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  1. Just wondered if you had wrote your Chrissy present shopping list? I must admit this year I have no idea what to buy any of them:nah:
  2. I just read a thread on those that are moving back to the UK after not liking a new life in Oz. I just wondered are there people have lived there a long time and love it and wouldn't return? There must be:wink:
  3. PS: I'm not a psychologist or anything of the sort, so please do not take the following as a professional advice. I could be totally wrong, but I feel that I should share the thoughts below. From my experience, it's how it works... /*******************************************************************************/ Many people who have decided to emigrate or have emigrated have experienced psychological blackmail from our loved ones (mainly parents!!!) in a way or another. The intention of this post is to create awareness on this very common unpleasant experience. Hopefully, it will help the victims of these experiences to understand, get rid of the guilt and move on with serenity. On the other hand, it will hopefully also help the abusers (non intentional!) to realize that their behavior is unjust. Most (I guess!) of us have a close relationship with their parents. So, it is natural that when people emigrate, it is quite painful both to the children and parents alike. As a reaction to this pain, some parents react in the wrong way. Let's take an example of what parents might say or do: 1. They'll tell you..."You are moving away from us, so don't you love me anymore?" 2. or..."I'm getting old now, what will happen when I become sick? You wont be here to help me!" 3. or..."I wish you were in my shoes and feel the pain I am feeling!" 4. or..."Rest assured that I will not come to visit you, its too far away!" 5. or..."I am going to remove your pictures from our house, it will be too painful to see them everyday" 6. or..."Its a pitty that you wont be here, your siblings will be getting all the freebies/inheritance from us" 7. or..."Heh, your children are going to grow up without grand parents!" 8. or.... and a million of these...I can keep going on all night! So, how will all these make you feel? Guilty!!! Sad!!! Miserable!!! That's the result of Psychological blackmail. For those who take advantage of this ugly tactic.... 1. Don't you think you are being an egoist and self centered? 2. If you love your child, do you think that its a good thing to make them feel guilty and miserable? 3. Don't you think that you are taking away their freedom and controlling them indirectly to satisfy your needs? 4. Wouldn't you want your children to experience (in a good way obviously, its not like they are taking drugs!) as much as they can?....that's the only way they can grow and become better people/family! For the victims 1. If you are in this situation, try not to feel guilty and bad cause now you know that you are not in the wrong! 2. It's your life, your freedom, your family, so you have every right to go elsewhere and create/experience a new adventure with your husband/wife and children. 3. If you're still feeling guilty, then it means that you have an unhealthy relationship with your parent/s. Somehow, they have a strong grip on you and are affecting you badly. Try to find out how this happened and try to clear this issue. 4. Be gentle, kind, nice, supportive with your parent/s. It's not an easy situation and it might be hard for them to understand/change. Most of the times, they never change 5. So, at the end, accept it the way it is. You've tried your best to clear the issue with them. Love them as they are, always, but move on! 5. And finally, be open and honest, if they try/continue to blackmail again be firm, tell them where you stand and that you are not ready to listen to any more blackmail crap! But as I said, be kind, nice and gentle. If the process is successful, it will change your life forever! So, good luck and take care. Cheers B!K3R
  4. Firstly, this is aimed at those who want to go back to the UK and aren't sure about what to do - not at those who want to stay in Australia and love it! With our tickets already booked to return at the end of July, we have just taken a trip back to the UK to have a look around and confirm to ourselves that it's the right thing for us to do. Ironically if we'd taken the trouble to do that before we headed to Perth, we would probably never have come in the first place! Anyway, for the benefit of those who are wondering if they are really missing England or are just a little bit homesick, I thought I'd say how we found it after 3 years away. What can I say, we LOVED it! Excitement of a holiday aside, it was such an incredible feeling of coming home it was quite overwhelming. Granted coming through Terminal 3 at Heathrow was something of a shock - given that I couldn't be sure what country we'd landed in - but once we got in the car and drove it was lovely to see English countryside again. I was sure however that we were going to die on the motorway, as the cars (not a Ute in sight) were going twice as fast as they do here in Perth! On my first trip to Tescos I could have cried. Both at the joy of having so much choice, and then at realising how affordable it was - and therefore highlighting how much we pay for so little back home. Not that life is all about shopping, but it was lovely to see good quality products and clothing at such low prices again. Salmon not costing $30 a kilo - what a joy! During our trip we covered a fair chunk of the country, and I have to say it was an absolute pleasure (moaning children in the backseats aside) to be able to sit there and look out of the window. After driving up and down the barren freeways in Perth, where there's nothing to look at but fast food restaurants, car dealerships and scrub land, it was a welcome relief - and everything we'd remembered it to be. The towns, buildings, country pubs, animals, fields - all of it was lovely to see. And that was in the freezing cold weather and rain! The people seemed so much friendlier than I remember. Kids weren't roaming the streets with knives and we weren't pick pocketed the moment we stepped on the London underground. Shop assistants actually talked instead of grunting at us and service was great wherever we went. New shops had sprung up in places where I'd expected to see rows of them closed down. Even the much talked about problem of obesity didn't seem as glaringly obvious over there as it is here in Australia. And I'm happy to admit that all of these observations came as something as a shock to me. I was the first to run the UK down when we left it, vowing never to return to it's shores again! Of course England still has it's problems - the immigration issues, greedy and stupid politicians, unemployment, crime etc - but every country is the same and somethings will never change. I have to say though, that after reading the English newspapers over here and starting to worry that there really was nothing worth going back for, I was relieved to see that most of what they write is nothing more than the media and their sensationalist headlines. Day-to-day life there, certainly for everyone I know, still goes on regardless of the problems with the country. It is still a great place to live, raise children and enjoy a nice lifestyle. So safe in the knowledge that we are most definitely doing the right thing (for us, can't speak for everyone), we begrudgingly got on the plane and flew back to Perth. Luckily we sold our house here the day we flew to England last year, so now it's all about the countdown to going back and starting again, finding a new part of the country to live in and finally getting my daughter's education back on track. All of this doesn't mean we hate Australia - my husband, son and dog are Aussie for a start! It's just not the right place for us. We miss the history, ideas, outlooks, humour and opportunities that Europe can provide. So regardless of whether you've been here for 5 years or 5 months, if you're not sure you want to stay and are thinking of moving back, then I suggest you either book yourself a cheap seat on Air Asia and take a trip back to help you decide, or go with your gut instinct - it's normally right. Life's way to short to sit and moan about a place if it's not right for you. Far better to swallow the cost, pack up your crap and start all over again. At least you'll never have to wonder if the grass was greener. You'll know it never is, except if it's down to that wretched bindi weed!!! Rachel :biggrin: P.S. And the downside to going back? The long and painful flight that will be something like THIS!
  5. Hello, I am not going to write for ages but i will try to give you a rough idea of our trip. We booked our flight through first choice in June and got flights for 2 adults and 2 kids aged 6 and 2. We flew from Glasgow to heathrow then Heathrow to Abi Dhabi and on to Sydney. The flight cost altogether £2338.We flew with ETIHAD AIRWAYS. We were delighted with that price and as we had never been to Australia before thought it was the best way to do it. So packed our bags and off we set.................................................................... Our first flight was at 5.40pm or there abouts and so we headed to Heathrow, 1 hr 15 mins later no prob. Waited 2 hrs 30mins in london for our next flight to Abi Dhabi which just to let you know you do not need a visa to enter this country if you have a british passport. 8 hrs of tossing around a plane with 2 young kids and a husband who is 6 ft 3 was alot. The entertainment system is fab but the earphones were to heave for my youngest so they were falling off all the time, food was edible and air hosts were really lovelly so we arrived in abi dhabi . Kids were knackered and we had checked our buggy in from glasgow direct to sydney so you can imagine. We only had sterling and au dollars as currency but the guy on the sandwhich stall in departure would not except Scottish money or the dollars so after a few huffs and puffs my husband had to change over dollars into there currency( CANT REMEMBER THE NAME). 3 HRS passed and we were boarding for Sydney, i could have cried thinking we had another 14 hrs sitting on our bums with over tired kids but to be fair i felt this journey was alot better as we managed a few naps and the kids had a sleep to. prob the excitment of nearly arriving in lovely sunny oz had our minds occupied. we arrived in sydney at 7.20am on thurs (REALLY WED NIGHT IN UK) and it was Freezing. It was freak weather for that time of year and had been 25 degrees the previous week. it was now 10 degrees i was tired and cold and hungry, great start lol. We stayed with husbands uncle and aunt and 2 kids and the sleeping arrangments were not brill, we had a single bed each in kids room and our 2 kids slept on a mattress on the floor and there 2 kids slept on a mattress on there room floor if that all makes sense.If we had known then we would have just booked a b&b but it was nice of them to have us anyhow. Sydney never brightened up untill the monday and by then we had our hire car and were driving north to Brissie. YEEEE HAAAAA! We hired a toyota corrola for $50 a day with sat nav, brill. Petrol is so cheap compaired to uk, it was like $1.20litre for unleaded so $40 filled the engine.We drove for 6 hours from Sydney north and stopped at Port Maquarie. The sun was shinning and i felt like my holiday had started, we found a b&b with a pool for $119 dollars and took the kids to the beach it was gorgeous a definate stop over if you are thinking of driving. one nights lovely sleep in a DOUBLE bed and off we went fresh as a daisy. 5 hours and one stop at mcdonalds later we arrive at our holiday let in Helensvale 45 south of Centre of Brisbane. We had booked our villa through gold coast Holiday letting.co.au from the uk. It was the most beautiful house i had ever seen. it had 4 massive bedrooms, a gorgeous lounge a huge kitchen and ensuite, double garage with electic door,a beautiful in ground pool and a walk in wardrobe.................it was a dream home! Helensvale was lovely and i loved the distance to brisbane, the house prices are affordable and the schools seem nice. We spent a couple of days on Surfers paradise and went through there on a few evenings, i have never felt safer out with my kids at night anywhere in the world the ambience was lovely and the resteraunts are so busy, there is no signs of reccesion anywhere. We visited white water park and it was fab. We visited SEA WORLD and it was also fab. There are kids playgrounds everwhere and the man made beach in Brissie was beautiful. I loved Brisbane and the surrounding areas and it has made our mind up to give the move to oz a definate chance. My Husband is a plumber and so should be able to find work in oz and ell i am a hairdresser so i also should find somewhere to work. My kids absaloutly loved Brisbane and when i asked them what they missed about uk they said biscuits. hahaha aussie kids dont eat alot of biscuits. we know family will miss us and we will get lonely but there are other people in the same situation who 'need a friend' so to speak, so our plan is to go out next October once we have saved up our pennies and rent our house out in uk. We are determined to give it a proper go so 2-3 years should decide if we want to stay in oz or go home and right now i am desperate to get back and try this life as since we have come back to sunny Glasgow it has not stopped raining and the temp is hitting -1 some days already. My youngest is choked with the cold and we are all mopping about like something has been stolen off us like eh SUNSHINE. well get on with it and save thats thought. When we go back on our one way journey we will be looking to stop for a few of days in dubai or somewhere to split up our journey as it is longggggggggggg,(35 hours from leaving our house to arriving in sydney to be precise). Was it worth it? yes i think so, If it means a new life a better upbringing for my kids with an outdoor living and a bit of sun then i would do it a million times again. If you want to know anything else please feel free to ask. Laura kevin and kids:jiggy:
  6. Hi all, a long time ago on this site, i read about an insurance you can take out so that if a member of your family becomes unwell or worse, they will pay for you to fly home did i read this right, does anyone know anything about this Cheers
  7. Guest

    Absolutely loved it!!!

    Well, we've been, and arrived back on Saturday to grubby, freezing Heathrow. I so did not want to leave Australia. We had an AMAZING time, and loved it. The kids thought it was fab being able to go out to play all the time, going to the beach, going for walks, wearing shorts all day long. I thought - well, I guess i feel it is where I want to be. Everyone was really friendly, was not as expensive as everyone said, in fact most of the time it was quite the opposite!!, and even Andrew said yes. We have decided to research more about the costs of schools, medicare general living etc, and will probably look at southern NSW, and maybe Tassie, It was really hot at times, which was fine for me, and Kieran and even Andrew did not complain, but katie (being a redhead) found it a little off putting at times. So, it looks like we may give it a shot. One of the things that I found incredible was how lush and green most of the countryside was, how clean everything was. and yes there was graffiti, and there was crime, as you get everywhere, but not on the scale that we get here, and I felt safe. I don't feel safe here, and I have lived here all my life. We had a blast and have started saving for the next trip!!!!!
  8. is anyone leaving a son/daughter or step son/daughter behind and how do you feel... my oh and me are leaving her son from first marriage and she is finding it a bit hard at the mo. how are you coping with this. it would be nice to share thoughts on this
  9. kellyjamie

    tell your loved ones you love them

    (both men & women, sons & daughters - need to read this) BEING A MOTHER... After 17 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.' * * * The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been alone for 20 years, but the demands of my work and my two boys had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. * * * That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. * * * 'What's wrong, aren't you well,' she asked? * * * My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. * * * 'I thought it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,' I responded. 'Just the two of us.' She thought about it for a moment, and then said, 'I would like that very much.' * * * That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last Birthday on November 19th. * * * She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an Angel's. 'I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said, as she got into that new white van. 'They can't wait to hear about our date'. * * * We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,' she said. 'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,' I responded. * * * During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation- -nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. * * * As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.' I agreed. * * * 'How was your dinner date ?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered. * * * A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. * * * Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.' * * * At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I LOVE YOU' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till 'some other time.' * * * Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby.... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, 'normal' is history. * * * Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct .. somebody never took a three-year-old shopping. * * * Somebody said being a mother is boring .... somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit. Somebody said if you're a'good' mother, your child will 'turn out good'.... somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee. * * * Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother.... somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math. * * * Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the first .... somebody doesn't have two children. * * * Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery.... somebody never watched her 'baby' get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten ... or on a plane headed for military 'boot camp.' * * * Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married....somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings. * * * Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home.... somebody never had grandchildren. * * * Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her.... somebody isn't a mother. Pass this along to all the 'mothers' in your life and to everyone who ever had a mother. This isn't just about being a mother; it's about appreciating the people in your life while you have them....no matter who that person is.
  10. My family is thinking of moving to Aus next year. Though my mum and dad are divorced. So i would be moving with my mum, sister and her child. If we do move, im worried about how much i'll miss my dad as im so close to him. How has anyone else coped with leaving loved ones/parents/family? Any help or advice is much appreciated, Jake.
  11. Guest

    Things you loved in the UK.

    For those missing home. The United Kingdom countryside is gorgeous. Across the Vale of Evesham in the spring, the beauty of the Yorkshire Moors, the Lake District, the Cornish coast, the Severn Valley in autumn, we don’t have towering mountains, glaciers, or rift valleys. The English countryside is varied, but moderate and dependable. Just like English people are. Even the animals that populate our countryside are the same. You don’t get malaria from our bugs. We have no poisonous spiders, and no large animals which can eat you. Our single venomous snake - the Adder - is only as nasty as a wasp sting (and I’ve never seen one, ever Pubs - not expesive trendy bars. They don’t need to be all thatched roof or horsebrasses. They don’t need to be picturesque, but do need to be authentic rather than brewery-mandated “English Pub Experience”. They need a sense of community, a character behind the bar, some grumpy regular drinkers, real ale not nats piss and probably a resident dog.:notworthy: Real British food can’t be beaten, . Take great cuts of meat, fresh vegetables like parsnips, sprouts, roast them all and lightly season, serve with a rich gravy and a pint of proper beer and you’ve got the best Sunday family meal in the world. I’m always amazedwhen I read that in other, allegedly civilised countries, health care is based on ability to pay. God knows, our NHS isn’t perfect, but get this: if you fall sick in the UK you will get treatment of the highest possible quality that the NHS can provide, free at the point of delivery, regardless of whether you’re a millionaire or a vagrant. Now that’s a civilised idea.:spinny: