Johnny

From what I have seen with folk who have taken counselling and mediation etc, unless both parties really want it to work, it usually has little success and often just prolongs the inevitable. If you are happy and the kids are happy, then that's all you need, so stay here Once you set foot on aussie soil again, you cant leave with them apparently - so be strong and stick to your guns. Do what your gut feeling tells you to do. I know what you mean about feeling complete again after being home....that "me" feeling. We too felt it the minute our plane landed at Heathrow. Groundhog day in the suburbs of Oz again.....I would not wish that on anyone. Stay in UK if you love it !! Its great here !!

Superb sounds like well planned exit. Hope it all goes well for you all. It will feel great to be home again !

I think its a case of "the truth hurts". When you get a supposedly "settled, happy and loving it" pom lashing out angrily, then you have really touched a nerve or "hit a sore spot" with them. Yet ask yourself why are they obsessively lurking around a forum for those who are moving back or have moved back sharing common feelings and past/present experiences. Its like they are on some sort of mission Rest assured, they too think a lot about moving back home, and in many cases would really love to but cant for various reasons (Pride, Money Spouse etc) , so for some the only way to deal with it is to lash out in a rage, or play the cool dude and tell you how good it has been for them and why they are settled and happy but doing it on a "Moving Back to the UK" forum. For the latter group, you are seen as easy meat to make them feel good, and this forum offers plenty of easy targets for them hence the reason they hang out here all the time. Bottom line - if you don't like the place and if you have the resources to get out, then do it, sooner rather than later.

e That's so funny !!! Perth is nowhere near Singapore .....Singapore is 5 hours flight away !!!! , When the tedium of suburbia and the whole retirement vibe of Perth gets too much, catch a plane to Singapore to get a taste of civilisation again and some great local food. Then come back to the sleepy retirement town and save up for the next trip to Singapore.

Come home, Britain despite its problems, is still the best place to live in the world. It's never too late. Ignore the haters, this is a forum for Moving Back To UK. Many are "stuck" down in Australia and have no chance of ever getting out. You can still do it, so I say if you can afford to then go for it. You are always welcome back "home".

And after all, this is a forum for people moving back to UK. So we should give support and fly the flag to those wanting to return. If we want to share what we didn't like about Australia, there should be no problem either, a great place for those to vent off a little or a lot of steam, not a big deal.

That's just plain nasty, to be honest. We are just sharing experiences on a Moving Back to UK Forum. If you are happy in Australia, I am curious as to why you comment on this forum and keep responding like a cracked record ...about why "some of us made it work and we really love it here. This is Moving Back to UK. People will say why they didn't like it and why they want to go home....or is that not allowed ?? I solved a problem which a child could have solved - simple logic, wasn't hard but 3 geniuses with egos the size of Texas could not solve it and could not handle the shame of being shown up over s simple problem. For the record, I am neither an intellectual or a genius...never have been, never will be. Grew up in the country, still live in the country and still very much a bumpkin.

I worked in 15 countries with absolutely no problems. In my early days starting in my first Australian job, I solved a problem in less than 30 minutes which the 3 other Australian engineers at my company had been working on finding a solution to for over 2 months with no success. The solution was so simple it was staring them right smack in the face. Thought I had done a great job but I paid a very high price for it and it made me very unpopular, hated by everyone from management right down to the receptionist. I had to deal with TPS (tall poppy syndrome) for a long time until I moved on to work in another equally unsatisfying backward thinking company with even more over inflated fragile egotistical losers. Anyone with vision, creativity, drive & ambition should keep well clear. I will say it again, if you have a good stable career/job/income, a home, good friends, a loving family around you in UK - that as good as it ever gets in life. DO NOT throw all of that away to go to that place. The electrician I knew who could only get work packing carrots before he threw the towel in and came home would say the same thing to you also.

My mate was an electrician too in Oz and they would not accept his tickets, he had to go through college again to learn how to be an electrician of a lower standard to get his licence. I remember my own observations in my house and others I visited - 220v socket outlets sitting above wash hand basins, circuit breakers OUTSIDE the house in a box with no IP rating, only 3 or 4 MCB/circuits for the whole house , no RCD's or RCBO's to be seen anywhere, and of course the plugs are unfused and due to the lack of sockets in most homes people plug in lots of multi-way extension cables and load up the power circuits to the point the breakers keeps tripping.... No matter how much anyone tries to defend the place, it has a long way to go to catch up with UK standards. It has a long way to go to catch up with the UK in general come to think of it.

My version (don't take seriously) I dislike a sunburnt country, a land of nothing but sand lots of jerry built houses in suburbs that were bland I hated her far apart boozers, and shark infested sea you've entered early retirement when you're only 33 !! johngdownuder

Very accurate summary there - we saw massive changes in Perth from when we arrived. As time went by we saw the writing on the wall and knew deep down that the bubble would burst one day. Not really a great place to be putting your money nowadays.

Yes, welcome back home to the land of great pubs and great food !

I agree 100%. You did the right thing getting out of Rockingham. I had a British friend down that way who eventually sold up and went back to UK. Perth itself can feel quite isolated from civilisation, but Rockingham is seriously isolated. Its a stupidly long commute up to Perth everyday too which I think you would soon get pretty sick of. There were a couple of suburbs in Rockingham you would not want to go anywhere near back in the day. A huge concrete sprawl way out in the middle of nowhere with nothing to do. The houses are super cheap and hard to sell for very good reason. Not as bad as Baldives I suppose.

I am beginning to think that must be why many prefer it way out there - coming out of a small house in a grotty overcrowded dump then suddenly being able to rent or own a detached house on a sprawling suburb would create the illusion of a new "elevated" sort of status.

Long way to go and pretty major upheaval just for a "big detached house". Why not just get a big detached house here in UK ?