Thinker 78- ( and everyone) you have read my thoughts and think exactly the same things I do about Aus.. lots of us seem to feel and experience the same.
I guess the difference for us is we’d be returning to 2 ageing mums who require care and support- and we would have less support in the UK than we have here currently. We have no cousins, only my sister who would be tremendous with the kids if we lived close enough.
The kids have friends here who are like cousins - so leaving them would be upsetting for them, I tell myself kids make friends easy ( even my big girl with Autism to some extent) and the UK is much friendlier and fun.. god I hear you about not knowing your neighbours., it’s so sad .. and the workplace- just no fun, no banter, no bonding, and so many petty rules, protocols and bureaucracy., drives me nuts!
Im very aware of the UK issues and not under any romantic illusions.. that’s the worry- it’s grim in places, hard, busy, cold, and who knows with Brexit.. but the impression I get with my tribe back home is they are just getting on with life as usual- they’re not unhappy, stressed, or any different to when we left., it’s us who are different and constantly compare the 2 countries.
If id known emigrating would be like this - if someone had said you’ll be stuck in limbo, constantly homesick, distraught saying goodbye- year in- year out, you’ve never make the same kind of friends, you’ll always feel like something is missing, you’ll struggle with work and never laugh at work anymore.. ( I can go on and on) but mostly you’ll lose your sense of belonging, your very core will become unearthed, and your continuing indecisiveness will disrupt your every day quality of life.
Happy days!!