Violetcrumble

This is exactly my situation, born in 1982 and its my mum who is British. I'm currently on my second Australian passport with the right of abode in it, had to do the application all over again as its not transferable. It cost about £800 to become a citizen. In all honesty I don't think he meant what he said re giving me permission. I think he just said it in the heat of the moment when he got quite uptight about the whole why he doesn't like Australia.

I can't afford to become a citizen and the only thing I get is the option to have a British passport. I already work, pay tax and vote. Amazingly my hubby has agreed that he'd sign whatever he had too allowing me to take our children to Australia and him stay here. That did shock me and I'm not sure he'd actually go through with it. Those were his words, I've never asked he just blurted it out. My hubby isn't close to his parents or any family. He doesn't see aunts/uncles, cousins etc. I am the complete opposite. I'm kinda seeing that I will have to find my own way to cope. I can't see me ever taking my children away, knowing they will hardly ever see daddy.

Thank you for all the replies. I am from Adelaide originally and moved to Perth as a teenager so we have visited both those parts of Australia. He preferred Adelaide to Perth which I found interesting. I only ever moved to the UK for him. We met online wayyyyy before it was the in thing and I came on holiday with my mum (she's British) and spent time travelling around and obviously met him in person. As my mum is British if any spark etc existed it was me who had to come to the UK so I did when I was 21. I came out to the UK on the right of abode and I'm still here on that. Yes looking back we should of discussed all this years ago, but at such a young age it never ever crossed my mind. I have no immediate family here what so ever. My grandparents went to Australia with the 4 children (1 of them obviously my mum) in the 60s. My hubby is an only child and my inlaws sadly I'm not close too. Yes I made the decision all those years ago to come here and I know people will take the stance of 'get on and deal with it' but I won't lie in that my heart breaks that I left everything behind for my hubby and the flat refusal from him to not even try comes across as though I'm not worth it. I'm a bit more lets take a risk and try. I have no shame in admitting I'm wrong and if living in Australia turned out to not be what we wanted etc then I'd come back to the UK. Its the never knowing that gets to me. How my grandparents did it, especially by ship I will never know. Its only now do I realise what a bold and brave decision they made for a country they never even visited first.

Got a big big issue going on at the moment. I'm Australian and have lived in the UK for nearly 16 years, I moved here for a man who I've been married to for 7 years and we have 2 children together. I don't dislike living in the UK, sure it has things I don't like but on the whole I enjoy it. However it's not home and I never thought I'd live here forever. My hubby revealed last week that he doesn't ever want to live in Australia, we've been on holiday twice, once at Christmas so he has experienced summer. My urge to go home has become stronger and stronger since having children. My young sister also has children now and I'd love mine and hers to grow up together (my children will only ever have my sisters 2 children as cousins). My whole family are in Australia and I miss them terribly. I know it's not easy moving, especially with children and it's not something I'd want to do in like a year but to know he never wants to move is heartbreaking. I've always wanted to give it a go and if it didn't work out then that's fine, we tried but to never try will always have me wondering, what if. I'm trying to find ways to accept that I made the decision to move here for him and now I have to accept I will never return home to live. How do people do that?