The plan was to leave and return home after 5yrs, I made it very clear I did not want our children raised here indefinitely. Now 5yrs are up and he won't leave. I have spent said time at home raising my kids and supporting my partner in his career. If a court case ensues which it most definitely likely he can fund the best of lawyers quite easily, whereas I who have put my career on hold for the family will not. It all smacks of being very unfair and I do not like the feeling of being trapped here for 14yrs until my youngest turns 18. Had I known this before I left home I would not have come, it's just not worth it.