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Hi folks. A lot of talk recently of 'tension' on PIO etc, and whilst I would say that things have become a little more tense, what I find difficult to understand is the 'need' to annoy, wind up, and more to the point be bloody vindictive and cruel in posts. Lets face it, there will always be tension on any forum (everyday life) where humans interact and 'discuss' certain issues, nothing wring with that, but IMO there should ALWAYS be a line that is not crossed, and that line is simply having the ability to realise that when we say something we should if at all possible take into consideration how the other person will view our opinion. There is often some great banter about politics, accents, class, etc and for the most part these discussions remain 'civil' and the banter flows, OK, a little near the mark at times, but all the same, fairly balanced and reasoned. It is when we as posters realise that what we are about to say WILL cause upset and grief to the recipient, and there is no worse case than when the poster KNOWS full well about a certain posters personal circumstance but still in their own mind they decide that they will say whatever they want because after all, 'They are just stating a fact', bullocks, I'm sorry, but that is a step too far. There HAVE been circumstance in the past when certain posters KNOW full well about a certain situation but bugger the consequences, they post anyway. The recipient on the other end is left with very little option but to fight back, or alternatively as has happened turn away and decide not to take it any further because they do not want to discus the issue any further, because quite simply, it hurts to much to do so. We can all have a pop at someone's spelling, accent, political beliefs etc, as long as it is dome with a modicum of reasoned thought/humour and even understanding, but when certain issues are discussed in the full knowledge of being able to PUSH BUTTONS then in my opinion that is not on. I think some posters and this includes me forget what some people have posted many weeks or months ago, they could have been going through a time in their life that was/is traumatic, and the last thing they want to read/see is some numpty castigating/accusing someone in the same dilemma. So in short, (thank God for that) debate is good, but when we post in the full knowledge that hurt, upset and harm will be done in the name of 'Just stating a fact' then IMO that is NEVER to be forgiven. There was one person on here who I had built up quite a good relationship with, not friends, but all the same the information they gave me was worthwhile and great, but they decided to target someone on here who NEVER asked for that sort of abuse. And the other poster knew full well what they were doing. Friend or no friend, that was and will be forever more the end of any relationship I have with them, end of. To 'Push Buttons' is all well, and good, but to do this with the sole intention of causing an argument, hurt, grief etc, is in my opinion not on, and should not be tolerated by any of us. Cheers Tony.