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Lurkio posted a topic in Aussie ChatSo, I've read a similar thread starter to this several times. Like it says on the tin, my 16 yr old son refuses to come and says he has arranged to live with his 15 year old girlfriend and her family we leave. My god I am in pieces. He left school this year and has spent more time with them than with us since then. He is at college and has no job or means of income. To be honest, he never has been that keen, but we got his visa anyway and crossed our fingers. Now our dream is in ruins because there is no way on earth I can even consider leaving my child here on his own. We have family here, but we aren't close emotionally (albeit geographically quite close). Today I had the conversation that I have been putting off for a while now. I've been trying to avoid backing him into a corner where he would actually say "NO" and then feel that he can't back down. I wanted to leave him room to manouvre and change his mind without having to admit to it. He sat there trying to be all hard and said "well you are the ones who are f..ing off over the over side of the world and leaving me on my own" he sounded so lost and young. I told him that I had never thought it would come to this. I always thought he would come. It never occurred to me that he wouldn't. We have another son of 14 who is keen and had hoped to get over before January so he could start his final years of school over in WA. Well that's not going to happen is it? So three of us do want to go and the other one is stamping his feet. Ok, why should he have to do something he doesn't want to? But why the hell should we have to give up our hopes? Dammit, he hasn't even given it a chance. We wanted to do this for their flippin benefit as well as ours. Why wont he try it for a few months and see if he might actually like it? So now we've sort of decided that if we do get a buyer we will sell our house and downsize to a smaller one, maybe a fixer upper and free off much of our capital, so that when we are in a position to leave we wont have to wait for a buyer again. When second son finishes his high school education in two years we will look at it again and see what position number one Son is in. By then he will be nearly 19. Still not old enough to be left alone but maybe not so much of a child and he may have grown a little by then and have come to the same conclusions that we have about the prospects in England versus Aus. If not - well, he will be an adult and will have to make his own decision and still have another couple of years before the five are up.
kellyjamie posted a topic in Aussie ChatEvening everyone, We just heard some very sad news, my husband drives a taxi at the weekends and last nite he was workin. He said this morning when i asked how last nie was that for whatever reason there was an unusual amount of violence, alot of police and people being arrested all over the place. Half an hour ago his boss phoned to ask if he dropped off a certain fare (which he didnt) and explained because the police had been at his door as the passenger had been been dropped off and then they dont know what happened but he was severly beaten up and died in hospital this afternoon, he was only a young lad. This is getting to close to my own front door now and yes im aware it happens all over but with out doubt this loutish anti social violent society is becoming normal in britain, due in part to our population bursting at the seams!! The thought of ever letting my son out on the streets fills me with fear, i just want out of here. this has really upset us and shocked us, as i say its too close this was only a 5 min drive away. my thoughts are with that boys family and i hope they find the evil b"*&ards that are guilty. sometimes the world just doesnt make sense:sad: