Obviously I understand your view point but when I phoned up and asked a migration agent from brisbane during 1st stage of pregnancy what to do, they said that the immigration department doesnt care if you have a pregnant partner and would only let me in once child was born..plus we hadnt been together long enough for the defacto relationship....missing my daughter's birth was a risk I wasnt willing to take. And believe me I have many regrets, and understand your high horse position, but unless you ever lived in that fear you wouldnt understand