It's pretty hard. We had a tough time with our baby in Oz. Really I thought I was destined to an unhappy life even before that, our relationship was failing and flawed in many many ways. I was so unhappy there but he was content. We were absolutely on the road to separation. I was planning to stay in Oz though with my baby, separately from him, as I knew I wouldn't have the heart to take his child away from him, which is why I was destined to a life I wasn't entirely happy with. Somewhere along the line he realised it was me or Australia and he chose me, and to come home with me. It took a long time for things to be good, and quite a long time for me to forgive him for allowing me to be so miserable for the years in OZ(before anyone jumps in I know it was myself allowing me to be unhappy but I was there because of him and it's not entirely rational but it's how I process it). Now we are together with another baby and we are finally fine. Lots of times along the way I felt this was such a pointless battle, why are we trying to salvage this? We are so different. lots of times I thought I can't be bothered, life has been hard enough for long enough it would just be easier to be on my own(with the baby). However, again things have gotten better. We recently got some couple counselling and that has saved us, we didn't even have to go too many times. Having been (kind of) where you are, and felt the loneliness and pain and heartache and the struggle with a new baby and little support (we had none), and then to go through the pnd and finally come out the other side, you just have to do whatever is best for you and your baby at the time. Everything always has a way of working out, so love to you and your family.