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  1. juliaoz01

    Move home? :-0

    Finally Where did you end up settling? I completely agree with you on Perth. It is just different in so many ways. I just love Sydney, I wpujd move there tomorrow if I thought we could ever make it work financially. I sometimes wonder if it is just Perth that has really made me become so disillusioned with Australia, not australia if you get me? Perhaps it is because I do know for sure what we’d be getting back in the UK, and that uncertainty about the rest of Australia (because of perth) might sway me more toward a uk move. If that makes sense?! Wages put my partner off the east a bit in that he can earn a lot more here. But that’s not a deal breaker. The hardest thing is finding somewhere we can settle and finally call home for the rest of our days
  2. juliaoz01

    Move home? :-0

    Thank you to everyone for all of your comments. I’m glad that people haven’t been extremely judgemental, as I have found that on some forums (ahem Facebook!), you make one comment someone disagrees with and you’re instantly the devil incarnate. So thank you all for your helpful and constructive comments and suggestions. my favourite has been finding WA people ‘scruffier and weirder’ than the other states but not really much better! I think that has kind of sealed the deal! There is no right or wrong answer here really, where is best for someone and their family may be completely wrong for another. I just find the isolation and loneliness soul destroying, and that there is so little to do. My partner enjoys things like fishing and said the other day he hopes I find something I like as much as that here. That really got to me because there isn’t. I had a good circle of friends and stuff I enjoyed back in England that just won’t transition over here. I’m not very sporty, I like swimming but that’s about it. I just don’t think I like most of all the idea of my daughters in particular growing up here. Some of the men are ok don’t get me wrong but their attitudes toward women really do leave a lot to be desired. I think the best thing for us is to just see how things progress over the next year or so. I’ll be busy with twins and it will give us time to save up should we decide to go back. I don’t really relish the idea of being here for as long as that, but it is what it is. I think a trip home sometime in the next 6 months will pretty much be a deal breaker for us as to what we prefer and what’s right for us as a family. Yes we have a nice house here but at the end of the day it’s just bricks and mortar. What makes you happy and work as a family within that house is far more important 🥰
  3. juliaoz01

    Move home? :-0

    Oh my you pretty much summed up exactly how I feel with regards to kids and showing them all the stuff we had as kids. I’m exactly the same, I didn’t really appreciate all the things we have culturally to show our kids until I come here. Granted there are things, it’s not a complete culture less void! For example the gruffalos child was just on at the theatre here. But in general, things like railway museums and steam railways (son is train mad), museums, being able to go to the woods even though it’s raining....you do miss it. I do find exactly like you say - I hang out (it did until it required a crane to get me there!), at playgrounds hoping to connect with someone English! Invariably they will be the only ones who will speak anyway. Aside from the beach and playgrounds there isn’t a great deal to do with him. And now it’s snake season I’m paranoid as hell! There was a gigantic spider in his bedroom the other week and that absolutely freaked us out even though heath thought it was brilliant! We are busy having our garden done and I’m hoping once we have a pool in it might make us appreciate being here a bit more. I had considered Melbourne, it is expensive but not Sydney expensive. The main niggle I have with moving is that we do have family in Perth as my mams cousin lives ten minutes away. I worry that if we have struggled to adjust with support and having them here, how would we manage completely alone? In general we get on very well with them. They are at just complete polar opposites in their opinions on it here. He hates it, been here 35 years and aside from the weather he can’t stand it. He hates going home because he settles straight back in to life in the uk. However he makes very little effort with people here. Whether that is the result of 35 years of misery I don’t know! But he doesn’t socialise at all but will as soon as he is back in England. She loves it in general. After a week back in the uk she can’t wait to get back. Granted she misses her kids and grandkids a lot. However, she still works and likes her job (he hated his and was there 30 years!), and has a good social life. She accepts it isn’t perfect but thinks they’ve all had a better life than if they stayed in England. They left in their mid twenties however, I am 40 in January so maybe it is an age thing now. I agree I have found healthcare here on the whole much better, even the public system which does put the nhs to shame. Prescriptions are the biggest thing but the standard of healthcare on the whole is much better and appointments are great as you don’t wait months and months to be seen! Youre spot on in that we are told it’s better here and we’d be mad to go back. That’s what puts me off too - how many people will say are you crazy for coming back when most of them have never been here. Living somewhere and going on holiday are two entirely different things. I love turkey but I’d never move there! I’d like to see wanted down under do a follow up programme about people who return back to the uk after emigrating, that’d be very interesting
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    Move home? :-0

    Thank you - two 🥴🥴 Exciting times but nerve wracking too! I know what you mean. I worry about moving back and people having moved on, even though I’m told by ex pats here nobody moves on back home! I just find it hard to meet people here. I’ve gone to school things with my son and I get the odd chat going then it just fizzles. I don’t think I’m particularly boring! I am pretty friendly and easy going and will talk to pretty much anyone. Even in our street you find people just don’t want to talk. If I worked it might be easier but with having twins that’s a fair way off. Yes, you’re right about backpacking. We felt so free and had so much fun in Sydney. I’ve been back 5 times since and seen a lot of Australia. Once we had our son we just wanted to come back to give him a better shot at life really. There’s so many people in the UK. However I feel guilty bringing him away from his family to a place that I don’t think will benefit him as much as I had thought in the long run. Ok he will enjoy the outdoors a lot more, but aside from that I don’t know what else there is here for him
  5. juliaoz01

    Move home? :-0

    Do you still live in Perth? They are a strange breed here, not all of them I might add! I have met some nice people but I do find them guarded. For example I met a lovely lady at my sons school and used to talk to her every week when we collected our kids. Queue to last week which was the end of term and she just disappeared without a word! No I hope things go well with the babies, have a nice Christmas...just a bit odd. Yes my mam arrives day after Boxing Day, be interesting to see what her take is on things. My dad was due to come too but my sister is poorly and has nobody to look after her so he has to stay. I think that has made things worse as I’d love them both to be here. Yes the same issues will always be there if we went home. The last five years have been hard work as we have both had health problems. I think we became so fixated on coming out here and when I had a miscarriage at the start of the year it was the final straw for us. We just wanted a new start. We both miss friends and family but also our social life in terms of eating out, being able to have a few drinks etc and not feeling as isolated. The main issue with the uk was always the weather and we were fed up of low wages and rising costs. However, the grass really isn’t greener here. I don’t feel like you have as much freedom here despite the better weather. We brought our dogs here and I hate seeing their sad little faces because it’s so hard to take them out in the country (they’re border collies). Ok it’s hard being heavily pregnant and I’m willing to see if things improve but when we are both unhappy it’s hard to keep the other one up at times. Like someone said earlier if we feel like this in the honeymoon period.....it’s so dispiriting and I do feel like the stereotypical whinging Pom!
  6. juliaoz01

    Move home? :-0

    Thank you - twins as well! 🥴 have you made the move back to the uk or are you in Australia? How did things change for you once you had children? Do you mean for the better or worse? I do think that if you’re not in to sport especially over here you are on the backfoot already. I don’t know, my son might be but I do know already how incredibly bright he is and he will go far academically. I thought schooling would be better here but what he’s expected to know at his age here he learned 2 years ago! If it’s like that and he’s 4 what will it be like when he’s 16?! We own our home here in Perth but we couldn’t buy as house on the Gold Coast or Sydney similar to what we have here. Plus wages are generally lower over there for welders which is why we chose Perth. I love the east coast don’t get me wrong, Sydney is probably one of my favourite places in the world and if we could afford to buy a house there we’d make it work somehow. Yeah our family are pretty good back home. Mine are my parents only grandkids I think you’re right, we will have the twins keeping us very busy soon and I think before we know it we will have been here a year. We are looking to go back to visit next Christmas and I think that will sway us. Whether we are seeing it through rose coloured glasses still, and the best bits we remember and the rest we have blocked out!
  7. juliaoz01

    Move home? :-0

    Hi Nicole Thanks for your reply. With regards to social issues, I find that there are many across the spectrum! Ranging from what I consider worrying social issues such as the problems they have with crystal meth here, to the social issues they have in just general lack of manners and general hospitality. I’ve never found Australians as being unfriendly however, but in Perth they are very secular and we both feel very much like outsiders. It’s like if you’re not from here you are missing some big piece of the puzzle. I find some things very disturbing in that I have been to places where couples are physically fighting and people just look away, or they are off their heads on drugs. Of course I have witnessed things like that in the uk, more to do with being drunk but in broad daylight when I have our 4 year old son with me it’s quite confronting. I’m from the north east where people will talk to anyone in general and you can chat away to people like you’ve known them all your life, so I just find it very much like it’s closed ranks here. Sometimes it’s nice don’t get me wrong! And it’s certainly not everyone. I don’t like the men here at all on the whole. A lot of them they have no manners and treat women like crap. They’ll happily just watch me struggle to pick up things or to get out of the car when I’m 8 months pregnant. In fact they seem to find it amusing. Your husband is bang on about them being snippy. They have a huge chip on their shoulder, I have no idea why but they do. Perhaps it’s down to the fact they feel inferior to the rest of Australia, but if they adjusted their attitudes maybe they would be respected a bit more. The shops here close early and restaurants you’re lucky if they’re open past 8.30. I know there are more options in the city but you’d expect there to be really! It is weird, that’s definitely what the W stands for in WA! We have permanent residency and have spent a lot of time on the east coast. We’d love to move to Sydney but i just don’t know how we could realistically make it work from a financial point of view. The houses there are just so expensive. We want to live somewhere where you have a life - restaurants, shopping, museums and that’s a bit more cultured as well as beaches, parks etc. Sydney would be perfect but I don’t know if we could do it financially. I’ve been to Brisbane and liked that too, so that’s an option rather than just going. I just worry that if we moved over and still didn’t settle, that’s more money gone. Probably a lot less than moving home and wishing we’d stayed in Australia though! Are you in the uk or Australia? I feel such a failure for thinking like this and so soon, like everything we have dreamed of is just crashing down around us
  8. juliaoz01

    Move home? :-0

    So we moved to Perth from the north east England back in April. We had lived in Sydney in 2004 for a year in our twenties as backpackers and just loved it. Since then we have been back about 6 times. We love the east coast but have found housing very expensive and work (welding anyway) not particularly well paid. So, we settled on Perth as housing is cheaper, work is better paid and there’s more opportunities and the climate is better. However, we both are very miserable here. We always wanted to move here for a ‘better’ quality of life but that’s just not happening. My partner has managed to get work ok but the days are very long and we hardly see him. When we do he’s knackered. He is getting more and more depressed as he doesn’t get to spend the time he wants with our four year old son. I am pregnant with twins and due pretty much any time now. It has been really hard to meet people, and the acquaintances we have formed all tend to be from the UK or New Zealand. Australians either can’t understand us which is fair enough, or just don’t get us. Especially at work my partner has found it hard just getting along with people which is very unusual. We also have 3 dogs and aside from the beach there’s just nowhere to take them. They have to either be on a lead or arent allowed. The beaches are nice but finding one without huge rips and that are dangerous is hard work. I feel like such a whinger but worst of all I feel like a fraud. We spent the last 14 years desperate to get back here, but I think we aren’t the people we were then and Australia isn’t the country to fulfill the dreams we had in our twenties. But we left England because we weren’t happy and thought life here would be that much better. But the isolation, the work and the amount of rules and regulations they have here for everything is just making things so much harder. Aside from the weather, I don’t know if I want our children growing up here as there are so many social issues. I know 9 months isn’t a long time but we have that feeling of dread in the pit of our stomach all the time and it’s just eating away at us. Is this normal and/or has anyone else moved out here just to feel like they’ve made a big mistake?
  9. juliaoz01

    Newcastle upon Tyne

    I’m from the north east and know Newcastle very well. It all depends on what you’re after and what your budget is too! The likes of Jesmond and gosforth are nice and very close to the city, but it’s expensive and things like parking are a nightmare. Both have great pubs and restaurants and shops though. If you’re after the coast, tynemouth and Whitley bay are nice but are quite expensive too. A little bit further up you’ve got Seaton delaval and Blyth where it’s a bit cheaper but still right on beach. I’d stay clear of the west end of Newcastle. There’s lots of country villages and towns around Newcastle like throckley, wylam and bigger places like Hexham and Morpeth are nice too. Newcastle’s weather might be a bit damp and chilly but it’s a fantastic city. So many great shops, bars, restaurants as well as theatres and museums. You’re never bored! It has a great buzz and the Christmas markets around greys monument are so christmassy you soon forget how cold it is! Can you tell I miss it?! ?
  10. juliaoz01

    190 visa and pregnancy - advice needed urgently!

    Thanks - and would the 101 visa take a while to be processed? I'd much rather have the baby over there, makes things a lot easier!
  11. Hi Really after some advice as my head is absolutely done in at the moment! My partner, son and I have a 190 visa for NSW and we were due to move out there at some point this year. We are moving to Ballina near Byron Bay, and building a house there which will be ready around September. We have been toying with going earlier as there is a large road project up there at the moment, but we have been unable to really get a definitive answer from the recruiter. My partner is a welder and they need them on the project, and he has the AQF qualification as well as all his codes and experience here. The site reopens after Xmas break this week, so hope to hear back from them soon, but it is like bashing my head of a brick wall trying to chase them up. Anyway, if it came off we would go over as it is very good money, the only issue being we'd need to rent somewhere and have 3 dogs. My partner is really against renting, to the point it just really frustrates me! If it didnt come off, he would rather stay here and go over when our house is built which really baffles me as I can't wait to get out there. However, to add more problems, I have just found out I am very unexpectedly pregnant. The baby will be due in September, which means we either go before and have it there, or go after (not my choice!). As I understand it, the baby wouldn't be able to go on our 190 Visa and would need a child visa? That's after the birth certificate and passport is issued? Has anyone been in a similar situation? I saw it can take up to 9 months and is almost $3,000!?! It is stressing me out, I was already stressed but this is just too much! I know I should be really excited but I just feel really....stressed :-(
  12. juliaoz01

    General Accountant - ANZCO 2211

    I was invited to apply for a 190 visa for NSW as an accountant, in June. I've just submitted our visa application. I was invited to do an EOI within a few days of registering on skill select. I have 65 points
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    Daft question regarding buying a house

    Thank you Keith, very much appreciated advice wise and also for being the only person for establishing that there is a hell of a lot more to NSW than Sydney! I did say NSW, never mentioned Sydney and I have never purchased a house in Australia hence the need for advice. We will be going on holiday once the visa is through and touring NSW before we make a final decision. It's more likely quality of life will influence our decision and we don't want to live in a big city. So, thanks Keith for the advice and I also wish you well. I'll just be an occasional browser to PIO from now on.
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    Daft question regarding buying a house

    You know, I just come on this forum for advice and a bit of chat with people who have been through migration, that's all. I'm a novice in buying a house, and whilst I appreciate feedback, I don't like being patronised. Yeah obviously I kind of knew we'd need jobs, but didn't know if there was any provision for migrants given the intake Australia has each year. And I never mentioned a $1000000 home! I'd like to think that $200000 in a place outside of Sydney would give us a 1/4 toward a home. I'm not getting ahead of myself either!!!! Visa application in and just looking at what life over there will entail if all goes as planned. P.S Sarcasm DOES go down well in Australia (me being a former resident), however patronising the crap out of someone doesn't. Ever. Anywhere. So cheers guys, an uplifting and wholly exhilarating chat to be had there. Positive vibes etc to you all!
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    Daft question regarding buying a house

    Gee, thanks dad!
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