That kids really need more than their parents can give, or our perception that they need more? Provocative? It's not meant to be so. I'm just trying to gauge how/why others allow the extended family to impeach upon the immediate family. I had little family ties so I can appreciate that my "psychology" may be different than most, but my wife, who had strongly family ties, was quite prepared to put them to one side for her "immediate" family...........she missed her mum, dad, twin sisters, but pursued an avenue that would benefit her husband and children at the expense of her attachment to family and has never regretted it.. Why is it that others can't, or refuse to do this, or, at the least, realise, that they may need to do this if they want to seek a new future for their husband/wife/children. It sometimes seems to me, from the posts on here, that all the spiel about kids growing up without aunties, uncles, grandparents, really is more to do with the parents missing family, rather than the kids.............I've seen it so many times on this forum that parents bemoan the fact that their kids have no "family support" when the kids are actually less than 3 yrs old when they come here and couldn't tell an Aunty from and Aunt Sally. Summary: Is it really about the kids missing family or is it about the parents missing the support................babysitting etc..............not "family ties" just "convenience"........... Do you want a new start badly enough to appreciate that you may well have to "feel guilty" about your kids having no extended family (near). Is it really about the kids, or is it about you? I pose the question................. kev