Mdees1

wow so much hate for melbourne.....what do people dislike about melbourne. I now many will say the weather!

Congratulations! You will be busier now so will help with the mood you were having. Its been stifling hot but helps remind us why Australia sometimes!

my bad i meant the one in sydney....

thats what i am really hoping for... I think I would want to be in Yorkshire because otherwise I don't see the point as we wont be "close" to her parents. But I just have not explored jobs and the likes, more just thinking about it. the UK village/small towns appealed to me more than I thought, granted we visited friends and family so if I moved back I think it would have to be near friends and family. Surrey Hills is lovely part of the world and perhaps creating a village like feel wherever I settle in Melbourne is the best option. Keeping my thoughts from straying until the ideas "emerge" will be the challenge. I just get a feeling of guilt come over me when I think about moving away from family but my parents are about 10 years younger than hers so I can ping pong I guess.....good to sound these thoughts out!

Very interesting discussions, i ended up reading all 17 pages! I am in a similar "ping pong" mindset. Did 2.5 years in UK starting in 2018, had a child there with my english partner but moved back to Melbourne in 2021. Had our second and after a year went to visit partners family in UK. Now that I have come back, I keep thinking about if we made the right move. My partner is not 100% happy but is trying to get on with it, I have family here and am close but I can see myself maybe being in the UK. I grew up in Aus but always felt a loneliness/isolation that I actually didnt feel when I was in London. The only thing is I know we wouldnt move back to London (partners family is in Yorkshire but we are not wedded to Yorkshire). So I just dont know what life outside London could be like.

Yes could move there easily however she is substantially better off here for work. We feel COVID has really impacted our one year back so just hoping for clarity on the other side. She did say she feels relief after seeing her family so hopefully I feel calmer too. Even myself I feel at times I want to be in UK !

Another in a similar position. Moved to UK in 2018 and had our first their ...2.5 years later moved back to Aus for family reasons and my partner (she's the pom) had some work things to clear up. Had our second here too. She was very miserable here after our second because she couldn't see her family but we felt we would be better of here in Aus where I am close to family. Just went back to visit UK last month and both of us are torn and unsure if we made the right decision. I really like the UK but we wouldn't live in London (where we lived ) so unsure if it would work. Also feel like we just need some time to establish our family somewhere but I have second thoughts every day.