Well, this post was created to gain some advice from people who have been in a similar situation as ours. There is only so much information that can be provided on here without writing our whole life story out.
Please don't be patronising as if to say we have not considered how we would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and she was being the one taken away to another country, it would be naive to think her father would be jumping with excitement.
The maintenance may be a totally separate issue, but I am providing a small amount of insight into what my daughter's father actually does for her himself. I think as a parent with their childs best interests at heart, they would want the best possibility at a better life for their child, & if the other parent can offer that then why deny your child that chance.
He has told me to leave her with him, and go to Australia without her, so if he can have her full time, then why does he not have her more often now. This Is a man who lived at his mums house on the same street as her school, and in 3 years has only taken and picked her up a handful of times, regardless of me asking him to share so of the responsibility more often, and who also has dropped her off and picked her up late. If I can manage every day to get her to school on time and pick her up so should he.
That as well as previous comments I have outlined, such as lack of hygiene (me having to send her with a toothbrush as she never had one) also repeatedly coming back with headlice, not having any clothes there only the ones I have provided and that have not been returned, and no bed to sleep in as she told me she slept on a beanbag. So do you think this is acceptable and me being a responsible parent leaving her with her father full time?
Maybe we worded the work life balance wrong. What we meant was.. that our children love being outdoors, and the weather in Australia offers us more opportunity to be outdoors with our children, rather than constantly being cooped up in play houses for the 8 months it rains in the UK. We know of a couple and a few people who have moved to Oz and have said it was the best choice they ever made, and made us aware that the first 12 months wouldn't be easy going, but thereafter would definitely be worth it.
Whilst taking her away from her father isn't an easy decision we take lightly, it is one we are willing to consider if we believe It will be a better outcome for our children in the long run. & our son is also not going to be seeing his family, so we also have to consider how he would be impacted too. It is a big decision for everyone, and I don't think asking me the question "do you think taking her away from one of her parents is right?" Is the real question here. The question is, do you think taking my child to another country will be more beneficial for her than her staying in the UK, and the answer is yes, I really do.