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Right i knew this was coming but it was put on the back burner until now, any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. My daughter is 17 , (18 in January) she has been subject to a residential order almost all her life and has always lived with her paternal grandmother (long story) we get on great but she is happy and settled in a relationship so much so she is refusing point blank to have a medical even though she is not coming and knows why it is needed etc. Her answer, she has always lived with her Nan and if anything happened to her Nan she would go and live with either her boyfriend or her mother (ex-wife) and that she has no desire to live with me and my wife not now or in the future. I have asked her to have the medical to no avail but she has said she would be happy to do a stat dec confirming her stance on this. Has anyone had this situation before? Any advice or help would be appreciated as we now have a Case Officer and i dont want to mess this up having come so far. Thanks Chris :dull:

What do I do now? I have asked my boss to write me a reference so that I can register with the australian nursing board she is refusing saying that the trust policy is to give a reference when an employer asks for it. She is unhappy that I am leaving and has made things pretty difficult for me since I advised her I would be leaving. I am so fed up, if I can't complete my application what am I supposed to do. I hate the bloody NHS and all its policies. Has anyone else had the same problems and how did you get around it?:cry:

Hi I've read a number of the threads about teenagers and their foibles. We are fairly early down the road to migration, and due to age it has to be on ENS or 457. Our extended family is not very close so our move may not have a great impact on them. However it's the children who are the problem. Our 18 yr old daughter is going to uni in September and doesn't want to come. As she's effectively leaving home we don't have much issue with that, and she's even starting to try to be less dependent on us for the basics such as cooking and cleaning. Our son is 15 and although 2 years ago he was more than happy about a move, is now refusing point blank to consider it, saying we must wait until he's 18. Normally we wouldn't consider a move for him at this stage in his education, but although he is very bright and capable of excellent grades, he doesn't see the point of school, and the school has done very little to dispel this. He also doesn't want to leave his friends behind. The opportunities for migration will become less as we get older, so to wait another 3 years to meet his "demands" is unreasonable. However are they just demands based on teenage uncertainty or is it really a bad move? His nature is such that he seems to be popular in lots of things he takes part in, so I have no worries about his making friends, but since the education system in the UK seems to have failed him, is the Australian system really that much worse? There are lots of things done or not done in life that we regret, but I don't want to resent any of them. I'd appreciate any opinions. Thanks Pete