Just an update in case anyone else interested, I managed to find a company that is set up by nurses for nurses and complies with all the NMC criteria and will do reflections and confirmations for nurses so they can revalidate, by the time I found this I had already tracked down an old colleague to help me but it may be useful to other people, costs £60 - ACI training and consultancy Ltd, I haven’t used them but found them through emailing a few services when I was looking for help.