deeno88

where in cronulla are you ?

Wow this is me too ... Been here 5 weeks, spent 4 on magnetic island then landed in Sydney on Saturday. my partner has been here a year so he gets it all ... I don't i had a good job and life in the uk, everything costs so much here weve had to start from scratch. Pay $5k school fees, $5k dentist bond for a house so much older than mine at home and pay 5 x more in rent than my mortgage at home luckily I have an 18m career break but I'm just not getting it ... Am I missing something ?? (Apart from all my friends and family !!) my my daughter hasn't started school yet either and when I get a job I'll have to work full time while at home I worked part time and had family help and support. don't have that here god I'm convincing my self to leave here ?

I personally dont think this is correct (could be wrong) But i thought the employer paid the fee's otherwise it could be classed as your paying them some extra cash to allow them to give you a visa. Bit of a back hand shall we say !! My partner didnt pay the fee's for his visa.

Hi Janine No you dont need his permission .... when a child is born before 2003 to unwed family the father has no parental rights. this means in order for him to gain these rights and stop you he would have to take you to court any apply for them, obviously giving valid reasons why after 7 years he needs/wants them You need to sign the forms including all parties who have parental rights aka you and leave the other side blank I went through this in October last year and immigration said at 1st that i needed a court order confirming sole custody. I challenged this !! It was then referred to Canberra head office and i was told , and i quote "Oh your right, how funny, no one in the office knew that" Lovely !! So no you dont need his permission to take them, i would imagine they will ask but you could put a covering letter stating that only you have parental rights to your children and under english law are allowed to remove them from the country. The reason they like to make it easy for them selves is as part of the hauge convention if they let you in and he HAS got parental rights they would be classed as harbouring a fugitive who kidnapped their children. My visa was stopped unless i was prepared to go to court but after a few legal googling and a few sleepless nights i was proved right. Hope this helps

aw thank you .., just got a reply on the other forum from a post in April saying I should leave my partner as he must not love me as he's going alone and not to try oz i must say I prefer this forum to the other one with the negative comments that come with it

It is so scary tryin to make a decision on a place I've never been to, I think I'll go at Xmas and. decide from there, I have alot of other complications in my life that add to the decision but that's by. the by and yes your right there is a woman on another forum that went to oz, it didn't work out and now she seems to spend her time saying how bad oz is and how we won't manage on the salary my partner has been offered, I can't be added to his 457 visa as I'm in the uk, schools are a fortune blah blah kind of hard went you get that negativity my partner wants us to go as he feels we would have a better life I suppose I can only try it hey

maryrose I think people are looking for advice rather than what could be taken as a dig or sarcasm to our posts. sorry if I've ready them wrong but there doesn't seem to be any advice in your answers

thank you nicky i just don't like the unknown , im a planner ha ha so all this is a little tough for me ill try and visit and take it from there

ha ha don't really have thR choice

I don't assume they speak for everyone it's just trying to do some research when making a very hard decision

yes that does help catch thank you xx also does anyone know if I can be easily added to my partners 457 visa when I'm in the uk ? im also on the expat forum and keep getting replys from a woman who used to live in oz , is now back in the uk and looks like she just spends her time replying to people about oz, and to be fair alot of thR doom and gloom has come from there

my partner keeps going mad cause I'm reading stuff and always have a negative answer for him ive just read about how expensive it is, schools are years behind the uk, people won't like you cause your from the uk (please don't quote me, it's only what I read) I've seen forums in there where people can't wait to go home. my partners sister and mum live there and his mum paid $400 for a bed sheet , I mean really !! problem is I've never been before so he may as well ask me to live on the moon he goes a week on Monday and wants me to go out at Xmas to see what I think , big decision to leave everyone and everything behind hard decision

Hi there, my partner just got a job in sydney on a 457 visa, he wants me to go at xmas to see what i think, then id have to look at renting my house out leaving my job. convincing my daughter and i know nothing about sydney. Im just like you in the fact that all ive read seems negative and doom and gloom. its like should you risk everything and turn your life upside down or stay where you are safe and stable ? tough decision