Hi it is a quite a while since i was on this site and yours was the first thing I read. My husband and myself are Grandparents to two girls age 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 . The" little family" moved to Oz just over a year ago. NOW I want you to know I love my "little family" and save every penny can to come over to oz to see them. I spoke to my daughter in law before they moved and explained , now she became our new family member when she married my son ,she has her own very precious "family" and now that has been added to by having our grand children the" little family" is her own , and we as grandparents are so privileged to be part of the" little family" and are so grateful to them for letting us share in all their lives. I believe it would be unforgivable and very arrogant for my husband and I to Expect or demand anything from the "little family" because they are their own new unit and we have to put in as gently as we can our love and support for them all to have a wonderful life. That is not to say I break my heart as it is so far away and I am not in the best of health to travel..but you know what I CHOOSE to get on with it , be happy , positive and look at each day as a plus and Skype as a bonus. So I know I am blethering on but I feel so much for you you Choose what you think to be best for your wee family and good for you. stick together as a unit , you in-laws Chose what they wanted to do in their life so let them get on with it . I have told my daughter-in-law to adopt a Granny in oz and the children will have even more joy in their lives. well better stop now so be supportive of each other don't allow negativity to rock your together decisions and good luck in oz xoxoxo