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Posts posted by Marisawright

  1. I would never have thought of Padstow as being an unsafe place to live. I've never felt intimidated in any way when I've been there, and I'm not aware of any known 'trouble-spots'. I shall have to ask my brother and his wife as they live in the area. I don't think of Gymea as being unsafe either, but it could have a worse reputation!?


    I think the point is that they were looking at Gymea and Kirrawee as safer areas, and I'd say they're right. My MIL lived in Gymea and it's a lovely village-y suburb with some nice cafes/restaurants. Because of that, the centre is pretty busy with pedestrians in the evenings so I always felt safe - unlike Padstow, where the centre can get pretty deserted at night so I'd be more anxious about walking around there in the dark (as you would any deserted town centre).

  2. Glad you found one that you love.


    I've got used to Aussie fish and chips now. its a lot different to UK and think I prefer my chips dry not soggy now.



    Maybe I have too. I was so looking forward to having a fish supper at my local chippie on my last visit home. It was really disappointing - soggy chips, greasyy batter. I couldn't decide whether the chip shop had gone downhill or it was just my taste that had changed.

  3. All seems to be okay with this area, we looked at the Shire also but wanted to be north of the river as most of my work will be M5/M4 area. Have you moved to Sydney yet or are you due out? We are planning on August/September and house has now been sold so all systems go. Will be looking for schooling for 7 and 14 yr old girls.


    Padstow is an OK suburb, my ex used to live there. However it doesn't have much going for it! Picnic Point is pretty but as you can see on the map, it's a fair drive to anywhere and public transport isn't good.


    We lived in Oatley/Mortdale and getting to the M5 took only a few minutes. Lovely area with good schools, good transport, easy to get to the beach too.

  4. Well my husband arrived home yesterday and not once has he brought up the conversation of moving back to the UK. Really, does he think that acting like everything is fine i will just give in as usual. It makes me feel like he doesn't value my feelings at all. It just feels like I am having the same discussion over again and for the first time :(


    Amazing isn't it. But (if you're anything like me) he knows that tactic has worked in the past, for all kinds of things. So even though this is a much bigger issue, he's assuming it will work again.


    I remember this happening with my oh once. Finally we had a screaming match about it (or rather, I did the screaming). I demanded to know how he could ignore my feelings. His response was, "well, it's such a stupid thing to want so you're obviously totally deluded about it - I was sure you'd wake up to yourself if I gave you long enough."



  5. far better than some of the restaurants in oz where you pay a mortgage for a meal with drinks, why is good australian red wine cheaper here?


    I'm getting the impression restaurants must be horrendously expensive in Perth? We're in Sydney. If my oh and I spend more than $80 (including wine) on a nice meal in a restaurant, we think we've been dreadfully extravagant.

  6. i don't know what some ppl expect for 5 or 6 quid?



    I think you're missing the point. Some people (me, for instance) have mentioned the cost of eating out in the UK is high compared to Australia. The stock answer is to quote Weatherspoons' prices. The thing is, some people want more than just pub grub - they want a nice dining experience.


    I live in Sydney and I have several pubs and clubs in my area. All of them have a $10 lunch menu (and if you've got a Seniors card,you get a free glass of beer or wine thrown in), and a $10 or $15 steak & chips/ribs/chicken schnitzel two or three nights a week. But usually I like to go out somewhere a bit posher, and if I do, I have a choice of Thai, Italian, Greek, or Indian restaurants. The most expensive main dish on the menu would be $25 and a glass of wine or beer is usually $6 to $8. I've never seen anyone able to reassure me I'm going to have that in the UK.


    The link to the cost of living index was really useful, actually. You can sort each of the rows separately. if you do that, you find Australia is much more expensive than the UK for most things, except the "restaurant index" where they are practically neck and neck.



    That probably explains some of the posts about dollars = pounds, which I was also querying. When you're a tourist, most of your money is going on meals.

  7. Not at all, I have just returned from the UK where I had a lovely pint and mixed grill at weatherspoons for 6 pounds 10 p. Cant get a pint for that here... maybe a pot :)


    That sounds good for a meal, but I can't think of anywhere it would cost me that much for just a beer - methinks you're exaggerating a wee bit?

  8. Hi,


    I've been in Sydney for 2 months now and mostly loving it... apart from 1 thing! I am prone to small amounts of eczema/sensitive skin and since I moved here it's been worse. I am pretty sure I've narrowed it down to the washing powder. Even when using the hypoallergenic versions my face/eyes still react. I never had this problem with washing powder in the UK, so thinking of trying to import/buy some British washing powder. Does anyone have any advice on where I might be able to get hold if this, that's not too expensive?

    Has anyone suffered from the same thing and has any other advice on treating?



    If you've tried the hypoallergenic variety and it's still itching then it's probably not the washing powder. It could be that your washing machine isn't rinsing out properly - try running an extra rinse or two. Also, it's been shown that you get just as clean a wash with about half the recommended dose.


    However, I'm thinking it's more likely the heat, or it may be pollens that are settling on the clothes while they're drying. Have you tried drying the clothes indoors? Alternatively, it could be dust mites or mould getting on the clothes while they're in the wardrobe/drawer.


    It could even be sensitivity to the sun, or just sensitivity to the dust and pollen in the atmosphere. Allergies are very, very common in Australia.

  9. I'm pretty sure that there's a poverty scale thing where your income has to be above a certain amount. The State Pension is topped up by the Pension Credit benefit so you might eligible for that? It always amazes me when I see programmes like "Saints and Scroungers" and people get away with massive long term fraud of the system when most people I know aren't eligible for any form of benefits.


    Well I'm sure if I was on the poverty line I'd get some kind of help but I'd rather not put myself in that position!

  10. Good advice marisawright..should prob try stay for citizenship and would make things easier if I did need to go back and forward.


    I'd strongly recommend it. It gives you a reason to stay in Oz without feeling you've abandoned them. As others have pointed out, if you're just a PR then you're only allowed to leave the country for a limited time - stay away too long and you lose PR status forever. I know a couple of people who really wanted to come back to Oz but can't, for that reason.

  11. When I was young(er), I remember thinking retirement was a long way off and I'd worry about it when I got there. Thank goodness for private pensions as I am not going to be able to squeeze 35 years in at all - I may have managed 25 years, depending on which age I decided to retire! Hopefully, I won't need it anyway.


    If you come back to the UK, don't forget that you may be eligible for universal credit (replacing pension credit I think?).


    Remember it's not all or nothing - if you manage 20 years, you'll get 20/35ths. And it has nothing to do with when YOU decide to retire, it's whatever the legal retirement age is at the time.


    The Aussie pension is higher than the UK pension too.


    I have only 12 years' work history in the UK so I'd only get about fifty quid a week.

  12. According to Centrelink you have to have been resident for ten years, although Age Pension is paid on a sliding scale I believe.




    We're talking about two different rules here. The ten year rule determines whether you are eligible for the pension at all. The thirty five year rule determines how much of that pension you can claim, if you're living overseas.


    If you're living in Australia and you've lived in Australia for ten years, you're eligible for the full pension.


    If you're an Australian citizen but you're living overseas, you can only get the full pension if you lived in Australia for a total of 35 years between the ages of 16 and retirement age. If you don't meet that criteria, then you get pro rata (e.g. if you spent 25 years here then you get 25/35ths).


    I think it was originally introduced because too many people were coming to Australia and staying for ten years simply to qualify for the pension. However 35 years seems a bit harsh to me.


    Of course it's also worth remembering that the Australian pension is means-tested, so it will be further reduced depending on how many assets/what income you have.

  13. I seem to recall the need to be in OZ two years prior to claiming OAP. Rather shocked the other day to learn that the time of being in Australia appears to have been lifted from twenty five years to thirty five years to get the complete pension.

    No way I can qualify if that is fact now. As the Australia/UK agreement was terminated back in 01 will that impact on getting an OZ pension?


    It's only one year, and you can spend that year in Oz before OR after you claim (i.e. you can come back to Oz, start getting the pension the day you arrive but you must then stay for a year).


    Yes, the time to to qualify has been lifted from 25 years to 35 - however you don't miss out altogether, it's just that you get pro rata (so if you've been here 25 years you get 25/35ths).


    There was another thread claiming that hadn't been passed into law yet, and it certainly still says 25 years on some government sites. But then I came across someone who's back in the UK collecting a pro rata pension, and it seemed to be based on 35 years.


    If the Australia/UK agreement was still in place then there would be no need for that one year residency - you'd be able to claim the pension by just filling in a form in the UK. That's how it works in several European countries which still have an agreement.

  14. Hello my wife and I are planning to fly to Aus on holiday beg. mid. October. From your expierences, which airlines can u recommend resp. those to be avoided. Thanks in advance.


    Here's another vote for Emirates. I also had a lovely flight with Thai airlines. One thing to think about - stopovers. While your instinct might be to do it direct to get it over with, it's not a good idea. I'm ready to kill somebody by the fourteen hour mark, and being able to get out of that plane mid-way makes all the difference to how human I feel at the end of the trip! Now, we always plan our trip so we get several hours' stopover somewhere, and if we can't get a deal from the airline then we'll book the airport hotel (most of them offer bookings by the hour, and offer a wakeup call to get you back to your plane on time).

  15. Probably not but its a ice breaker to make new friends.no wonder people on here are always looking for meet ups to speak to someone on the same wave length.look its already hard enough having a deep northern accent and trying to explain yourself twice.so after 7yrs I have come too the conclusion we don't fit in so we will eff off.


    I'm surprised it's taken you so long to come to that conclusion! However, don't assume all Australians are the same as the ones where you live (where do you live BTW?). I've lived in, or spent a fair bit of time in, Sydney, Melbourne, Canberra and Adelaide and I've been able to have civilised conversations with Aussies in all those cities.

  16. Myself and my husband came to aus in july 2013 on a 457..with intention of staying a year and then returning to uk.

    However we have traveled around aus quite a bit, had a few jobs, got PR now and fallen in love with the Brisbane area. We would like to stay here.

    The worry is that we would build a life for ourselves here and then my mum or dad would become ill or one would die and I would want to be there to care for them...then what would I do? My life and possibly family/work would be here..I couldnt just leave.


    Why not cross that bridge if and when it happens? You can't foretell the future. As others say, it's always possible (God forbid) that they'll get run over by a bus two days after you get home. Or they may still be hale and hearty in their 90's and won't want you fussing over them.


    Stay in Australia, get your citizenship as soon as you're able so that if you need to go home for a few years sometime in the future, you can - but you'll know you can always come back.

  17. Hi all. does anyone know a website builder that is able to do a website for me.Good quality, and more professional than some iv seen locally. I'm based in Tapping. All help appreciated. regards J:wink:


    Are you looking for someone local or are you prepared to work with someone remotely? I do websites - basic cost is between $250 to $500, depends what you need. Here's a couple of mine:





    I'm in Sydney


    The summer months here in QLD can be a killer; it's just too hot, and the humidity is tiring. The pools are great but not so much on my hair and skin. We spend most of our time during the summer indoors with the air-con on or at Westfield because the air -con is free. ($1000 a 1/4 electricity bill does that to you)



    Yes, I read all the posts from would-be migrants saying they're moving for "life in the sun", and they don't realise how quickly they'll get tired of it! Of course, some people will revel in the heat, but many people will find themselves spending far more time indoors than they ever expected.


    It's one thing to have a lovely holiday in a hot climate, because you're lazing around most of the time. It's quite another to have to commute on the train, or lug shopping bags, or even go for a walk, when the temperature is over 30 degrees and the humidity is at 60% or 70% or (in Qld) even more.


    It's not just the humidity: because of the tilt of the earth, the sun in Oz is much fiercer than it is in the UK/Europe, so you burn faster (and that's also the reason skin cancer is such a huge risk here). I wonder if parents realize they'll be taking their kids to the beach kitted out in long-sleeved rash suits, slathered in SPF50?

  19. No she doesn't have any children left in the UK, we are her last which makes it all the worse. I am torn emotionally, I have always been pretty empathetic and genuinely understand things from everyones point of view. But now I feel backed into a corner. I can't believe I am being so heartless and selfish to be leaving family when so much is going on. But my choices are to either stay and be the good daughter that everyones come to know and expect of me, and just accept that I'll never be able to live in Australia cos once this visas gone theres no chance of getting another one. Or I go, at the risk of breaking the family apart to persue this dream of living in the sun.


    I do hope the sun is not the only drawcard, or you're going to regret the move! You got your visa in 2009 - have you researched what job prospects, salaries, cost of living etc are like now?

  20. Anyone like me in a long term relationship but don't feel the need to get married?


    I've been in both situations. I got married the first time because I was only nineteen. Me and my oh didn't feel the need to marry but we knew our parents would be devastated if we didn't.


    My second long relationship, I didn't see the need to marry - and lucky we didn't, because it didn't last and it was much easier to split up without the need for divorce courts! Luckily we were on good speaking terms and were able to arrange everything ourselves. We did have to go through the courts to settle the property but that was fairly painless.


    Third time around (at 50), I surprised myself by really wanting to get married to my oh. Must be getting more sentimental in my old age or something! Having a ceremony to celebrate your love is a lovely thing.


    In Australia there's one factor to consider: if a couple has lived together for more than two years and they split up, the law says all the assets must be split 50/50, regardless of what each person brought to the relationship. Whereas in divorce, you can present evidence of what you brought into the relationship and have the assets split accordingly. So if you're getting together with someone who's much poorer than you, and you want to safeguard your wealth, make sure you get married don't just live together!!

  21. So after turning to my friend google on why I feel like I may not be fitting in here in Australia (been here nearly 3 years)

    I was quite astounded to come across so many article and posts about Australians being rude, arrogant, racists, uncultured and believing they have the best country in the world. Uneducated about the rest of the world and simply being nasty people!...

    These came from people all over the world who have once tried and tested Australia and some desperate to leave.




    If I made a generalization about British people, what would you say? That's it's unreasonable to lump the whole population together, because there are big differences between one part of the country and another. The same is true of Australia. The differences don't seem so obvious because there are fewer differences in accent and culture, but they are definitely there. I recognise the people you're describing and they do exist, mainly in poorer neighbourhoods where people are less educated overall. And you'll always find outdated attitudes and prejudice out in the country, anywhere in the world.


    You have to remember that when someone moves to another country and it doesn't work out, they're angry and disappointed - and some can become bitter about failing in their big adventure (just look at some of these forums). Saying they missed home sounds inadequate, they feel the need to justify their return and they must have someone to blame. So they exaggerate, and they're so bitter they don't even know they're doing it.